to expect social services after 6 year old burnt foot on cooker? Feel horrendous

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Title says it all really
Am petrified social services will now be involved after google searching what happens next
My 6 year old climbed onto the kitchen side last night and stood on one of the electric hobs.
It had been turned off for approx 10 mins as was making her milk for bed and she went out there saying she was getting a cup off the side, instead she climbed up to get a different cup from the cupboard.
After an hour running under water it was only red so we followed the advice on the NHS website and applied Vaseline once completely cooled and wrapped in cling film and gave calpol but shortly after I noticed the blister covered 1/3 of her foot.
I feel sick even writing it as I just never thought she would do this, she isn't even a climber and we only took our baby gates off the kitchen a few months ago as she could undo them.
Called NHS direct once I noticed the size of the blister when she had fallen asleep and I was able to remove the cling film and we were told to go to A&E who cut the blister off, wrapped it and sent us to the burns hospital 20 miles away.
Only recently back from there and will be there every 3 days for as many weeks to get the dressing changed and so on.
Feel so guilty and also completely panicked social services will now be involved as I could have prevented this happening.
There were lots of safeguarding questions at both hospitals and both asking if we had social services involved prior to this ( we haven't ) but none said they were going to contact them but just don't know what to think.
My poor little girl.

Yes I'm seeing family later in person so that will be nice as everyone's still been at work this week so has only been phone calls and messages
Thankyou - it isn't what I think they would do if they were to come, it's just the feeling that I could have stopped it happening that makes me feel rubbish but accidents do and will happen I get that! Thanks again

The only problem I have is that the only way to completely ensure something like this never happens again is to ban her from the kitchen until the oven / stove is completely cool but then I'm sure

You can't and you shouldn't make her world totally risk free, but things you can do to reduce risk are things like using it as an education thing make sure that she understands that this is the reason we don't climb on kitchen sides and that she understands a oven could always be hot.

Everything else is pretty much over kill

I think the question about social services involvement is just a check list thing. We were asked when my son had his pre op assessment before he had surgery which was in no way due to an accident. I know how the op feels because it made me feel guilty thst my son had these problems (spastic diplegia) because I failed at childbirth. Totally irrational I know, but maternal guilt is a bitch. Hope you and your dd are feeling better.

Oh yes of course we have had that talk with her and I really doubt she will ever do it again.
It was horrible and still is whenever I think about it but she is fine in herself, just refusing to walk on it which is another issue as she's apparently meant to be by now or may require physio
It was just being asked by a&e and then the burns hospital what had happened etc that seemed like they were questioning me, like I could have done more as they would have had the info surely.
But of course cases like this could well be in neglected households so it's good they checked and luckily she is well able to talk for herself and did
I'm just looking forward to getting back to normality really
We are going to go away for a week in February half term to celebrate!

She won't I'm quite sure

OP, I think if SS do come round you should record the conversation and try to have someone with you. Just in case any errors are made on their part.

DaffyJones Witt their permission of course otherwise it's totally illegal.
Don't wind people up please. The op had nothing to worry about.

Sorry, just being over cautious I guess.

That comment is quite a worrying one about recording them if they were to come but I'm trying to stay logical and as this happened over the weekend and I've not heard anything I'm taking it that I may not now; apart from the school nurse maybe when school is back

I was the biggest worrier about SS years ago, I'd met two who both admitted to huge mistakes after they'd left the job because they didn't have kids of their own, I also knew one who was actually really good and genuinely wanted to help people and children but his manager got promoted on the number of cases they closed, so she was shutting things that shouldn't be shut.
What I would say having had them round for tea when the court ordered my house was inspected following ridiculous comments by my ex is that they were fine, just two very normal people, asked very normal questions and what I said was written in the report. They are professionals with degrees. Their evidence is used in court, if it were incorrect a barrister would wipe the floor with them.
Please do not record them. You will escalate things and make yourself look like a muppet, equally you don't have to let them over the front door either, you can say we are fine thank you I don't want to see you and there's nothing they can do.

if SS do come round you should record the conversation and try to have someone with you.
DaffyJones Witt their permission of course otherwise it's totally illegal.

It's not illegal to record a conversation in your own home without the permission of the person you are recording, however, the recording can only be used for your own transcript uses, it is inadmissible as evidence.

Having someone with you is always good advice.
This won't even get referred to SS so there really is nothing to worry about and even if it did, there's still nothing to worry about.

inadmissible that was the word I was looking for.

What word / I've modded that post I think

Sorry that should have said " missed that post " as can't see a comment from anyone with that name

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Happy Christmas op, hope dd's foot is healing and that you're feeling better. x

Thankyou, I hope you have a lovely Christmas too x

Hoping she's healing well and you have a lovely day OP. X

Thankyou, she is healing well but refusing to walk on it whatsoever so that's another hurdle for us I suspect but she isn't in pain and is having a lovely Christmas so that's the main thing!
Merry Christmas to you and Thankyou for taking the time to write on here today x

Glad she's having a lovely day. I'm sure she will be back to normal soon. X

Why would a recording made without permission or knowledge be inadmissible? It is not illegal and it is not inadmissible, and it is sound advice as although you should have nothing to worry about, you do not know if SS have some sort of behind the scenes targets to meet, how competent the social worker you see is or whether they have some sort of vendetta against people. Social Workers are not the sort of people you want to be trusting. You need to cover your backside. Be very careful about volunteering any information.

There isn't any information to volunteer to be honest but I do Thankyou for your reply

It's always threads like this that bring out the bonkers conspiracy theorists. Targets indeed!

They do have targets - to close cases - this is not always a good thing.