Ok, this is my question...if you know anyone who has never really worked? All her life being SAHM and even now when children at uni...

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This lady is the only case I knew. Please enlighten me with your stories!

I don't know anyone like this not even my gran or great-gran - Poor women like my gran/great-gran and her friends & acquaintances usually did things for a few bob from home- things like sew dresses, provide baby massages/baths, baby sitting etc

So you think being a sahm isn't work? Do you have children op?

But to answer the OP original question, there is a lady down the road. Raised six kids, never 'worked', but now looks after her elderly mother. She basically CAN'T go out to work as has other commitments.
I really don't know what she does all day. Must be bored out of her nut!

My DM (although she did work for 15 years or so before she had children).

Normal stuff really - she looks after the house (dad works), plays bridge and tennis, sits on a couple of local committees, helps organise and run community events, goes into a primary school to hear children read. My siblings are still at home/university too so she'll take them up at the beginning of term, come up to help clean at the end of the year etc

I was wondering about people able to work who decide not to do it. That's it.

What relevance is this 'lady' you know of?

at PoisonusSmurf

I am a sahm, always have been. Eldest in uni, one in boarding school, two others part-time boarders. What do you want to know?

Actually I've just had a nosey through your history OP and you do come across exactly like a journalist/researcher.

And one that's a little obsessed with SAHMs.

You were posting 'curiously' for 'opinions' on the same subject (amongst others) well over a year ago, before coming back with a "Thank you for your honest answers ladies"...

Why not just be honest?

No. Everyone I know either works or has worked.

Yep, me. Well I mean I worked before my kids but then DH got made redundant and couldn't find a job at his profession in the UK. Options were to live apart, or for one or other of us to give up working. He earns about 3x what I did (lawyer vs scientist) so we moved and I gave up my job.
I could work here (for now... with Brexit coming, who knows) but all day childcare is hard to find and I like being around the kids.

I hate these threads because everyone gets put in the defensive and you start feeling like SAH is the ONLY WAY or WOH is the ONLY WAY and I suspect most people make the best of their circumstances rather than having 100 percent free choice about what to do.

Busted by Worra

I know someone who had her first child at 16, has gone on to have three more with different fathers and has never worked a day in her life. I presume this is the kind of scandalous tale you're after?

I am a sahm.
I ponce about the house all day spending my husband's money and manicuring my nails.

Is that the sort of thing you want to put in the daily mail op?
Probably not because I didn't tell you how much my house cost or attached a sad face pic.

Do you mean what will happen financially when they retire?

Ta for the heads up, WL.

I was sahm for 25 years, have just started pt work (20 hours)
two of ours were at College/ Uni and I wasn't working.
I'm not retirement age yet, but hoping to in next few years, I'm 50.
Walked straight into a job, min wage, but haven't had a career or wanted one since ds1 was born.
What is it you want to know?

Yep - my mum. She gave up working after marrying my dad, and followed him to overseas postings. In the Asian countries, her extra income would have put them into the next tax bracket and they would have been worse off, and in the African countries, she would never have gotten a work visa. She filled her time doing lots of things for 'Women's Circle' type institutions and seeing friends. Now she and my dad (now retired) are living the life between here and another country, and they have a good life together.

Unfortunately, she still tries to tell me what to do about job interviews... her last job interview was almost 40 years ago she is narc and yelled at me in the street recently that I was a "fool" because I told her that I wouldn't use her suggestion in a job interview (it wouldn't be relevant to the role).

I know women with trust funds who sahm and then study. Am

I know someone who got married straight after Uni - only worked a couple of years, then became a serial expat and hasn't 'worked' (in a paid capacity) since. Her 'job' is to move the family and keep everything afloat.
Seems very happy!

Maybe the OP Mail journo has a problem leaving their child and wants to know about being a sahm?
Do people have to go to uni to be a journalist?
hell, anyone can do it

How about you share your own story and explain why you want to know?

"Actually I've just had a nosey through your history OP and you do come across exactly like a journalist/researcher."

Oh no, no, no. I REALLY wish I'd seen this post before I posted. Fuck off journo, ta!

In this day and age, it would be fairly unusual to have DC as soon as you finish school/uni, without some sort of work in between, no?

But obviously the longer you're out of work, the harder it is to get back in.

Ooh is this for The Wright Stuff or Loose Women? Or Take a Break maybe?