Ok, this is my question...if you know anyone who has never really worked? All her life being SAHM and even now when children at uni...

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This lady is the only case I knew. Please enlighten me with your stories!

Well I bank rolled him for our first 16 years together and bought all of our property, so now he bank rolls me and our property remains in my name. And I collect all the children's dla & my carers allowance straight into respective saving accounts that I have access to and he doesn't, as well as our joint accounts.

Work is a fucking mugs game.

My SIL has never worked, even after leaving school. She had her children in her early 20's, she's now 55.

I know a few. Fucks me off when they say how busy/tired they are. I don't envy them because there is NO WAY I could ever be kept. Just feels wrong to be bankrolled by someone else

I hope nobody bothers replying to such an obvious troll.

Would you like a with your

gillybeanz do you really think throughout history the only jobs available to women was teaching or nursing?

Our local history of 200 years or so has women working with their children in cotton mills and in the fields. They didn't have to wait for childcare for heavens sake, they took the children with them.

I much prefer the Pokemon thread.

Kept woman always seems a bit mistressy to me

A bit more exotic than SAHM

I'm 38 and I've hardly ever worked. I had about two years of working supermarket/waitressing sort of jobs when I was doing my A levels, so always part time. Then I had my DS when I was 19 and he's disabled, so it was pretty difficult for most of his childhood and financially there wasn't a need to. I'm doing a Master's now and I might start working when I finish, but although DS is an adult now he is still not very independent so it might be too difficult.

I do quite like having the days to myself when DS is at college and I keep myself pretty busy with study, hobbies, sport etc. I don't know any other women who don't work (except a few who have spent a few years sahming) and they are often a bit puzzled if they find out that I don't, but then many of them don't realise the severity of DS's disabilities and it's not something I like to go into with casual acquaintances.

Whole estates on lifelong benefits. Both sexes. Third generation.

Which estates are these?

I don't know anyone who's done this well enough to comment on what they really think/feel about their situation. Anecdotally speaking about those I know of it seems to be as much about circumstance as anything. There is a world of difference between being a SAHM out of choice with an income that facilitates you having interests/hobbies you can pursue and building the life you want for yourself, and being a SAHM who lives in or near to poverty and can't afford to do anything other than housework and watching daytime TV because even a coffee out with other mums is beyond your budget.

None of my aunts worked after they married. Neither did my mother - she was obliged to give up her job (civil service marriage ban). One of my aunts never had a paid job at all - didn't work after she left school. I wouldn't say she didn't work though. She reared 4 children, kept the house going, and catered for my uncle's business dinners/events (up to 150 people on once occasion) herself.

My husband's aunt never worked. She has an excellent degree, never married, stayed with her mother and "minded" her (no real minding required), traveled, met her friends, read extensively. They had a bit of family money so she could do this. She is a lovely interesting woman.

I've been on here for ages. Not a troll, although I do work bloody hard....strange concept I know.

do tell your words of wisdom jackshit
Where is btfly2
has cat got your tongue

JackShit

What makes you think that SAHM mums don't work hard? I am amazing in bed, so it doesn't come cheap. Hun.

^ amazing!!!

I love watching This morning
I'm a lazy bitch
I stay in my pajamas frequently
... Bloody love it

My mum had my eldest brother in '77 and never went back to work.

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Ahh we are sooo jealous aren't we jackshit

Those norty SAHMS have it all

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I think that has been proved to be a complete load of bollocks

Could be wrong though so if you have some links that would be good

Is there anyone more tiresome than someone who proclaims themselves a "bloody hard worker"

Hi, I'm here, never left.

Ive asked mumsnet to remove the post because I'm not interested to continue with this as it looks some people think I'm a journalist or a troll and...Im not, not at all.
Anyway, a bit tired now of this. I know my English is not perfect ( non native speaker) so when I try to explain something sometimes is can be misunderstood.
The original question was if you know anyone that never ever worked in their professional ground since started their own family and family commitments.
Last time I'm saying this: I'm not a troll or from the press/ media.

All my aunts.

I think those who say that women have always worked don't look at the bigger picture tbh and mostly throughout time they haven't

It's really you that's missing the bigger picture here. Historically upper class women and more in more recent history middle class women (the teachers etc you mentioned) after marriage didn't do paid work outside the house (lots of sewing/cooking/raising kids etc), but poor women have always worked.

Plenty of married women working in the fields in agricultural societies and then factories.

I have family records for my great-great grandmother showing she worked in the same iron foundry as my great-great grandfather from a young child till shortly before she died. She was paid a fraction of what the men were and also raised nine children (most of whom, girls and boys, did a few years of schooling then also worked in the iron foundry). On his death certificate my great-great grandfather's states his occupation as a foundry worker. On my great-great grandmothers death certificate despite the years of work her occupation is listed as 'wife'.

Gosh I wish I didn't have to work really but then again I'd love to have a successful and creative career rather than just a boring low paid job.

Tbh, I think there is a lot of dignity and pride in earning your own money. And satisfaction. I'm amazed at the amount of women who seem to have snagged wealthy men. Mind you, I wouldn't swap my darling dp for all the tea in china and he's not wealthy.