I'm fuming this evening. I'm a teacher and work long hours like lots of other people so I'm totally exhausted and may have overreacted slightly to this.
Background information - dh is a cub leader. Not the only leader, but one of a team and one of them ( not sure which one but fairly sure it isn't dh has organised a visit to an activity centre tomorrow.
Having my dinner this evening and a woman knocks on my door. I don't know her but recognise her as a parent if a cub and know she lives somewhere on the road behind me. I answer the door and she starts off saying what's happening tomorrow then? I could tell she was worked up but as I have nothing to do with cubs I have no idea what they are doing and told her so. She was getting note and more upset and asked if dh was in. When I said no she pretty much tried to barge in. Basically she hasn't seen an email about times for tomorrow, has no idea what is going on and was crying and getting hysterical by this stage saying over and over - but I'm a nurse - what am I supposed to do?
She was really over the top and most definitely unhinged and then started ranting about it being unacceptable. I pointed out there was nothing that I could do and all I could do was speak I dh when he got home and see if he knew. I pointed out that he also works long hours and is a volunteer so sometimes he may not email in a timely manner but he is doing his best. (I refer back to the fact that I am pretty certain it is not him organising this event). Anyway she ranted on and on (hysteria!) so I told her she was too emotional and needed to get her shit together. I also told her not to darken my door again with her screaming and ranting and promptly shut the door and went inside.
Seriously there was nothing j could do to help her. I appreciate its frustrating and she just wanted to get organised but to yell and scream at a volunteers wife because they have no idea what is happening is just unreasonable.
She's pretty lucky I didn't tell her to fuck right off as I'm pretty conversant with swear words! I feel I was quite restrained to me. God knows how she'll react if I see her in the street again in our small village. Oh my god, I am actually so wound up. Seriously who goes and knocks on someone's door randomly and act unhinged because you don't know what time you are supposed to be somewhere??!! People are bloody hard work!
AIBU?
To think that some people have no idea how to conduct themselves?
Luckster · 23/11/2016 20:40
the caller was the nurse not the op, i've already made that mistake 
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Must be something in the water, OP, I've had a similar experience today - all be it, the individual concerned at least accosted me at work, rather than at home, although they do know where I live, so they could still show up!
Deep breath, glass of 
or cup of 
and keep telling yourself it's not you, it's them!
'expat just shows the difference in how we've been brought up I guess. Bad manners to just ignore someone.'
But, of course, Super, we should all bow to your moral superiority and saintliness. Anyone who doesn't behave like a modern day Mother Theresa is surely the product of poor upbringing. 
Bad manners to impose yourself on someone and when you do, not take no for an answer but continue to shoot off to someone who can't do anything about it all.
Firm but fair is usually the best approach - like Karen Brady on The Apprentice
Fucks sake a rude screaming woman practically barges into the OPs home and OP is the bad guy (and a shit nurse even though she's a teacher ha). What is it with MN?! Wouldn't be surprised if someone tells you you should have given her a cream egg to calm down OP 
Sometimes people are just nobs, and there's no reason behind it (except in MN world where armchair psychologist makes diagnoses over the Internet). This woman sounds like a rude nob, you told her tu didn't know, no amount of shouting was gonna put the correct information into your brain!
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I do t think "considering swearing" at someone constitutes not meeting teacher standards. I sometimes do very loud swearing in my head whilst I'm in class.
And expat I don't answer the door during mealtimes either. Or if I just don't feel like answering the door 
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