To not be concerned for DD?

[Christinedonna]

My DD is almost 4 months old and has always been a fantastic sleeper, she's slept through without a feed since she was about a week old. Up until a few weeks ago she was having her last bottle at 8:30-9pm and waking up for her first the next morning at about 8:30-9am. Now she's having her last bottle at about 6-6:30pm and not having her first one the next morning until 10-11am. She's a perfectly happy& healthy baby and I'm soooo grateful for the sleep and that she's so laid back but others have questioned us. My dad is convinced this is not okay and it's not healthy to "let her" go that long without milk. I've never woken her up for a feed, I've always fed on demand (I know, shoot me). What do you think? Should I just be grateful and make the most of the quiet time or should I be concerned that she's going too long?

Op you sound like a lovely caring mum but you and your little one both need fresh air and stimulation. She needs light on her skin every day. And you need to build friendships.

I think she is going too long without liquid but you are better off getting her properly checked by a health care professional.

Good luck with the weighing today. If it's a drop in it may be busy so a good opportunity to chat to other mums and maybe find out what else is going on in the area?
Please tell the health visitor all about your dds routine - you can ask for a quiet word if it is busy although you have nothing to be embarrassed about.
You sound a really caring mum and I hope you get out and about soon. If storage is a problem for the buggy have you thought about using a sling? Only the size of a jumper - a sling library would help and another opportunity to go out and meet people

Good luck seeing the health visitor today.

How was the HV today OP? Hope all is well with your DD.

She weighs 13.75lbs and is on the (just slightly below the 50th centile) as she always has been apparently according to her chart. But they said she's perfect, nothing to be concerned about, if she's gaining weight and alert when she's awake she probably just gets being a sleeper from her dad!

So what was the point of your original post? Your baby sleeps all the time, you weren't worried, there isn't a problem...

As long as she is taking 5 feeds in a 24 hour period, is having wet and dirty nappies and gaining weight then I would let her crack on with the mammoth sleeps!!! If her nappies are dry in the morning when she wakes then she could be dehydrated. If that's not the case then I wouldn't bat an eye lid. I'm so fucking jealous!!!!

ohlala nooo problem with getting through nappies here! I am very lucky

In that case I'm just very jealous!

Glad she's okay though OP. x

lapharisienne what is the point of YOUR post?

Great news OP. Good luck with everything

That is good news, OP.

That's great news OP

Great news op. Obviously she'll start waking every two hours from now on and be up for the day at 5am

Definitely tempted fate haven't I! Look out for a post from me saying "AIBU unreasonable to think my babies broken and doesn't sleep". Storing up the sleep to pull a week of all nighters!

so glad to hear the good news OP. You sound like a lovely mum and I do hope you and dd soon find some lovely people to spend time out of doors with. Enjoy your beautiful baby

Thank you so much youcan and everyone for the helpful and supportive messages. From me and my currently sleeping again baby!

Good news OP 👍

My dddif the same!!!! I used to get worried and wake her up until my friend (who had 7 children) said I must be mad!! And that she would let me know if she was hungry. She only ever gained weight and is s strapping 9year old now!

My daughter used to do this and I was told I had to
Wake her. When they don't eat regularly their blood sugar level drops dramatically and this makes them drowsy which is why it becomes a vicious circle of them sleeping lots and eating less. My HV scared me silly and told me I was to undress my daughter until she was properly awake and feed her like that

My dad has 6 kids so when he said "that's not right!" I thought maybe I should be worried..even though deep down I knew it was just her! When I told the HV today she looked at me like I was crazy for being anything other than over the moon! She asked for a second opinion to assure me but they both said if she's gaining weight, is happy and alert when she's awake and has always been a sleeper, just enjoy it! I very much am

Op, did you tell the HV how much sleep your dd gets? And what she drinks?

And did you tell the HV about only getting out once a week and not having a pram at home? That sounds awful. You both need fresh air and you need to meet other people and talk to other people, otherwise you risk much worse depression.

Yep I said she gets about 12 hours a night, wakes up for a bottle and then sleeps for a few hours, another nap shortly after her next bottle or in a few hours. But they just said it's obviously what works for her. Hopefully il have a tiny shopping bill forever! (I doubt it) I didn't mention me or my situation as I doubt they can help with that or tell my anything I don't already know. DDs dad was there so I'm not willing to get into the "whys" or where we're at. we'll have a car soon and will be back out and about in no time

Great news op as I thought it would be on page 1. I also warned you about the doom mongers and see they still posting even after professional advice that's she's fine.

Bet she's plotting works domination with all that sleep

World obviously 🙄