Just name the baby!!

[ticklemyonewhisker]

My ds and bil had a baby yesterday afternoon and still haven't named it yet.

I'm getting a bit irritated that they couldn't think of a name before the child was born -- they've had a fair few months to decide a couple of names, see the baby and name it ffs.

gets my goat too. YANBU.

We chose a name for DS. Then he was born. The name did NOT suit him at all. It took us a day to decide which backup we liked best. It's not always as simple as you had it.

There is only one boys' name that both DH and I like. We used it for DS1. By the time we were on DS3 people did have to wait a few days to find out the name because we were really struggling to find something that suited him and that we could both agree on. It's really nobody else's problem. We didn't want to find out if they were boys or girls when I was pregnant because it really didn't matter to us. And in the birth announcements I see these days on Facebook etc there's quite often a 'here is baby, weighs Xlbs, mother and child doing well, name to follow in due course' I don't think it's unusual at all.

I know someone who changed her child's name when it was nearly a year old, a week before the deadline.

DH and I took several days because we couldn't agree. We were one of those " demented" types who didn't find out the sex as well. Actually when we were having the scan the person at the hospital said that in their experi nice the people who find out the sex tend to be from "lower socio economic groups". How inappropriate is that? Funny but inappropriate!

I'm 38 weeks pregnant and still umming and ahhing a bit on the name. We've been thinking about names since the 20wk scan, but are still not 100%. If DD came tomorrow, we wouldn't have a name straight away. So shoot us?

We had pretty much chosen before birth but when he arrived I just wasn't feeling it. We took over a week and chose a name which wasn't on any of our lists. It's totally normal to take a bit of time and very unreasonable of the op to judge them for the delay.

"I'm sorry I just don't get it! I have 2 dc and picked their names months in advance."

Good for you. None of ours (we have three) had a name to be born to and went several days to over a week before we made a final decision. It was ok...our babies didn't know they didn't have a name yet and managed to grasp it when they did.

Why on earth are you so annoyed by this?

Can someone please explain the whole "reverse" thing to me on MN? i have tried to apply it to threads where it has been suggested but just can't get my head around it!!

I didn't find out what sex the first two were...and they wouldn't tell me the sex of number three even though I needed to know because we were house hunting and didn't know how many bedrooms we would need. So I never knew the sex of any of mine.
So demented!

You seriously can't be for real?!?! This is not about you, wind your neck in woman! If you were my sister and behaving like this I wouldn't bloody tell you when I had named my child!!

You're going to be a nightmare of an auntie if you think decisions about your sister's child should somehow revolve around you.

We took six weeks to name ds2!! By week 5.5 we were drawing names from hats

Demented, irate, fuming, unreasonable, etc etc...

But it's such a huge decision! Literally you have your name your whole life and studies have been done which show how much your name can affect your prospects in life!

Plus great if you have names you love - I have one for if I ever have a daughter that I'm 99% sure we'll use - but when our ds was born we only had a couple of boys' names we both liked and struggled to decide for sure as it just felt so final. I think for me there was the additional feeling that giving baby a name made it real that he wasn't a bump any more, iyswim - it took me 30 hours after his birth to really come to terms with everything and agree to a final decision on his name.

I know people who've called the baby by its given name in utero and others who've taken literally weeks to decide. Doesn't bother me as it's none of my business although I have my opinion on both extremes!

Irritated is a bit strong, but I do find it weird. You have at least 6 months to make a shortlist, how hard can it be. People are just trying to make themselves more interesting, by copying the royals who don't announce the baby names for a few days. I don't get the fact that you have to "meet" the baby first. It's a baby. You love him/her, s/he's wonderful, but a newborn does not have a personality yet. They're too exhausted to recover from the birth anyway.

Demented

Really?

Let's face it, you only want to know the name so you can judge and make snidey comments behind their back if it's not a name of your liking You seem that type anyway OP.

friends of ours took 2.5 weeks to name their baby.
When baby was born we asked "have you got a name for the baby?" and they said "not yet" We thought very strange name for baby! Eventually name announced on facebook but several years down the line we still refer to the baby as 'not yet'!

Can someone please explain the whole "reverse" thing to me on MN? i have tried to apply it to threads where it has been suggested but just can't get my head around it!!

It just means that people write the op from the opposite perspective. So in this case, if the op was a reverse, the op would actually be the sil who hasn't yet named her baby but posting from the opposite stance to see what the responses would be. This one sounds like a reverse because it is so hard to believe that the op actually is serious

'Demented' I was 'demented' with all three of my children!

I think it's weird to name a baby before it's born

I named my DS after a book character (didn't regret it) and have already named my DTwins even though I'm not due until February. But naming children is such a personal thing, at the end of the day, YABVU because it's none of your damn business how long they take to pick out the perfect name.

We took five weeks. Why on earth that would be anyone's business other than ours I have no idea at all... Attention seeking? Really?! Honestly, I'd just had my first baby. I needed absolutely no attention from anyone! Some people want to do a big announcement with name immediately, some wait a while. It's up to the parents, no one else.

We picked a boy's and a girl's name for each of our babies - but one of them just didn't look like the name we picked. It took a week or so to find one that suited him.

It's because you want to announce it on fb isn't it.

Tip: never announce someone else's baby on fb.

I have found that invariably people who wait for days and weeks after birth to come up with a name, come up with something very popular....

I'm always left thinking "Seriously - it took you 11 days to come up with Jack/Emily/Findlay/Amelia"....