To think that some people have no idea how to conduct themselves?

[Luckster]

I'm fuming this evening. I'm a teacher and work long hours like lots of other people so I'm totally exhausted and may have overreacted slightly to this.
Background information - dh is a cub leader. Not the only leader, but one of a team and one of them ( not sure which one but fairly sure it isn't dh has organised a visit to an activity centre tomorrow.

Having my dinner this evening and a woman knocks on my door. I don't know her but recognise her as a parent if a cub and know she lives somewhere on the road behind me. I answer the door and she starts off saying what's happening tomorrow then? I could tell she was worked up but as I have nothing to do with cubs I have no idea what they are doing and told her so. She was getting note and more upset and asked if dh was in. When I said no she pretty much tried to barge in. Basically she hasn't seen an email about times for tomorrow, has no idea what is going on and was crying and getting hysterical by this stage saying over and over - but I'm a nurse - what am I supposed to do?

She was really over the top and most definitely unhinged and then started ranting about it being unacceptable. I pointed out there was nothing that I could do and all I could do was speak I dh when he got home and see if he knew. I pointed out that he also works long hours and is a volunteer so sometimes he may not email in a timely manner but he is doing his best. (I refer back to the fact that I am pretty certain it is not him organising this event). Anyway she ranted on and on (hysteria!) so I told her she was too emotional and needed to get her shit together. I also told her not to darken my door again with her screaming and ranting and promptly shut the door and went inside.

Seriously there was nothing j could do to help her. I appreciate its frustrating and she just wanted to get organised but to yell and scream at a volunteers wife because they have no idea what is happening is just unreasonable.

She's pretty lucky I didn't tell her to fuck right off as I'm pretty conversant with swear words! I feel I was quite restrained to me. God knows how she'll react if I see her in the street again in our small village. Oh my god, I am actually so wound up. Seriously who goes and knocks on someone's door randomly and act unhinged because you don't know what time you are supposed to be somewhere??!! People are bloody hard work!

Genuinely laughing at some of these replies. Yep, clearly I'm a cold-hearted cow who should hang my head in shame. Bollocks to that. I was sympathetic to a point. But as I have already said - the woman had all the details. The emails had been sent, permission slips (with the details on) had been signed and returned. She had everything she needed if she just read her emails.
Definitely can't compete with some of the saintly souls on here. I'm going all the way to hell in a handcart clearly!!

Luckster I think the lesson in this is if you just made the effort to be psychic then you could have told the poor dear exactly what she needed to know.

Must try harder Miss

I do wonder about teachers who in my mind (my mum was one) usually especially in a village have standards to keep up and aren't expected to conduct themselves like fishwives. It's supposed to be a respected profession.

Anyone can become a teacher. I have met many who were not in the right profession over the years. I don't think that in this century teachers/doctors/police officers are respected as they were 'back in the day'. I don't think the OP acted in a poor manner.

MDR at the idea of the OP inviting the agitated lady in for a cuppa!

This is one of the reasons I love MN.

Someone's sitting outside your house in their car for a while? Log it with 101.

Neighbour's cat giving you evils? Log it with 101.

PIL turning up unannounced? Cheeky bastards. Don't answer the door and go NC and log it with 101 for good measure.

BUT

Someone turns up at your door getting aerated about something that's nothing to do with you? Invite them in, offer them tea, and attempt to conduct some DIY therapy

Someone's sitting outside your house in their car for a while? Log it with 101.

This jolted my memory. Does anyone remember the thread where a poster said that some man would come and park outside her remote house every day for weeks?

DH used to volunteer as a sports coach and people like this woman are part of the reason he quit. The kids were great, the parents not so much! No matter how much you organise and prepare for activities there's always one who expects someone else to do the thinking for them and it sounds like that's who you got on your doorstep.
YANBU at all OP.

super why have you sent me a PM threatening to report me? no I wasn't saying you were mentally unwell. Jewz its not all about you.

Blimey. Can't see you said anything worth being reported over. Wowsers.

If you're going to report someone surely you just get on with it? Why send threats via PM?

As for the OP - I'm a bloody counsellor and I wouldn't have let this woman in to rant.

ilovesooty I think you misunderstood. You have a stressful job, so you're allowed to knock on someone's door and be all shouty and rude.

Luckster Did you think this would be the response when you first posted?
It sounds like you had a horrible experience and I don't know if I would be quite as patient as you were.
I'm suprised that there are so many people who would happily invite a ranting, unstable stranger into their home and I didn't realise that teachers aren't allowed to swear in public
Anyway thanks for starting this thread it's been hilarious and I hope it's cheered you up.

When I was a kid my dad was involved in a local group. A guy I recognised but only through my dad, came to the door one night and was asking me if my dad had starting delivering some leaflets. I said I didn't know. The guy then proceeded to ask me what I was doing and why I wasn't delivering them. I said because I don't volunteer for the group my dad does and shut the door on him. Apparently he complained to my dad later that week. My dad told him what I'd done was totally fair considering I had nothing to do with the group. I love my dad.

Someone turns up at my door in the evening and starts ranting and shouting at me about something I have no knowledge off (which THEY actually have all the details of in the first place) doesnt believe me and tries to get past me into my house where my kids are.... yeah, thats fine I will just put the kettle on, ginger biccie too?

Jeeze louise never gonna happen. Who the actual frick would do that whether they knew the person had mh problems or not? Who actually lets someone, who isnt listening to what you are saying and is screaming at you to tell them something you dont know, when you dont know what they are going to do next, into their house?

You are having a laugh. Nobody is that stupid. What if she had gone further and started on the kids, what if she wouldnt leave until the dh came home (which could have been hours) ? Its absurd. OP and her kids deserve to be safe and unharrassed in their own home. It had nothing to do with her, end of.

Am an ex nurse with quite a bit of working in MH experience and I would never advise someone to put themselves in that situation. Its fecking ridiculous to say otherwise.

Ha no I definitely didn't expect some of these responses but it's definitely made me laugh. To be honest it never crossed my mind that I was being unreasonable. I was just bemused that people actually behave like that and think it's acceptable.
Anyway, turns out she saw she at Cubs the next night and asked him if I was ok. She said she was worried about me. Dh had no qualms about putting her in her place and letting her know she was well and truly out of order.

She was worried about you?! Fucking liberty
Glad your DH put her straight

Glad your DH put her right, hopefully she will get the message how totaly unacceptable it is to harrass someone on their own doorstep.

Getting I didn't threaten anything I just asked you a question. Which you didn't answer. Either way I didn't report you! So I knew your comment wasn't about me. But could have been.

If you read some of my other posts here you'll know quite a few here are bullies prone to personal attacks. And I will not hesitate to report them.

I am a guider and I would like to think my guide parents would not knock on the door and Harrass my husband, he never has a bloody clue what I'm up to half the time.
We do have some parents who seem to think that your sole job in life is to respond to them straight away. For the last few years I have worked in a school and I would regularly get them being snippy for not responding straight away. I think most believe you get paid.
9 times out of 10 letters would have gone out or texts and they don't bother to bloody read them!!

She was worried about you?

What did your DH say and what was her response? Some people have zero self-awareness!

Still don't understand why op posted their professions and she did though not intentionally dripfeed re this woman being highly strung!

Still your DH has had a go at her, maybe he should have a go at all parents in his cub group who are disorganised. Personally even though you say he sent emails etc I think people forgetting details etc are par for the course (as someone else said) with being a cub leader etc and long term would/could it happen again with another parent?

Perhaps the husband has taken the view that the other disorganised parents have not turned up uninvited at his house and harassed his wife.

You sound utterly deranged SFH' You are also a massive attention seeker. Why are you persisisting with these idiotic observations and questions..

Absolute belter of a thread

I should probably resign (teacher) because I often go into the resource cupboard to have a wee swear - in a quiet voice of course so pupils don't hear.

Clearly I'm letting the side down.

I also sometimes have a glass of wine or two out and about in public - I expect that's worthy of a jail sentence?