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Police question - so scared

65 replies

SoWorried2000 · 10/12/2016 23:03

Sorry about posting here but I have had such good advice before in AIBU and I so need some at the moment.

I have been absolutely stupid and done something which may warrant a visit from the police for a telling off or a warning. Basically, I sent something to a family on our street that is making our lives a misery. It will be easy for the police to trace who sent it but the family don't know it was me. Once they find out there will be reprisals and my whole family will suffer.

Will the police tell them who sent it once they have investigated? Will they tell them before I have received a warning so they may suddenly confront me in the street? If not, is there any chance the police will speak to me first and then not tell the people that it was me who sent it if I am very very sorry and will never do such a thing again - which I won't!

The family aren't really known to the police but have lots of dodgy connections and are very intimidating.

Any advice very very welcome. I haven't slept for about 2 weeks and have managed to lose a stone. The poor children are having an awful run up to Christmas.

OP posts:
TheWitTank · 10/12/2016 23:04

What did you send? Was it dangerous or threatning?

Patriciathestripper1 · 10/12/2016 23:05

Haven't you posted about this beforeHmm

angeldiver · 10/12/2016 23:05

Have you posted about this before?
There was a very similar thread removed.

Can't help thinking if it was that serious the police would have been to see you by now.

BigGreenOlives · 10/12/2016 23:05

Didn't you post about this earlier this week?

PointlessUsername · 10/12/2016 23:06

Was this the text from another phone?

GiddyOnZackHunt · 10/12/2016 23:06

Wasn't it last night Confused

Pancakeflipper · 10/12/2016 23:06

Will the family involved actually report it to the police? If they have dodgy connections then they'll probably give the police a wide berth.

Will the family be able to track it back to you and start giving you hassle?

P.S. have you posted about this previously ? I have a de-ja-vu about this post and others tonight.

Salmotrutta · 10/12/2016 23:07

I read a thread like this a day or two ago Confused

Cherrysoup · 10/12/2016 23:07

Physical item or message? Two or more messages can be construed as harassment under the Telecommunications Act, especially if they're malicious. What was the thing sent and why did you send it?

HurricaneSwallows · 10/12/2016 23:07

Again? Confused

FrancisCrawford · 10/12/2016 23:08

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

GinIsIn · 10/12/2016 23:08

Didn't you post this yesterday? With a load of melodrama about turning yourself in because you sent a text message? Confused

You really need to stop working yourself up about it. You have theee options - you can go and apologise to the neighbours, you can go and explain to the police, or you can do nothing and hope it blows over.

HoopsandEverything · 10/12/2016 23:08

The police are not going to reveal your identity if it could put you or your family in danger. If you've sent anthrax it will be an issue, if you've sent a text then it is probably not going even be looked into by the police, unless it's very abusive.

I'm having a weird sense of de ja vu.

FlouncedBack · 10/12/2016 23:09

Is this Groundhog Day? Xmas Confused

HoopsandEverything · 10/12/2016 23:10

Slightly worried that the text didn't do the job yesterday so she's sent something worse today though.

Original poster
SoWorried2000 · 10/12/2016 23:11

Sorry yes I did post about the whole story the other night but had to get it removed as it was too identifying. A lot of people said the police probably wouldn't investigate 1 message but I just need clarification whether the police would tell them it was me if they did investigate or would agree to protect my privacy if I was worried about reprisals

OP posts:
ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 10/12/2016 23:11

Ffs op. If you want advice give us the full story - what did the text say?

Otherwise, stop with the multiple posts and calm the fuck down.

PinkSquash · 10/12/2016 23:12

You posted this last night.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 10/12/2016 23:12

Do you think you are letting your imagination run wild? If this family are notoriously dodgy I doubt they will contact the police to report anything.

Your post is vague but I'm assuming you haven't committed a serious crime.
I would suggest trying to forget this now, especially after two weeks with no repercussions and concentrate on resting and eating well and getting your anxiety under control before it makes you ill.

Try to rationalise your fears. You can phone The Samaritans free of charge to talk through all your worries.

Vixxfacee · 10/12/2016 23:13

Ffs non issue.

Purplehonesty · 10/12/2016 23:13

If they know it's you and they interview the family it will probably come out. They will want to know if the family know you and what the connection is
So they might not say we know it's her but they might say do you know a person by the name of xxx
And how do you know her?
And then family puts 2 + 2 together.
Sorry.
Can you contact the police first and admit it and tell them you are scared for your family?

GruffaloPants · 10/12/2016 23:13

I read your other thread.

The police wouldn't be interested in a one off message like that. They have actual crime to deal with.

You are obsessing. Get a grip (meant nicely). Seriously, seek help if you can't move on from this.

FusionChefGeoff · 10/12/2016 23:14

Do you have problems with anxiety and / or other mental health issues? This is a very extreme reaction which suggests maybe you would benefit from seeing your GP. You shouldn't lose a stone in weight over a text!

user1477282676 · 10/12/2016 23:15

If you sent a threat then they will investigate and there might be reprisals. If you just sent some abuse it won't be as serious.

I don't think they will tell them it was you though. Seriously why do such a thing though?

PaulAnkaTheDog · 10/12/2016 23:15

You posted this last night. You got it removed because it was identifying. Why are you starting it up again? You won't get a visit from the police.

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