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AIBU?

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To be this annoyed over lipstick?

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Fouristhebestnumber · 09/12/2016 14:41

I am fully prepared to be told IABU and ridiculous but I feel really upset!

I am going out tonight and dp was in town. I can't find my favourite red lipstick so I texted dp to pick me up a new one while he was out. I told him the brand I like and said to get any red one. I often wear red lipstick.

He's come back with a pale pink one. I never wear pale pink lipstick. I asked why even though I'd asked for red and he just shrugged and said he thought I'd like it.

I feel really pissed off! Why did he not just get a red one? I couldn't have been clearer.. I feel like he never listens to me.

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ItShouldHaveBeenJingleJess · 11/12/2016 08:32

mistletoe. All interesting points, but....BUT...:

"According to a study conducted by the University of Manchester, men look at women with lipstick on, longer than women with bare lips. They were most entranced by red lipstick, staring at it for an average of 7.3 seconds, while their gaze lingered on women with pink lips for an average of 6.7 seconds. They only glanced at women with bare lips for an average of 2.2 seconds"

Now, I know we wear lipstick to make ourselves feel good and not necessarily to attract the opposite sex, but interesting nonetheless. For the record, I don't wear it daily - I don't wear make, full stop, every day, but if I want a confidence boost, I definitely find myself reaching for the red. That goes for clothes, too (wanders off, humming Chris De Burgh)

motherinferior · 11/12/2016 10:42

OP, did he actually say he didn't like the red?

And fwiw (a) I don't buy my partner 'grooming products' on account of him being an adult whose taste I don't always agree with but is an adult (b) he has at various times suggested I resume dyeing my hair or stop tinting my eyebrows, both of which suggestions I have ignored what with him being not madly good in the old style department himself (c) I have no wish to look like a tasteful well-groomed laydee of a certain age and even if I try my basic boho-lefty-bluestockingy-eccentric character overrides my efforts. I'll stick with the Delusional Red.

BusterGonad · 11/12/2016 13:08

I like to think my husband likes my clothes and makeup, he's never said otherwise, he has made the odd joke about certain floral dresses, saying that Winnie Mandela wants her dress back. Lol. But I actually find it funny and wear it anyway. I'm pretty confident in that department and generally wear things I like, make up wise my husband has never said he dislikes my make up I've worn in the past, I've seen him look at a few lipsticks with a type of look but that's when I wear my ultra bright ones when I'm out with the girls. If I'm meeting his friends I'll try my best to look as nice as I can with more of a classic look, reds or berries rather then hot pinks or bright oranges because I know some people are more conservative and judgey.

BusterGonad · 11/12/2016 14:48

One of my all time favorite lipsticks. Smashbox mat in Plum Role. This isn't me by the way!

RaspberryOverloadTheFirst · 11/12/2016 16:51

I recently bought a MAC lipstick gift set, with 4 mini lipsticks, egged on by DD when it was on offer in Debehams.

I'm nearly 50, and I'm going to wear red lippy and perhaps some other make up after not really bothering (I get up so early it seems a faff).

And I don't give a fuck if it's considered a no-no. Can't do orangey reds, they don't quite suit, but when I do wear lippy I do get compliments on the colours.

Trills · 11/12/2016 19:00

I wore red lipstick today. Clinique Cherry Pop.

I cannot tell if I was influenced by this thread.

Littlesmiler · 11/12/2016 19:02

Well screw him I'd be making sure to forget his special request next time you do the food shop. No one should mess with a girl and her slap!

hollyisalovelyname · 11/12/2016 20:52

Is he bigamous?
Sounds like my dh .
I would actually add to my instructions - NO SUBSTITUTIONS.

BusterGonad · 12/12/2016 04:02

Thrills I've got Clinique Cherry Pop. I love it!

ILikeyourHairyHands · 14/12/2016 06:19

Unborn, it's Laura Mercier, Sienna.

ILikeyourHairyHands · 16/12/2016 07:12

Lipz

Deathraystare · 16/12/2016 07:35

Funnily enough when Dad bought mum a lippy from a works shop (unannounced - I mean mum didn;t ask for it), he went for red. I suspect because he did not know it came in any other colour. Not that mum minded! However, if he was asked to get something along that lines I suspect he would have had to take me with him as he would have been a bit confused. I suspect as regards older men - lippie is either red or pink so your hubbie remembered one fo the two colours!! Not suggesting he is old....

tigerdriverII · 16/12/2016 07:50

Just asked DH what he would do and he said he'd buy a red one. Not pink.

I do think though that OP's DH might have been bamboozled by packaging and product names and bought the pink one by accident. Then covered up his mistake by making out he bought it on purpose. I can quite see that happening.

auldfuckingspinster · 18/12/2016 11:01

This is me wearing an old Elizabeth Arden lippy this morning. Was going for the natural look, didn't quite work out that way!

VladmirsPoutine · 18/12/2016 11:26

I find threads regaling stories of people's helpless DHs in the face of something quite obvious rather awful.
"My DH would have bought me back an exhaust pipe!!!" Just galling tbh.

DameDoom · 18/12/2016 11:40

I have the opposite problem OP. If I asked DH to get me a red lippy, he would buy every single one in the shop and chuck in several gloopy lip glosses to bleed fetchingly into my wrinkles to boot.
This is a man who once bought me several cans of Scott Barnes Body Bling after I had admired JLO's glow. I looked like I had been shoved through the laminator. More is more in his case. He be totally useless but lovely and well-meaning.
You will look at treat in your pale pink lippy...frosted perchance?

PineappleExpress · 18/12/2016 11:57

I have to mentally prepare myself whenever DH offers to go shopping or if I need him to pick something up. I send him photos of everything so he can see the packaging and shouldn't be able to get it wrong. I also tell him not to make any substitutions without telling me first, as he has come home with some pretty useless stuff in the past.
My favourite recent one was when he rang to check the brand of toothpaste we use, as he was buying some on his way home. Told me not to bother sending a pic as he was already at the toothpaste section and "isn't that bad at shopping".
He came home and apologised for making a substitution, but they didn't have any of the one I asked for, and he even asked a lady who worked there to help. He showed me the tube and I
His substitution was the one I had asked for in the first place. I asked him what he had asked the lady to help him look for, and he just shrugged, blushed a bit and said he couldn't remember, but she offered usual brand that one as a suitable substitution.
That was the day he finally understood why I find him shopping without me so stressful

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