Just name the baby!!

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My ds and bil had a baby yesterday afternoon and still haven't named it yet.

I'm getting a bit irritated that they couldn't think of a name before the child was born -- they've had a fair few months to decide a couple of names, see the baby and name it ffs.

You'd have hated me OP.. Eldest was, I grant you, named before birth. Middle was six days old before we picked a name. Youngest was nearly three and a half weeks old! Sometimes it's not easy. Suck it up. At least the baby's healthy and here safely..

YANBU I don't get the whole 'what it looks like' it looks like a baby. How can a baby not suit a name? I had my names picked out by 20 weeks and as soon as I knew what gender then I knew name. I even have Xmas cards address to me and bump name at 22 weeks.

sometimes the name you like doesn't fit when you meet your baby

True ragamuffin - I'll have to simmer down. I'm sure the name will be lovely and I can write a congratulations card and an xmas card with baby's actual name in.

It took my sister 3 weeks to finally decide on a name for her DS. Totally unnecessary, but a day or two is fine, not every child looks like the name a parent has chosen before the birth.

I didn't find out the sex of Ds1 and DD. Ds1 didn't have a name for 4 days because we kept changing our minds. He was going to be Rhys (or Emma) and when he was born he didn't look like a Rhys and I'd totally gone off the name, so it took us 4 days to agree on another one.

All babies look like Winston Churchill or Phil Mitchell after all.

You must have a lot of time on your hands if this bothers you so much OP

You don't get people who don't want to find out the sex of their baby? Seriously?

Here's the thing, this is not about you.

Get a grip OP.

Demented? Rather strong language, don't you think?

Do you really think that anyone who does things differently to you is wrong? Your way is the only correct way?

Well, my DC was born at 34 weeks and didn't have a name for at least two weeks. If they had been the opposite sex they would have so it was the luck of the draw really.

As for not finding out the sex making you "demented" perhaps some people just don't want to because it's really really not a big deal in the grand scheme of things?

I even have Xmas cards address to me and bump name at 22 weeks.

How weird. That would jinx things too much for me.

I just don't get people who think others are demented because they do things differently to them. Get over yourself OP.

You would hate the tradition in my family then OP. Name is not announced until the baby is christened. This usually happens around 6-12 weeks old.

We only decided on our children's name after they arrived. I have a friend who took 6 weeks before they felt a name was right.

Up to each person IMO.

We were still debating our child's name on the registry office steps, 3 weeks after the birth.

Sometimes things aren't simple.

We had decided on a name before birth, but I can imagine it's hard if you're stuck between two and both of you prefer a different name. It's not like they'll be putting off naming their child they might just feel differently after the birth

As for finding out the sex, why is it weird not to find out? I didn't - I didn't want to. Just because you can doesn't mean you have to (and sometimes you can't find out, and sometimes they get it wrong!)
Made no difference to my pregnancy, birth, or choosing a name - we just had a boys name and a girls name picked.

I can't believe anyone would get worked up about this.

I am 40+2, we have a list of potential names and we know that she's a girl. If none of them suit her when we meet her we will need to find something that does.

To be honest I think YABVVVU - the baby isn't yours and they have to feel that they will be comfortable with it for a lifetime. If you want to send a card then do, without the name on it. I don't think it's attention seeking - we won't be naming our daughter until we meet her.

What complete and utter fucking shit. Reported. If it's not shite then the op is a knobhead. Sorry, but it's true.

I even have Xmas cards address to me and bump name at 22 weeks.

How weird. That would jinx things too much for me.

My concern is how they were delivered to the foetus.

You know what, some women have traumatic births and need to focus on recovering and learning to care for a newborn. Big deal if they don't immediately choose a name! Get a grip OP

YABVVU. Just that. Disgusting. Give them a chance.

Meh.. I called DS 'It' for the first week of his life - despite us having a name for him.

As we didn't find out whether I was having a boy or girl until he actually popped out the baby was an 'it'.

He has a name now.

People do things differently shocker!

You'll be a wonderful Aunty I'm sure OP