Dad 'choosing' to pronounce DD's name differently

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This is the first post I've written. Apologises for bad spelling... I am writing in anger.

So my DD is 3 months old and I given her an usual name, which I have accepted people will/do pronounce it wrong because they don't know how to say it, its easy Once you know though. My Ddad seems to struggle with it, except today I was visiting with my DC and my Ddad said her name wrong (Again!) so my Dsis corrected him (again) to which my DDad response was "Well it shouldn't be pronounced like that it should be pronounced the way I said it, I am saying it this way"

It then got heated because I told him you can't do that it will confuse her as it doesn't sound anything like her name. He said shes too little to notice. I said he needs to call her by her name that we have given her end of!!
Im fuming because he blatantly told me hes choosing to pronounce it differently, I know this won't be the end of it. I am hurt by this. I know he doesn't like it because it's not a "solid english" name (hmmm my mom is german so hes being a dick), but I wish he would respect our choice.

I am worried about what DP will say when Ddad says her name over Christmas at family gatherings. Think its going to kick off, as this won't be the first time recently where DP has disagreed with him.

AIBU to be angry about this? Wwyd?

Start calling him prick. When he questions it just say I'm pronouncing your name the way I like it. Suits you doesn't it. Prick.

I think Anais is a pretty name, but honestly, it is extremely aggravating to spend a lifetime having to tell people how to pronounce and spell your name. I seriously doubt she will end up being called Anais by many people, anyway - Annie is more likely. Her grandad could at least make an effort, though, even if nobody else does.

My mum did this. I called her up and told her that although her pronunciation was valid, it wasn't the way we had chosen to pronounce DDS name and therefore it wasn't her name. Once called out on it she changed and started pronouncing it properly. Not sure what I would have done if she had carried on. Probably kept repeating it wasn't her name and brought dd up to understand her dgm was a crank!

Anais is a gorgeous name. I pronounce it An eye eese now but only because I've been told it's the correct way. I used to think it was anay.

And the kids will be more used to it because of anais from gumball as mentioned above. It's on cartoon network. She's a pink rabbit with a blue cat and a goldfish for brothers

Oh no I've been pronouncing Isla as eye-lag.

Tbf I'm crap at guessing pronoun customs until someone points it out.

An-eye-is Nin is my only reference point. I love that name. Struggling with your pronounciation OP, but still, your dad should toe the line if that's how you want to pronounce it. I anticipate you will have trouble once she starts school etc.

Your dad will come round, unless he has a deep seated reason for his contraryness

its a trema in french, rather than an umlaut i believe. but i'm ready to be corrected!

my dd2 has a very unusual welsh name, the number of misspellings and mispronunciations i have saddled that child with is hilarious. Its a good job she's feisty and not at all scared to correct people really!

Those saying "Definitely not Ah-nay"....the adverts for the perfume , back in the day used to say "Ah-nay,Ah-nay". Therefore, those of us around then will remember and say it thus. Having said that, I prefer Ah-nye-eece .

Nestlé used to be pronounced "Nessle " on the Milky Bar adverts, until suddenly and weirdly, some years later, the started saying " Ness-lay". There are other examples ( which escape me , just now).

You are right, Great. I called it an umlaut upthread and then had to google it because I didn't think it was the right term.

I knew it had 'the dots' somewhere in Noel 😂😂

You can hear it pronounced here: www.pronouncenames.com/pronounce/anais

Your dad is being a dick. Can you just avoid him until he stops being a dick?

My DD has an unusual but very easy to pronounce name. Only six letters long and said as it is written.
However about 50% of people pronounce the th as a hard t. Why?! For all these people saying 'give them an easier name', sometimes it's as easy as it comes and still gets said wrong. People always add letters to my very common name too. Your dad is a dufus, maybe you should call him dord for a time.

I'd say an-eye-eese, too. Your pronunciation comes out like I'm saying 'Anna S.' when I try it.

Regardless, I've met plenty of children whose names are very creatively spelled, have non-intuitive or non-standard pronunciations, or both. I'm likely to get them horribly wrong on the first try, but continuing to do so because you don't like the name is rude, so your dad is BU.

YANBU it's fucking rude. My niece has a unique name. My sister (not babys mam but other Aunty) doesn't approve and calls her Susan

It's doing my head in. I'd of lamped her by now if I was my SIL.

If it helps OP I have a (non-Anglophone) name which my Mum and Dad say differently to each other (cultural / accent issues and a long-held debate over which way sounds 'naicer'). I'm used to it being mispronounced, misspelled, misheard and also assumed to belong to a bloke

Once I was old enough to I said my name how I wanted to say it (in an English accent basically). It really doesn't bother me in the least how people say it as long as I know they're referring to me. On the other hand it still drives my Mum made to hear it pronounced in a way she doesn't deem 'correct'.

It's not even a hard to pronounce word. It's just technically not a name.

*mad

Ah-nah-ees in French or Ah-nah-iss in German - the umlaut over the "i" means you pronounce the extra syllable. Your dad is putting in a syllable too many, OP!

Heard Noel Gallagher mention his daughter on the radio and he said Ah-nah-is, so he pronounces it correctly.

It's a lovely name, and easily pronounceable by most of the world correctly (as you do). The English are just shockingly bad at pronouncing names outside their comfort zone though, even when repeatedly told (bitter experience of having my name mangled by everyone in the UK).

The funny thing is that English names are virtually unpronounceable by most of the rest of the world without mangling - so any of these 'solid English' name people will find they have the 'awkward' name if they ever move abroad...

And yes, sorry, it's not called an umlaut in French but I forget what it is called.

I'm pretty sure it's "Ah-nah-EES" in both France and Spain. Ah yes, here we go: Anaïs.

It's up to you, of course, but personally I went out of my way to choose names that were easily pronounced on sight by an English speakers, while at the same time reflection my wife's non-English heritage....

Ledehe

Im gonna look for it now, didnt know there was a cartoon with her name

Gispydanger
Brilliant

My head hurts!

Am I the only one trying to say the different versions but coming out with 'a naice' (ham) and (may)onnaise?!