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AIBU to use childcare while being a SAHM?

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SwimmerLakes · 28/11/2016 01:53

Hi... I actually have no idea if I'm being U or not!

My baby girl is a year and 2 months. I'm a SAHM - well, kind of - I am part-time. I do 2 night shifts a week. Which I admit DH does have her, but she's asleep... I bath her and put her to bed before I go to work (which I'm more than happy doing).

I have her all the other time which of course is lovely. So I look after her when DH is at work Smile so kind of SAHM. I feel lucky to be able to do this.

I do 3 classes a week (singing lessons, piano lessons and karate) in which my mum looks after her for. I also go to the gym but that's when she is in bed and I do that the evenings I'm not working.

AIBU to let my mum look after her for those classes I do? DH thinks I am because I'm a SAHM and shouldn't really do the classes as they get in the way of my 'job' Confused my mum loves looking after her for the hour and really enjoys spending that fun with her on her own.

I don't know what to do. I feel guilty now for still doing the classes, as he is right, he's supporting me too with money as he has a much bigger income. I obviously have a small income too but that doesn't go that far. I feel badSad

OP posts:
MillionToOneChances · 28/11/2016 20:00

When does he think he should spend time 'being a dad!?

YANBU!!

flibflob · 28/11/2016 20:11

Joining in with the chorus of YANDBU and your H needs to step the fuck up. I'm so angry on your behalf.

ShowMePotatoSalad · 28/11/2016 20:16

Why does your DH begrudge you a bit of time to go and do some classes FFS? Does he not want you to have any leisure time at all, or do things you enjoy?

It's also great for your DD and your mum to spend time together. Sounds like an absolutely lovely arrangement.

Just don't understand why your DH would have a problem with this. Sad

YoHoHoandabottleofTequila · 28/11/2016 20:41

Does he want to be a Dad OP? As it doesn't sound like it.

Oh and you aren't a sahm.

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