tenporary, my point was your solution wasnt a compromise on any way shape or form. It's literally like me saying "well if you want your DH overnight here's my compromise - I won't bring mine over night if you dont bring yours"
You have shown zero regard for other people's feelings. It was you, in fact, who used the charming phrase "fucking selfish" in regard to a new mother who might want a bit of partner support and to try and make them feel bad. Want to talk about gaslighting, do you, dear??
For the millionth time - I said women who disregard other people's feelings about their DHs and won't and don't care in any way are fucking selfish, and this stands true. I didn't say women who want support are selfish. But keep trying for that medal in Making Shit Up Because It's Convenient To My Argument.
This thread is about partner staying overnight - you got your way in that yours did. i never said you got your way in terms of an ideal birth.
And yes I do expect you to give a thought to other women on the wards but it's clear that's pointless as you're not the least bit interested in doing so
I understand perfectly what gaslighting is thanks peeps. Deny it all you want, but it's twattish to tell a woman that her discomfort with sharing a room when in a vulnerable state with 5 strange men is hysterical, dramatic and sexist, when you don't know why she feels that way (even when she has said there's a valid reason for feeling that way). Would cunt be a better word to describe it if you don't like 'gaslighting'?