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AIBU?

Police question - so scared

65 replies

SoWorried2000 · 10/12/2016 23:03

Sorry about posting here but I have had such good advice before in AIBU and I so need some at the moment.

I have been absolutely stupid and done something which may warrant a visit from the police for a telling off or a warning. Basically, I sent something to a family on our street that is making our lives a misery. It will be easy for the police to trace who sent it but the family don't know it was me. Once they find out there will be reprisals and my whole family will suffer.

Will the police tell them who sent it once they have investigated? Will they tell them before I have received a warning so they may suddenly confront me in the street? If not, is there any chance the police will speak to me first and then not tell the people that it was me who sent it if I am very very sorry and will never do such a thing again - which I won't!

The family aren't really known to the police but have lots of dodgy connections and are very intimidating.

Any advice very very welcome. I haven't slept for about 2 weeks and have managed to lose a stone. The poor children are having an awful run up to Christmas.

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TheGruffaloMother · 10/12/2016 23:16

I thought it was homelessness you were worried about yesterday, not the police? Something about the recipient's mate being your landlord? Didn't sound like you'd crept into illegal territory, just been a bit stupid.

SittingAround1 · 10/12/2016 23:16

I posted yesterday on this. I think you need to get a good night's sleep and forget about it. The police are NOT going to come knocking on your door for one text..
Also try and stay away from this family-they sound awful.

HoopsandEverything · 10/12/2016 23:16

If there was a chance of reprisals, and this family are known, it is unlikely the police will name you. Make sure the police know you are scared about this.

If you've committed an actual crime (which from what you posted the other night, you haven't) they wouldn't keep your identity hidden.

Boundaries · 10/12/2016 23:16

This got removed yesterday because of your identity being revealed.

GruffaloPants · 10/12/2016 23:17

The text wasn't even threatening in the real sense of the word. Not a police issue.

CondensedMilkSarnies · 10/12/2016 23:18

I thought I recognised this from yesterday .

idontlikealdi · 10/12/2016 23:18

Same advice as yesterday op.

FlouncedBack · 10/12/2016 23:19

I doubt they'd identify you but really you need to stop worrying about it.
The police haven't got the time or resources to chase up every dodgy/abusive text message, OP.
You seem like an anxious person and I know it's easy to say but really, just try to forget it happened and try to distract yourself when you find yourself stressing about it.

icy121 · 10/12/2016 23:20

Christ are you still panicking about this? May I suggest you take a couple of some form of opioid painkiller and go to sleep. You seem to panic about this at night.

crashdoll · 10/12/2016 23:21

You're going to get exactly the same replies as last time. Just chill and let it go.

MillionToOneChances · 10/12/2016 23:22

On the thread that you got removed the vast majority of posters agreed that you have no cause to be afraid of the police. You haven't done anything illegal and they won't be interested. Please, talk to your therapist about this. It is 100% a symptom of your anxiety. You're catatrophising.

The neighbours will eventually calm down. If by some extremely odd circumstance they manage to get the police interested in the single truthful text you said you would simply explain that it was the truth, but that you bitterly regret sending it because you're terrified of them and fear you would be in danger if they knew it was you.

But you haven't broken any laws so the police will not be interested. Honestly. Have some food and get some sleep.

notangelinajolie · 10/12/2016 23:23

One single text is NOT going to get you on the most wanted list. Unless you have sent multiple messages and threatened to do something really bad I really cannot see why the police would be remotely interested.

MillionToOneChances · 10/12/2016 23:23

www.healthcentral.com/anxiety/c/1443/164015/catastrophizing/

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 10/12/2016 23:23

You sound as though you are suffering from extreme anxiety, not surprising if you haven't eaten properly or slept for days. In the nicest way, you are not thinking rationally and it seems to have taken over your thoughts.

Do something calming, read a book, a film, a bath and get some rest. I think if you still feel panicked in the morning you should see your gp. They will help with your anxiety and irrational thoughts.

zeeboo · 10/12/2016 23:24

Oh good God not this again.

icy121 · 10/12/2016 23:26

In fact. Can you please contact your GP. Tell them the salient details about the text and your worries and then explain about the anxiety and weight loss. You obviously have acute anxiety which is a total overreaction to the text itself and possibly attributable to something else. Also - make sure you're getting outside and briskly walking about in the fresh air for at least 30 mins a day. That will help with anxiety. Daylight, air and exercise are very important.

GiddyOnZackHunt · 10/12/2016 23:31

Let's just run with this...
If they do report it and
If the police investigate and
If they decide it's you and
If they come to see you...
Then they'll ask you what happened
You tell them why it was anonymous and why you are worried about reprisals. The police then roll their eyes, tell you not to do it again and tell the neighbours that a warning has been issued.
If you have a copper in your front room seize the opportunity to talk about their behaviour!

HoopsandEverything · 10/12/2016 23:32

You tell them why it was anonymous and why you are worried about reprisals. The police then roll their eyes, tell you not to do it again and tell the neighbours that a warning has been issued.
If you have a copper in your front room seize the opportunity to talk about their behaviour!

Just incase that is missed.

HoopsandEverything · 10/12/2016 23:33

You tell them why it was anonymous and why you are worried about reprisals. The police then roll their eyes, tell you not to do it again and tell the neighbours that a warning has been issued.
If you have a copper in your front room seize the opportunity to talk about their behaviour

HoopsandEverything · 10/12/2016 23:33

Bold is not working

HoopsandEverything · 10/12/2016 23:34

OP READ THE BIT AT THE BOTTOM OF THE POST JUST UP FROM THIS BY GIDDY

OVER AND OVER AGAIN. IT TALKS GOOD SENSE.

FuckityFucko · 10/12/2016 23:36

A text message? Oh. I was imagining you had sent a box of poo or something.

Anyhow OP. You sound disproportionately worried. I hope this gets sorted out as it sounds very stressful.

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quicklydecides · 10/12/2016 23:38

Op you need to go to your GP.

RubbishMantra · 10/12/2016 23:46

Like Fuckity, I thought you'd sent them a horses head or a poo in a naice be-ribboned box.

You didn't text them a photograph of a penis in a shoe did you?

ghostspirit · 10/12/2016 23:50

((Hugs)) op I don't know for sure bit from other posters it seems you have anxiety if that's the case then I agree with the posters about seeing your gp. I think your over thinking things. It was 2 weeks ago police would have come by now. They have not. And the people you sent it to.may have thought wtf and forgot about it. Is they are dodgy they might get them sort of text often. I do think your over thinking due to the anxiety. There is nothing to loose hybrid having a chat with your gp. I hope I out feel better about things soon.

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