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To not be concerned for DD?

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Christinedonna · 13/12/2016 13:12

My DD is almost 4 months old and has always been a fantastic sleeper, she's slept through without a feed since she was about a week old. Up until a few weeks ago she was having her last bottle at 8:30-9pm and waking up for her first the next morning at about 8:30-9am. Now she's having her last bottle at about 6-6:30pm and not having her first one the next morning until 10-11am. She's a perfectly happy& healthy baby and I'm soooo grateful for the sleep and that she's so laid back but others have questioned us. My dad is convinced this is not okay and it's not healthy to "let her" go that long without milk. I've never woken her up for a feed, I've always fed on demand (I know, shoot me). What do you think? Should I just be grateful and make the most of the quiet time or should I be concerned that she's going too long?

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Tiptoethr0ughthetulips · 13/12/2016 13:37

You need to take her to get weighed and discuss this with your HV, sooner rather than later. It's not only food but fluid she is going without for an awful long time and not really compensating through the day.

Questioningeverything · 13/12/2016 13:37

My ds is 4months and drinks 7oz at least 6 times a day. 2night feeds there. I'm gonna say you're lucky she goes through, but for that long... I'd be worried. And so few bottles, I'd have concerns enough to get her seen. If you can't get there, can you ask for a home visit from hv? Mine does them and I'm only round the corner from her

SleepFreeZone · 13/12/2016 13:38

The fact you've written this thread makes me think you have a slight concern otherwise you would just let your dads comments roll off your back.

Personally I would first want to know what centile your baby is on now and what centile your baby was born at so I could determine if they have slipped and by how much. Then I would decide if I wanted to ask for advice at that point.

The HV will not be happy with such a gap between feeds. When i had DS1 4 years ago they were not happy with him sleeping for five hours in the day. They said I should be waking him every three hours. So I'm sure your HV will be asking you to wake the baby and feed.

PotteringAlong · 13/12/2016 13:38

Again, I agree with everyone that it would concern me and I would want her properly weighed to check she is ok.

DubiousCredentials · 13/12/2016 13:40

I would get her weight checked if she was mine just to be on the safe side. That is a lot of sleep! Does she nap in daytime too? Personally I would be waking her up for the day at 7/8am so I could have some sort of "normal" daily routine on the go, but not everybody would feel that way of course.

All I can think is how I would feel after 16hrs without a drink.

SEsofty · 13/12/2016 13:43

I would be concerned about that much sleep.

Go get her weighed and mention it to the hv

badabing36 · 13/12/2016 13:44

Take her to a weigh in at the gp or children's centre. You can't judge by eye.

BillSykesDog · 13/12/2016 13:44

Phone the health visitor and tell them this. If she needs to be seen (and I think she does) they will come to you if necessary.

BToperator · 13/12/2016 13:46

I'd get her weighed, to just check she is growing as she should be. At least that way you will be able to stop your Dad worrying.

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Christinedonna · 13/12/2016 13:46

Her dad has a day off tomorrow so can take us, just phoned and found out and it's just a drop in between 1-3

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BertrandRussell · 13/12/2016 13:46

I honestly think you should get her weighted accurately. That is a very long time indeed to be going without food/drink. The health centre will have a drop in baby weighing clinic.

Lilylonglegs · 13/12/2016 13:46

I really wouldn't worry. I remember mine slept through very early and would sleep like 15 hours and I was so concerned. One time I tried to wake her and she was very sleepy and I remember if the health visitor said they are lethargic to call the ambulance. I was really to call 999 but my mum grabbed the phone from be and said I was being silly. Looking back to funny but at the time I thought something was terribly wrong. Soon I stopped waking her up every 4 hours as advised and regained my sanity and there was nothing wrong with her!

HermioneJeanGranger · 13/12/2016 13:48

I would be concerned that she's sleeping for 15 hours without waking for milk. It's not as though she's making up for it during the day either.

Please take her to get seen, she's so small!

cordeliavorkosigan · 13/12/2016 13:49

I'd be worried about that much solid sleep and that long a gap at that age. Do get her seen by a competent HV or GP, monitor her weight gain properly and accurately, and keep an eye on it.
While people do get unreasonably anxious, controlling and judgemental about babies, it is important to make sure your dc get the medical care they need!

OohNoDooEy · 13/12/2016 13:50

18oz of milk doesn't sound like much but 30oz sounds like enough. It also sounds as though she's sleeping about 13 hours overnight which again sounds fine.

Is she alert & happy?
Plenty of wet and dirty nappies?

She is probably one of these babies that doesn't nap much but eats well in the daytime and sleeps well at night. They do exist.

I'd keep a diary for a few days of eating and sleeping and see your HV as PP's have suggested.

I do recall DS doing a LOT of sleeping, followed by a lot of eating and then growing quite a bit at 4 months!

donajimena · 13/12/2016 13:52

Hopefully all will be well and I am glad you are going to get her checked.
I too had a fantastic sleeper but I can't remember his feeding pattern so I wouldn't try to reassure you that its ok in your case.
I do know that we dropped night feeds ridiculously 'early'

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Christinedonna · 13/12/2016 13:52

lily that's good to know! I'm not really concerned tbh. She definitely manages to tell me when she's not happy or wants something (pretty sure she has the temper of a 15yo already). She's a little genius, lifted her head since the day she was born, stands only holding my fingers, loves to sit up and we can't wait for her to get her jumperoo for Christmas as she loves being on the go and playing. Maybe when she's starts using a bit more energy she'll want more milk. To whoever asked (sorry there's a lot of comments!) she does nap during the day. Infact, straight after her first bottle she has another hour or two. And then another one later on in the day, her dad could sleep for England so I'm sure it's just that! (I'm not joking, literally would fall asleep mid sentence, the second his head touched the pillow or arse touched the passenger car seat).

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Imknackeredzzz · 13/12/2016 13:52

Yes I'd be very concerned by that OP and glad your taking her to be checked

MummyStep123 · 13/12/2016 13:53

I wouldn't be concerned, if she's happily sleeping and doesn't wake for a bottle then you can hardly force feed her one, 4 months is pretty close to being able to wean with baby rice etc so wouldn't worry about weight either if she's not drastically lost weight. Do you have a pop in weight clinic at your GP? Mine had one every second Wednesday and you could go in and get lo weighed if you were worried.

DearMrDilkington · 13/12/2016 13:53

stands only holding my fingers

She's way too young for that. It's not good for her hips.

DubiousCredentials · 13/12/2016 13:56

So she is sleeping up to 16hrs a night, plus up to 3/4 hrs in the daytime as well, including one straight after the 16hr night? So up to 19/20 hrs out of 24? That has to be unusual surely.

Glad you are able to get her weight checked.

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Christinedonna · 13/12/2016 13:57

dear she doesn't do it for long periods of time, just when getting off her changing mat for a few seconds (as long as she can hold herself) she's had her hips scanned as they thought they were misplaced/hip dysplacia and she has perfect,very flexible hips

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DearMrDilkington · 13/12/2016 13:58

They won't be perfect and flexible hips if you keep standing her up though. She shouldn't be putting any weight on to them until she does it herself.

1horatio · 13/12/2016 13:58

She doesn't feed for 16 hours...?

Idk. But as a new mother I'd be very very concerned.

Memoires · 13/12/2016 13:59

Bear in mind that she may look fine on the outside but she should be building bones and things, shouldn't she?

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