to resent DH because I have to return to work after ML

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Basically, we have a 3 month old and I would've been on ML for 4 months when I return to work in January. I work full time and can take 12 months (only received company maternity pay for 6 weeks) but, we are so reliant on my salary I have to go back when our baby is only 3 months old.

DH is self employed, works long hours but work/income is unreliable and erratic and he refuses to get what I call a regular job, set hours set wage. I've been asking him for 3 years todo this but its never been a problem really until now. I've made up the shortfall needed for our household so many times but now I feel differently. I want to take a year home with my baby but I can't unless he will change his way of working, which he won't. Its always next year will be different...next year I'll make lots of money but next year never comes.

What would you do?

Imo her DH should at least work part time.

The person that earns less or has more flexibility is the one that should reduce....

"And 2 parents working full-time when that most likely isn't even a financial advantage? Eh... 😖"

This has been done to death countless times...there often isn't a great (if any) immediate financial advantage to working when the children are small and childcare at its most expensive. It's as much about the long term gain- pension, employability...
There is no suggestion that the Dh Isn't contributing at least half (unless the OP returns and drip feeds some new info ) . It's just that she wants him to change his job because she wants a year off on ML.

No, I know.

I do think she doesn't have the right to expect one year ML

But there are things this DH seems to be doing that would be an absolute no-go imo.