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Police question - so scared

65 replies

SoWorried2000 · 10/12/2016 23:03

Sorry about posting here but I have had such good advice before in AIBU and I so need some at the moment.

I have been absolutely stupid and done something which may warrant a visit from the police for a telling off or a warning. Basically, I sent something to a family on our street that is making our lives a misery. It will be easy for the police to trace who sent it but the family don't know it was me. Once they find out there will be reprisals and my whole family will suffer.

Will the police tell them who sent it once they have investigated? Will they tell them before I have received a warning so they may suddenly confront me in the street? If not, is there any chance the police will speak to me first and then not tell the people that it was me who sent it if I am very very sorry and will never do such a thing again - which I won't!

The family aren't really known to the police but have lots of dodgy connections and are very intimidating.

Any advice very very welcome. I haven't slept for about 2 weeks and have managed to lose a stone. The poor children are having an awful run up to Christmas.

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TheWoodlander · 11/12/2016 00:04

OP - as I told you last night - bin the phone, deny all knowledge. Say phone was lost.

Nobody can tell you exactly what the police might do - but as loads have already said, they are highly unlikely to investigate one text. They really do have better things to do. It doesn't sound like you have actually done anything illegal, so chill out.

CondensedMilkSarnies · 11/12/2016 00:08

Has anything more been said about the private investigator Op?

Redglitter · 11/12/2016 00:17

bin the phone, deny all knowledge. Say phone was lost

That's such bad advice. The OP has sent ONE ill advised text. She's making herself physically ill thinking about the repercussions. You really think advising her to lie to the police is going to help. It's potentially going to make the situation even worse.

She sent one text. It's not the crime of the century and not worth binning a phone and lying to the police over

TuckersBadLuck · 11/12/2016 00:24

What everyone else says. But can I add that the police generally go out of their way to avoid investigating anything that they can avoid investigating, unless there's serious harm/threat involved or the victim happens to be someone they think is in a position of power.

A single text sent to a family of known scrotes would just make the 'investigating officer laugh, in the unlikely event that a scrote would report something like that to the police to start with.

And a single text isn't grounds for a harassment prosecution to start with, so unless there was racial abuse or threats of violence etc. in it then the chances of them considering any crime's been committed is pretty small.

Relax and get some sleep.

GiddyOnZackHunt · 11/12/2016 00:39

Tuckers I so nearly used the word scrote Grin

drinkingchanelno5 · 11/12/2016 04:42

You need help.

sushisack · 11/12/2016 05:39

Some of you are being complete dicks to someone who is clearly in a bad place.

OP I think your anxiety is stopping you see the wood from the trees about this. Like the advice in bold earlier up- tell the police and they will reassure you this is not a massive deal. And please seek some help from your GP about your anxiety in general.

ConvincingLiar · 11/12/2016 05:48

OP objectively this is a massive fuss over nothing much. You ought to be concerned, not about being prosecuted (it's not going to happen), but about your extreme reaction.

Note3 · 11/12/2016 06:34

I absolutely back what tucker's said. OP what's done is done. There is a very high likelihood of you having no comeback from this so long as you do not do anything else to this family now. Your guilty conscience and general anxiety could be your undoing so you need to keep a lid on it. You also need to not tell ppl in RL if they have any connection to your local area as the world really is a small place and often ppl know someone who knows someone else...

NC1nightstand · 11/12/2016 07:03

Why didn't you come back OP?

HomeShapedBox · 11/12/2016 07:46

What did the text say?

FruitCider · 11/12/2016 08:29

Honestly, why are you worrying yourself sick over this?!?!? The police will not be in the slightest bit interested. You seem a bit... naive. Have you have a sheltered life op?

daisychain01 · 11/12/2016 08:39

bin the phone, deny all knowledge. Say phone was lost

It's not the crime of the century and not worth binning a phone and lying to the police over

It's fine. After the police have gone, just go out to the bin and get the phone out again, wipe off the tea-leaves and potato peelings. Grin

Job's a goodun

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 11/12/2016 09:03

I remember your previous thread.

Why post again as it's probably just as identifying ? Confused

Mrsmadevans · 11/12/2016 09:08

aw love dont worry so much it was 2 weeks ago they prob havent even seen it or if they have they aren't bothered

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