Just name the baby!!

[ticklemyonewhisker]

My ds and bil had a baby yesterday afternoon and still haven't named it yet.

I'm getting a bit irritated that they couldn't think of a name before the child was born -- they've had a fair few months to decide a couple of names, see the baby and name it ffs.

IIRC you don't actually have to register a name for up to a year! The birth itself must be registered within 6 weeks but you don't have to register the baby's name!

Wow you reported the thread Paulanka? You've got too much time on your hands! P.s. I've not received any notification of your report. Think you're just a tad too sensitive. This is aibu after all.

Ha spiritedlondon I wonder why she thought that?

One of my DMs best friends only named the baby after 6 months. Does she win?

Calm down, it's only been a day!

I've had 5. 3 had names before they were born. 1 had a choice of two that took a couple of days to decide between and 1 I had chosen but DH disagreed so he was nameless for a few days while DH put forward zero other names before we went with my choice.

Oh dear, people had to wait, boo boo, poor them. Each time I was recovering from a c section so my thoughts were on that, and a couple of times on my ill babies, not whether we had told people babies name quickly enough.

Agreed Bathsheba. Learnt the name late last night and it's VERY popular. But each to their own.

Looks like I'm in the minority on this one. Of course I didn't let them know any of my feelings because I am very self aware and know that it would have been the worst thing to do. Good for me ay?

These were my internal feelings.

Personally I don't understand how people can find out the sex of their baby at 20 weeks and then immediately name them. Doesn't mean I judge them for it, doesn't mean I think they're "attention seeking". It may not be what I chose to do with my DC but that doesn't make it in any way wrong, or frustrating.

I find the fact that adults criticise, judge, and otherwise are unable to see that other adults do things differently to them and that it doesn't mean either of them is wrong, completely and utterly odd. Surely this is something we outgrow as teens? This need to conform? The feeling that if someone does something differently to us either they are wrong or there's something wrong with us.

Just because you did things a certain way and were more than happy with the outcome doesn't mean that it's right for everyone.

Well. Lucky baby to have you for an auntie.

I think it's VERY normal to not name the baby straight away. I don't think my niece had a name for about 4 weeks, something like that, she was perfect and we were extremely lucky nonetheless!

None of my babies looked like Phil Mitchell.
None of them were named for a couple of days, almost a week in DC3's case.
I didn't know the sex of any of them.

tickle glad a name has been chosen! But so what if it's popular? The time spent naming a baby isn't time spent trying to come up with the most original name possible but the name that most suits them / you / the family / whatever. A few days' wait doesn't have to equal an unusual name! Actually, almost all the parents I know who've chosen unusual names for their offspring were the ones who announced the name at birth.

We had a shortlist of three for each sex. It took us about a week to decide. She was in NICU so it wasn't our biggest priority, although the nurses were joshing us about our poor nameless baby.

We didn't name DS2 for a few days as we had given my favourite boys name to DS1. So yes I had contenders but still wasn't sure when he was born.

Oh and I didn't find out the sex with either of them, because I like a surprise. And because it didn't matter.

Personally, I don't 'get' finding out the sex, choosing the name and referring to the baby by that name for the entire pregnancy. Not only does it make it the longest pregnancy in the world, but there's nothing to announce when they're born because you've told everyone everything. And I like the guessing. But everyone's different.

We went into hospital to have dd1 with 2 girls' names and a boys'. When she came out, I was immediately certain which of the girls' names she was.
Dd2 we knew the sex, but didn't decide on her name until while I was in labour. She had had SN diagnosed at the scan so it felt very important that we got the right name. (that was also the reason we knew she was a girl, they didn't normally tell you)
Ds we decided after he came out. We were fairly certain we knew he was a boy because he's been showing somewhat exhibitionist behaviour at the scan.

In some ways it was harder to decide when we knew the sex because that was the definite name, so had to feel totally right. With dd1 meant that we didn't worry so much.

It's probably not top of their list of priorities right now, if it's their first they're in the midst of working out how to keep a small person alive and well!

We had a name for DS1 picked out for a boy but hadn't agreed on a girl's name. He was a boy, he arrived, it suited him perfectly and so he was named straight away.

DD2 - we hadn't really managed to agree on much but had a couple for each sex picked out. When she arrived she didn't suit either of them at all and so we had to start from scratch. It was just so busy when we got home with visitors etc and any spare moment I had I spent with DS1 for a couple of days, so H and I just couldn't sit down together and have a proper conversation to make a decision! She was named by about day 4 I think.

I think it's nice not to have everything planned.
With more people knowing what sex they are having & a constant report of contractions before little "Tilly Floss" arrives, nothing is a surprise anymore!

DC1 wasn't given a name for a good 24 hours, we wanted to make sure it suited him before announcing it!

You are so right ! Your sister sounds like a very unkind person not to consider your feelings on the matter. After all, you are the most important person in this situation . I do hope she and her husband remember to consult you to see if the name meets with your approval .

MissVictoria, my NHS Trust has a sign up stating that 20 week scans are anomaly scans not gender scans

I think some people forget/down play how important the 20 week scan is. I know a lot of people who've referred to it as the 'gender scan'. As though that's the most important piece of information to come from it. It's done for medical reasons, not to help the parents pick nursery colours. I have no problem with people wanting to know the sex - each to their own - but the focus should be on the baby's health, and if the sex is able to be determined then it's a bonus piece of information, but it's not the be all end all.

When I was pregnant a few members of my family and a few colleagues seemed genuinely stressed that I wouldn't find out the sex, and that I wouldn't share any names. Very odd IMO. I didn't want a big dramatic reveal, but it was just no ones business except mine and DP's, it was our baby.