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To not be concerned for DD?

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Christinedonna · 13/12/2016 13:12

My DD is almost 4 months old and has always been a fantastic sleeper, she's slept through without a feed since she was about a week old. Up until a few weeks ago she was having her last bottle at 8:30-9pm and waking up for her first the next morning at about 8:30-9am. Now she's having her last bottle at about 6-6:30pm and not having her first one the next morning until 10-11am. She's a perfectly happy& healthy baby and I'm soooo grateful for the sleep and that she's so laid back but others have questioned us. My dad is convinced this is not okay and it's not healthy to "let her" go that long without milk. I've never woken her up for a feed, I've always fed on demand (I know, shoot me). What do you think? Should I just be grateful and make the most of the quiet time or should I be concerned that she's going too long?

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Christinedonna · 13/12/2016 14:31

Il try a different teat on her next bottle to see if she can keep up a bit better now. Which one do you think I should try? Vari flow or the second teat

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DearMrDilkington · 13/12/2016 14:32

basic I know that. I was merely posting the average amount that babies at that age have.

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Christinedonna · 13/12/2016 14:33

No she's never taken only 6/7oz in a day verbena I said she has 6oz bottles. Sometimes 5 of them in a day but other times only three

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DearMrDilkington · 13/12/2016 14:34

donna you sound quite isolated in your other posts as well. I know you said you can't get to hv or baby groups but do you manage to get out and about when your ex isn't about with the car?

Verbena37 · 13/12/2016 14:35

Oh ok sorry OP. I misread it as she was sometimes only having 6oz.

SleepFreeZone · 13/12/2016 14:36

How is the baby sleeping? On her back, front? Does she stir or is she in a deep sleep? Is she in a cot in your room or her own room?

Personally I liked my DS in a lighter sleep as I felt it protected him better from SIDS. I think I'd be bloody terrified if my baby slept for ages in a really deep sleep in the early months but I am neurotic.

plimsolls · 13/12/2016 14:37

Agree it's always worth getting weighed/checked, although it sounds like she's seen a doctor recently who said she was fine.

My daughter is same age (we were on same ante natal thread) and has a similar pattern in that she sleeps a lot at night and often then has a long nap in the morning seemingly not long after she wakes up. Although she's then awake and feeding for the rest of the day. She's been seen a lot by medics (for other reasons) and has had lots of blood tests (other reasons) and no concerns noted. I sporadically worry though!

If you don't already, maybe keep a log of nappies, feeds, sleeps (I hear BabyTalk app is good or Baby Connect. I hate theMN one) and have the HV have a look at it.

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Christinedonna · 13/12/2016 14:37

dear no, on a good week we probably get out once. I do do a lot with DD though, playing, her play mat, bouncer etc, we go outside for fresh air but don't go anywhere. She's not sick of being here it's just me

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DearMrDilkington · 13/12/2016 14:38

sleep sids can happen to a baby that never sleeps as well as a baby that sleeps a lot. No need to freak op out.

DearMrDilkington · 13/12/2016 14:40

donna you do need to get out more than that, it's no good for either of you. Can't you just go for a walk daily? My random walks with dd in the pram kept me sane when she was that age.

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Christinedonna · 13/12/2016 14:41

My ex keeps the buggy in his car as we don't have room for it here so we can't really get out for a walk unless she's being carried which I don't like the thought of

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Sirzy · 13/12/2016 14:42

For yourself you need to get out more. Once a week isn't healthy for either of you really.

What's public transport like where you are?

DearMrDilkington · 13/12/2016 14:43

Have you tried a sling? It may keep her awake a bit longer too. You'll drive yourself mad if you stay in that much. What about selling the buggy and getting one of those ones that fold up really small? You can get some cheap 2nd hand on eBay or local Facebook pages.

HarveySchlumpfenburger · 13/12/2016 14:43

That's not good. You do both need to get out and about.

Is using a sling a possibility?

ChaChaChaCh4nges · 13/12/2016 14:43

How about a sling?

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Christinedonna · 13/12/2016 14:44

I've heard whispers of my family buying me a little run around for Christmas so clinging onto the thought of it not being for much longer

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Christinedonna · 13/12/2016 14:45

I've tried a few slings on and just couldn't get on with them. I suppose I could try a few more

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Tweasels · 13/12/2016 14:46

Why don't you put her to bed at 7 after her bottle, then she'll wake at 7 ready for the next one. This means you'll have enough time in the day to feed her and stretch out her sleep. I'm not one for strict routines but getting up at 11 is ridiculous.

DearMrDilkington · 13/12/2016 14:48

Oh hopefully you'll get one for Xmas then! Fresh air would probably make a lot of difference for your dd as well.

Tweasels · 13/12/2016 14:49

You also need to get the buggy. Even if it stays up in your living room. You need to go out everyday - even if it's just for 10 mins.

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Christinedonna · 13/12/2016 14:49

tweasels she just wouldn't sleep. She'd scream until I picked her up

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HermioneJeanGranger · 13/12/2016 14:51

Is there really nowhere to store a pram? Fold down and put it under the bed or in a wardrobe?

Only going out once a week isn't good.

Nevlet · 13/12/2016 14:51

For comparison my 4 month old has 8oz 5/6 times a day. He is on 75th centile and growing steadily along curve. He sleeps 10pm - 5am wakes for a feed then goes back to sleep till about 8. He has a couple of naps throughout day. The amount she is drinking and sleeping would really worry me. When my little boy started to eat a few ozs a few times a day and sleep alot similar to how you describe I took him to the Drs - he had a severe kidney infection, sepsis and septicemia. No other symptoms he may not be well. I am sure she is fine but I would really go and get her seen by a GP to be on the safeside.

Letsgetreadytorumbleagain · 13/12/2016 14:52

16 hours sleep across the day is in the 'normal' range for a 4 month old. If the baby was going to sleep at 7 and waking at 7 or 8, you'd all think that was fine. But because the baby isn't in a 'normal' routine it's skewing the perspective. Also I don't think people are reading the responses properly and are assuming the baby sleeps straight after its last bottle - when in fact she is awake for a good few hours after that

The OP has said she'll get the baby weighed tomorrow and she can go from there, she can see her baby is alert and having wet nappies - so there is no need for this panic.

OP I hope you get on ok at the HV tomorrow and remember, if you do have issues or concerns, you can always ring them and they will arrange to visit you. Having no car should not be a barrier, if you're needing help Flowers

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