Just name the baby!!

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My ds and bil had a baby yesterday afternoon and still haven't named it yet.

I'm getting a bit irritated that they couldn't think of a name before the child was born -- they've had a fair few months to decide a couple of names, see the baby and name it ffs.

Why aren't some people allowed to know at scans?!

Some hospitals have a blanket policy of not telling the sex. In areas where girls are more likely to be terminated.

I think people who name their baby before even meeting it are weird OP.

We took 2 weeks to name ours. We wanted to be certain. Why would you HAVE to name them immediately anyway?

MissVictoria, my NHS Trust has a sign up stating that 20 week scans are anomaly scans not gender scans. They didn't ask whether we wanted to know the sex and we never asked. In practice, friends of mine have been told if they've asked but not as a matter of course.

Yabvu a name is important so you have to get it right, we always had a short list but took a while once baby arrived to choose which name suited

We tried a few each time apart from ds5 when we just had one boys name.

But we varied from taking a day to two weeks to name our children, don't give a shit if it pissed anyone off we wanted to make sure the names we chose were right.

South, similar to others - pregnancy nickname, baby boy, and various terms of endearment...it felt totally normal for us.

And sure, it may feel to you like an anticlimax when the name is announced, but (in the nicest possible way!) so what...? Naming a baby isn't for the benefit of other people. Some people choose a name before getting pregnant, some people wait. Each to their own, I say.

What others said Miss, when Dsis had her dcs they had a sign up saying essentially 'we are not allowed to tell you the sex so don't ask' - they didn't say why but I think it was the girls being terminated risk.

I'm just disappointed about the typo. I wanted a dramatic back story about how the son had got it together with the brother-in-law.

Demented? Wow - so over-reacting AND offensive

I didnt want to know what I was having either time. I wanted the surprise, I didnt care if they were boys or girls, what was I going to do about it anyway? Everyones different nobody is 'wrong'.

I had a list of names with their dad for our first and we decided together but it took forever! We did have the name by the time he was born but he was 10 days late! We decided the name we had chosen suited him so we stuck to it, if it had not suited him we would have changed it.

As I had basically suggested his name my ex chose the 2nd (he found out at the scan what I was having but kept it a secret so had plenty time to think )and I loved it. We both agreed to the middle names. It was our decision, our babies, it didnt concern anyone else.

Whats the rush? The baby doesnt care!

I have to say I agree with you op!!!! Yanbu. I just don't understand why after nearly 9 months people don't have 1 boy's name and 1 girl's name ready and agreed upon... I find it v annoying. Although it's only here on MN that I've seen this.. everyone I know has announced the birth with the baby's name.

But I didn't find out the sex of either of my babies. Liked the surprise element- and had a name ready for boy or girl...

There's the usual faux 'surprise' and lack of understanding about anyone doing something differently to you - some of you must spend your lives in a perpetual state of shock

In contrast, I can't understand how people name their baby before it is born. I totally understand why people do it, just don't understand how they manage to.

I am due on Sunday with DC2, we don't know the sex and have a list of names we like, but in no way have we committed to a name. We both feel we need to meet the baby first, but everyone does it differently.

In our case, there's a "J" theme running through the family, we found out the sexes of the twins, and named them accordingly with the J names we liked best. We agreed it would be cruel to not give them J names when we all have them! lol.

With ds1 we had a favourite boys name and a favourite girls name (actually I hated it but ex was desperate to use it) and a short list of 2 or 3 other names for each gender.
Ds1 was born, we discussed it (well we looked at eachother and at him) and decided our favourite name was 'his'

With ds2 we did the same plus had a few names on the definitly not list.
None of the names we had shortlisted suited him and he has one from the 'definitly not' list.

A relative of mine had stillborn twins a couple of years ago but at least they were named by the time the grandparents got home that evening hey

Please tell me this is a joke why is it any of your business how long it takes them to name the baby, as long as they are all healthy why does it matter

I found out ds was a boy. Had a name from 20 weeks... he has a different name from our original choice. He was named within ten minutes. Dd1, didn't find out gender, had lists of both genders, girls name 1 was given before I came round properly after surgery. Dd2 was six's weeks early. We dudnt find out gender/sex. Boy name easily decided. Months of arguing over girls names. I had two favourites OH had none. Took us three days to name her. We were frustrated at. Or having a name but it's not as simple as I like Jeffery. Your name is Jeffery. What if Jeffery should have been Victor?

I think your being VERY unreasonable. This whole situation is nothing for you to be getting pissy at. Your dsis and bil will name THEIR child when they are good and ready. Not when you dictate they should. Wise up and find a real problem to bitch and moan about!

Just like I don't get people who don't want to find out the sex of their baby. Demented if you ask me.

Sorry to break it to you, but you caring so much what other people do in the personal lives is the only thing that's demented here.

Also, being unable to see things from others' perspective is a sign of low intelligence. Just so you know how you are coming across.

What happens to a person to make them so unable to understand that people might want or need to do things differently to how they'd do it? Something in childhood? Please can someone tell me so I can try to make sure my kids aren't like that?

I can imagine a day or two personally (tho both mine were named at birth) but find weeks of mulling over a strange concentrated. Each to their own of course... but it does strike me as a little self indulgent. I think it's a relatively new thing to do.

Ridiculous autocorrection - strange concept. Not concentrated.

OP - come close - IT'S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS FFS!

puglife15 I think it's caused by a condition called 'being thick'.

Meh. My youngest niece is over 2 weeks old now and has no name. She's gorgeous and I get to have squishy cuddles.

My sister is stressing no end about it because she and her dp can't agree on anything. It's upsetting her that baby has no name and she's fed up with 'has baby got a name yet' comments.

Support your sister as this really isn't as cut and dried as you seem to think it is.

We had no name before the birth. We had a shortlist but explicitly didn't decide on a name before the birth in case it didn't suit her

I got told off in the hospital once for not having named my 2-day-old! By a HCA I think.

Her: So what's her name, then?
Me: ¯\(ツ)/¯
Her: You do have to NAME that baby, you know!

Oh, really? I thought she'd just go by "it" until we had another and needed to tell them apart...