To feel let down by my friend

[TheLaundryLady]

Background - been best friends since we were pregnant with our DC now aged 10. DC good friends. I often have her DC at our house at short notice and overnight and for weekends when she wants to go out. Also have her dog regularly overnight. All of this is rarely reciprocated which is a bug bare of DH's. She's been a single parent since marriage split 3 years ago and I have fully supported her as friends do.

It's mine and DH's wedding anniversary on 11th December and he had arranged for BF to have DC aged 10 and our dog Saturday and Sunday so that we could have some time away. Younger DC 6 is going to DM (she couldn't manage both DC and dog).

He arranged this over 3 months ago and booked hotel etc - fast forward to tonight she has had an argument with her boyfriend and is too upset to have DC and dog at the weekend.

MIL died last week after a short illness with cancer and she knows difficult it has been for both DH and I - we were really looking forward to having one night away and I'm gutted - AIBU to feel really angry at her right now ?

Just what you need on top of your loss. TBH you'd probably be angsting more about it normally; it probably pales into relative insignificance compared to what else is on your plate at the moment.

When everything calms down I hope you stay strong in resisting her attempts to cajole you back into the friendship you doing her all the favours

for your loss

One of lifes users, how awful for you OP. Don't relent or soften as time passes, you don't need friends like that. She exists in her own bubble..

At least you won't waste anymore time helping her out. I'd suggest the boys see each other in a neutral location from now on.

OP - have you heard from her yet?

DS1 had an issue with school on Thursday regarding a school residential trip. Her DS told her so she was sending me messages of support
I responded with two texts - thank you and it's sorted
No chat , no kisses nothing like our usual conversations

I had a friend just like this.

Notice the use of the past tense.

I'm so sorry you had to cancel, I read your thread about the residential trip, you've had a really rough week. Sorry to derail but did that get sorted? (I've been flat out for the last couple of days and no chance to MN)

Yes I went into school yesterday morning and gave them a list of policies that I wanted and requested a meeting with the HT - an hour later they phoned me back as said it was all sorted

Yes it's not been the best start to December - roll on 2017!

She's a useless twat. Sorry about your MIL, OP.

You could be the love child of Shakespeare and Jane Austen - and still nothing you could write would be as eloquent as silence! I say don't reply to anything she sends. The useless twat.

Oh thank goodness for that! I'm really please for your son, it was a bizarre situation!

Agree that silence is very eloquent and that 2016 can do one