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Just name the baby!!

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ticklemyonewhisker · 01/12/2016 21:17

My ds and bil had a baby yesterday afternoon and still haven't named it yet.

I'm getting a bit irritated that they couldn't think of a name before the child was born -- they've had a fair few months to decide a couple of names, see the baby and name it ffs.

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Parker231 · 01/12/2016 22:29

We took weeks - we knew we were having twins but not what types. We had a vague list of names but I don't any of them stood out to either of us. When they were born we referred to them as 'baby girl' and 'baby boy'- it drove our families and friends mad but we told everyone their names when we, and only we, had decided.

SouthofMaui · 01/12/2016 22:29

Obviously it's up to the parents, but what do you call the baby for 5 weeks? Confused Do you call him "baby"? It's weird to not give them an identity quicker, like he's not a real person yet

littlesallyracket · 01/12/2016 22:30

Why would anyone give a toss when (or what, for that matter) somebody else names their kid?

I can't get my head round people getting worked up about something that has no impact on them whatsoever. If other people don't do things exactly the way you do them, it doesn't matter.

Velvetdarkness · 01/12/2016 22:31

South we called ds baby or little man for about four weeks before we decided on his name.
It really wasn't a major issue.

starsorwater · 01/12/2016 22:32

we called one of ours Prufrock for several days he wore the bottoms of his trousers rolled and looked very old.

MissVictoria · 01/12/2016 22:33

Some women who have suffered late stage miscarriage and still birth are too scared to name subsequent babies before they're actually born.

DowntonDiva · 01/12/2016 22:35

You know what, some women have traumatic births and need to focus on recovering and learning to care for a newborn

This! I took my time. Glad I did. Baby was pregnancy nickname until we decided. No drama. Least not for us.

Alorsmum · 01/12/2016 22:35

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TheNoodlesIncident · 01/12/2016 22:36

Why don't you cut them some slack? They've just got through labour and childbirth, traditionally not an easy time for parents. Granted I had a name chosen for ds, but I had only just stopped hallucinating by that stage... Confused

SouthofMaui · 01/12/2016 22:36

No, it doesn't matter at all, it just feels weird to send a card and present for "baby". The thing is, the arrival of a baby is only really important for the parents, so by the time a name is made official, the new arrival is old news, and I agree, many times, "all that for that" crosses your mind.

LizB62A · 01/12/2016 22:36

People like you who insist on knowing the baby's sex before the birth and having names picked out months in advance are the ones who are demented, in my opinion.

A child's name is for life so why rush into it...?

I didn't know whether I was having a girl or boy. We had a few ideas about names - nothing firm though as we both agreed we'd rather wait and see what names seemed to suit the baby once it arrived.
And when it arrived 'it' was a 'he' and none of the names we had thought of seemed right so we picked a different name. It took us about a week so we called him Enzo until we had the proper name (he was in the SCBU as he was a big baby so needed a name)
My brother is still disappointed that we didn't keep the baby's name as Enzo :-)

skinnyamericano · 01/12/2016 22:37

Bathsheba you are spot on in my case!

It took 2 weeks to decide on DD's name (sorry OP!) and we ended up with number 1 on the most popular names list!

(I was in a complete blur of indecision and slightly regret our decision now - really should have taken longer!!)

WindInThePussyWillows · 01/12/2016 22:38

I would suggest this is a rather goady thread, but troll hunting is against MNHQ talk guidelines, so I won't Smile

SouthofMaui · 01/12/2016 22:39

You do realise there's a happy medium between deciding on the name the day you conceive and weeks after the birth? Grin

MissVictoria · 01/12/2016 22:39

The likelihood of me ever being able to have a baby is less than 1% but IF i did and it was a Boy i know i'd name him Leo, since he'd have to fight like a lion to exist, let alone be healthy. Girl i have no idea, as if i ever have a child, i'd want a boy. I'm sure plenty of people will take issue with me having a gender preference, but i just do.

user1471450764 · 01/12/2016 22:40

We could have been told what sex our baby was but we didn't - as long as it was healthy then we could decide on a name and not be told by everyone what our child should be called! Our Dd arrived and Dh rang and yes it is a girl and called xyz and everyone said congratulations. 😀

PoldarksBreeches · 01/12/2016 22:43

What a bunch of weirdos! Attention seeking? Fuck me. Why can't people just be allowed to do things differently? Why do you need to judge it and ascribe weird motives like attention seeking to it?

FedupofbeingtoldIcantusemyname · 01/12/2016 22:46

You do realise Op, that some people aren't allowed to find out the sex of the baby at the scans?

MissVictoria · 01/12/2016 22:49

My friend recently had their 3rd and final baby. already had 2 DD, told from 20 week scan baby was another DD, they agonised over a name, still unsure when she went into labour, just to pop out a DS! They were over the moon, had wanted a boy since baby 1 and had the name picked out for years.
I also know unfortunate people who have had siblings or cousins find out they are pregnant too round same time, but due first, who want the same name and use it, leaving them to scramble another name. Technically they can have the same name, but its a definite stolen thunder and "copying" issue, and its nice to not share a name with such a close relative of the same generation.

MissVictoria · 01/12/2016 22:50

Why aren't some people allowed to know at scans?!

PuppetInParadize · 01/12/2016 22:50

ffs, if in England they might keep you waiting for 6 weeks. Grin We had the nagging relatives and friends for one of ours. We ignored them and sat up one night (after the first full day the baby and I were at home) and made a decision - on day 3 or 4 so not ages. Everybody's got over it.

Ohdearducks · 01/12/2016 22:51

This is a joke right? What a bizarre thing to get so wound up over. It literally has nothing to do with you and has no impact on your life. Build a bridge OP!

Velvetdarkness · 01/12/2016 22:53

Windin - that's pretty much what I said when I reported the thread.

Crunchymum · 01/12/2016 22:54

We had names when we announced birth for both (one sex unknown the other we knew sex)

I've had a friend "forget" to tell us the name of her baby

I've had sil invite us over and ask us to name the baby it was between 3 names tbf

I've known a few people to name baby and then change their mind.

Basically there is no set rule.

Be patient. And make sure you gush about the name Grin

AnnieAnoniMouse · 01/12/2016 22:55

You need a bigger spoon, you can't wind up with this little one..

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