But your right to have 24 hour access forYour DH rather than 12 hour trumps my right to not have the trauma of strange men around?
Yes. For the umpteenth time, I am not happy about it, but I think it's the lesser of two evils. I agree with a PP that you border on the hysterical when you talk about men, however.
*Oh. My. God. Just stop fabricating.
That was what I actually experienced because the man in the next curtain (during visiting hours) was so very close, my point being having him so close 24/7 rather than just 12 hours would have been twice as awful. *
How am I fabricating? Your solution to people not having this issue is to ban men from the ward for 12 hours overnight. But the 12 hours during the day are precisely when you are most likely to have to talk to the doctor about your bits!
I'd have a quiet discussion with them, and thank god that the bloke next door won't be within earshot the whole time I have to talk about my vagina/fart/cry/feed. Because I deserve respite from other people's partners, wether they are nice or nasty is absolutely irrelevant.
See above. It's at least 50/50 that the bloke WILL be there, if you give it a 12/12 split. In fact, far more than that, given that you are more likely to have this conversation during your own imposed daytime visiting hours.
*HAHA! That's not a compromise! I asked what's your compromise for women who DON'T want your partner there. "Well you can have yours too" is not a compromise, because not everyone has a partner, nor every partner wants to or can stay. Even so, did you think NHS policy was going to be made so only you, temporary could have your partner there? It's very good of you too extend this to others grinhmm That's basically you finding a loophole to get your way. That's like me saying "my compromise is that I won't bring my own DH in"
What would be your compromise for women who don't want any partners there? Or do you just not give a shot as long as you're getting your way?*
It's hardly getting my way when my partner has to spend 3 nights upright in a plastic chair. But it was better than the alternative, and I am very grateful that my hospital had that policy. If it hadn't, I would have looked for one that did, given that London has more options than most places.
I think I would probably be in favour of paying £1,000 per baby to cover the costs of additional care. That would be my compromise.
It's not rocket science. If there's a queue at the patient loo, people will go to the visitors loo. Having men overnight will extend all queues (and some men will still be twats and use patient loos)
The visitors' toilets were down a flight of steps or right down the other end of the corridor and outside a midwife's station. But good luck getting your catheter down there, dear. If you're lucky enough to have been given a catheter stand that is, unlike some of the people on the previous thread.