Dad 'choosing' to pronounce DD's name differently

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This is the first post I've written. Apologises for bad spelling... I am writing in anger.

So my DD is 3 months old and I given her an usual name, which I have accepted people will/do pronounce it wrong because they don't know how to say it, its easy Once you know though. My Ddad seems to struggle with it, except today I was visiting with my DC and my Ddad said her name wrong (Again!) so my Dsis corrected him (again) to which my DDad response was "Well it shouldn't be pronounced like that it should be pronounced the way I said it, I am saying it this way"

It then got heated because I told him you can't do that it will confuse her as it doesn't sound anything like her name. He said shes too little to notice. I said he needs to call her by her name that we have given her end of!!
Im fuming because he blatantly told me hes choosing to pronounce it differently, I know this won't be the end of it. I am hurt by this. I know he doesn't like it because it's not a "solid english" name (hmmm my mom is german so hes being a dick), but I wish he would respect our choice.

I am worried about what DP will say when Ddad says her name over Christmas at family gatherings. Think its going to kick off, as this won't be the first time recently where DP has disagreed with him.

AIBU to be angry about this? Wwyd?

I've heard of a Niamh pronounced Nee-um, Renee pronounce Reeny, Irene pronounced I-reen etc. Misguided parents or what when they are such delightful names.
If you give a child a name that is from a language that is not English, it runs the risk of being mispronounced. If you choose an unusual spelling of a popular name or unusual pronunciation of a name, then don't be surprised if people get it wrong.

She can pronounce it however she likes, its her choice. But its not the standard/accepted pronunciation.

OP: 'thank you for the link yes the first one on the list is how we say it'

The link OP meant was from this post:

'Basically like the French on here:
forvo.com/word/anaïs/'

so yes she is saying it the French way, she just didn't write it down like that.

Rosalie

The first link on that list was actually Catalan. Still correct, but not exactly like the French pronunciation...

I can't get that link to work.

But yes why pronounce a French word in a Spanish way if you're English

I knew someone at work called anais and she said it an-eye-ees. Never seemed odd to me as I also thought the perfume was pronounced the same?! It was on the adverts that used to come on TV!
Regardless of that. Your dad needs to respect your name choice. If not then I'd be keen to visit him less! He will probably get over it tho if you can hide how much it annoys you! Xx

I'm guessing OP would be fine if DDad agreed to say either An-ah-ees or An-ah-ess. She objects to An - na - nay- us though.

does it matter whether OP pronounces it the "correct/usual" way, when no-one she knows has any idea how to pronounce it anyway?

What the parents say, goes>

Irene pronounced I-reen

Isn't that the correct pronunciation? Eye-reen?

He should respect you and the name you have given her. It's out of order to intentionally call her something else just to be petty. I'm not sure what I would do to be honest. Maybe cut back on your contact with him and if he asks why just say it's causing bad feelings that he insists on calling your daughter by the wrong name. The choice is yours though, good luck x

Pluto, I would pronounce Irene as Eye-ree-nee, with the accent on the second syllable.

I-reeny but the I-reen pronunciation became popular and accepted. It's a greek name originally, so like Phoebe, Penelope, Hermione... you say the last e.

My dd's second name is Irene- pronounced Eye-Rene-ee after her great grandmother. I wouldn't get in a strop if anyone pronounced it Eye-Reen, though. Which is one of the reasons it's not her first name, even though I like it a lot.

I've never heard it pronounced with three syllables.

Pluto - did you never watch the original Forsyte Saga?

And there's I-reen (stress on first syllable) and I-reen (stress on second) and I-reen (equal stress). And I have heard all of these, as well as Irene.

*sorry - as well as I-reeny

And there's Ir-ren.

I've got it!

I know why your dad is pronouncing it wrong. He is not only being stubborn, but he's saying a boy's name too.

Just reading post to DH and he said I bet he's thinking of the biblical name: ANANIAS

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ananiasoff_Damascus

So, you can show him that, and explain it's a completely different name.

Sorry if it's already been said... so many responses I had to skim read.

TheSlaughter Never heard of it! Haha.

I would pronounce it with equal stress on the syllables.

Is he getting confused with Aeneas ( which isn't a girl's name, I know) as that would be a bit closer to what he's saying? Has he seen it written down?

OP this is good practice for the future.

You will have years of correcting other people, teachers, your DDs friends other parents at the school gates.
Your DD will have the burden of correcting others throughout her life.
Which is why I chose simple easy to pronounce and spell names for my kids.

R-Naice?

I know exactly how to pronounce it Slaughter. But if you're going to choose an unusual name that not many people know how to pronounce, then you need to pronounce it properly. Otherwise it just makes you (and your poor child) sound a bit thick. Which isn't really fair on the child.

Is your surname Featherstonehaugh (pron Fanshaw)? Or Cholmondely (pron Chumley)? If not, it should be.

My mil spent the first time she met my new son calling him a totally different name as she didn't like the one we had given him!
Told her if she didn't respect our choice by calling him the correct name she wouldn't see him again!!!