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To think that some people have no idea how to conduct themselves?

355 replies

Luckster · 23/11/2016 20:40

I'm fuming this evening. I'm a teacher and work long hours like lots of other people so I'm totally exhausted and may have overreacted slightly to this.
Background information - dh is a cub leader. Not the only leader, but one of a team and one of them ( not sure which one but fairly sure it isn't dh has organised a visit to an activity centre tomorrow.

Having my dinner this evening and a woman knocks on my door. I don't know her but recognise her as a parent if a cub and know she lives somewhere on the road behind me. I answer the door and she starts off saying what's happening tomorrow then? I could tell she was worked up but as I have nothing to do with cubs I have no idea what they are doing and told her so. She was getting note and more upset and asked if dh was in. When I said no she pretty much tried to barge in. Basically she hasn't seen an email about times for tomorrow, has no idea what is going on and was crying and getting hysterical by this stage saying over and over - but I'm a nurse - what am I supposed to do?

She was really over the top and most definitely unhinged and then started ranting about it being unacceptable. I pointed out there was nothing that I could do and all I could do was speak I dh when he got home and see if he knew. I pointed out that he also works long hours and is a volunteer so sometimes he may not email in a timely manner but he is doing his best. (I refer back to the fact that I am pretty certain it is not him organising this event). Anyway she ranted on and on (hysteria!) so I told her she was too emotional and needed to get her shit together. I also told her not to darken my door again with her screaming and ranting and promptly shut the door and went inside.

Seriously there was nothing j could do to help her. I appreciate its frustrating and she just wanted to get organised but to yell and scream at a volunteers wife because they have no idea what is happening is just unreasonable.

She's pretty lucky I didn't tell her to fuck right off as I'm pretty conversant with swear words! I feel I was quite restrained to me. God knows how she'll react if I see her in the street again in our small village. Oh my god, I am actually so wound up. Seriously who goes and knocks on someone's door randomly and act unhinged because you don't know what time you are supposed to be somewhere??!! People are bloody hard work!

OP posts:
ladymariner · 24/11/2016 18:39

Just wondering what is so 'hilarious' about your mum being a TA, Super??

expatinscotland · 24/11/2016 19:04

'But I shall not be answering the door to anyone this evening !'

I don't, but it's because I've been brought up poorly, apparently, and I'm rude. But I eat my dinner in peace so FUCK IT.

SuperFlyHigh · 24/11/2016 19:31

Gloopy are you bitter cos you're on a zero hours contract up north rather than an ex teacher in a leafy part of London?!

SuperFlyHigh · 24/11/2016 19:35

It's hilarious that some dopey jealous woman who was a frustrated legal secretary with ideas above her station (she was a frustrated artist) and knew full well my mum was a teacher as a mutual friend employed her at the school where she worked... As a creative writing consultant.

It's hilarious she thought my mum was a teacher when she knew full well she wasn't. I heard her bitching to a mutual friend when my mum wasn't there! Eg another location. With more than a touch of bitterness. Both of them were frustrated legal secs with ideas above there station unlike me who worked with them but retrained as a legal sec after working as a high level PA for many years.

SuperFlyHigh · 24/11/2016 19:37

expat before now I've had no ruck with you, had thought you were opinionated but nothing more...

If you want to join me in smoking the pipe of peace then go ahead...

SuperFlyHigh · 24/11/2016 19:38

OP are you allowed to swear at fellow teachers or pupils at your school? head tilt

bloodymaria · 24/11/2016 19:42

It's hilarious she thought my mum was a teacher when she knew full well she wasn't.

The plot thickens.

GloopyGhoul · 24/11/2016 19:42

Gloopyare you bitter cos you're on a zero hours contract up north rather than an ex teacher in a leafy part of London?!

Nope. I'm neither on a zero hours contract (although I have been in the past) nor up north (although, again, have been). I've never been a teacher, though, and when I lived in London it wasn't in leafy bits.

I'm not bitter. Just amused.

RebelRogue · 24/11/2016 19:43

Careful Super your lack of "decorum" is showing.

GloopyGhoul · 24/11/2016 19:44

If you want to join me in smoking the pipe of peace then go ahead...

I'll join you in smoking a pipe, for sure!

Amelie10 · 24/11/2016 19:45

*Oh, please. The kindest thing for this gal would be to say, 'Oh, sorry, I interrupted your meal, I'll wait to hear from your H.'

But on MN, there's always some excuse, she has MH issues, she's depressed, she's autistic, blah blah blah. *

Agree with expat here. Only on mn must you invite this nutbag in and entertain this nonsense. This woman was rude and unhinged, in no way should anyone ever do this.

TinselTwins · 24/11/2016 19:50

"I heard her bitching to a mutual friend"

GASP Superfy done a swear word!!!!!!! Grin

GettingitwrongHauntingatnight · 24/11/2016 19:52

Do you think she is mentally unwell?

SuperFlyHigh · 24/11/2016 20:00

Going to leave all you vipers to hiss away here..... 🐍🐍🐍

portia was spot on earlier something about us being in a school playground.

petitpois55 · 24/11/2016 20:04

Bitching eh SFH, I can't believe you said that word. Such a lack of decorum. Grin
I have no idea what you are on about, with your mother teachers, legal Secretary stories. WTF has any of that got to do with this thread. Are you sure you're the full shillingSmile

Rachel0Greep · 24/11/2016 20:06

Laughed myself silly reading further responses. I can report that I have just got in from school ( I'm a teacher didn't you know) where I did not swear, I didn't even think about swearing so I'm feeling pretty angelic. But I shall not be answering the door to anyone this evening

Once again OP, I think you were admirable in how you dealt with the situation. That woman owes you, at the very least, a heartfelt apology.

SuperFlyHigh · 24/11/2016 20:29

I think I'll report the posters here who seem to think I'm mentally unwell.

SuperFlyHigh · 24/11/2016 20:34

petitpois should I have said talking nastily? Rather than b*tching.

Love the way the vipers pile in here... Had it on another post the other week (at weekend).

Wonder why I bother here. Like I said the other week last time I start a post in AIBU think I'll consider why on earth should I reply to posts on AIBU.

If you try to make it light hearted or attempt an apology it doesn't go down well.

Think I'll consider flouncers corner. This place is going to the dogs or should that be the vipers pit??!!

SpiritedLondon · 24/11/2016 20:47

I love that people are telling the OP off for lack of empathy and for thinking of swearing ( but not actually doing so!). I wouldn't be inviting some random in myself after a day at work ( no doubt dealing with 30 kids! ) over a fucking Cub Scout event. Cubs! How entitled is that ?

CherryChasingDotMuncher · 24/11/2016 20:51

Gloopy are you bitter cos you're on a zero hours contract up north rather than an ex teacher in a leafy part of London?!

Classy. Imagine off Ofsted knew he daughter of a teacher was a xenophobe. They'd have her guts for garters!

Super I must have missed your attempt at an apology

MooPointCowsOpinion · 24/11/2016 20:51

Nah don't worry OP some people have so much time they can overthink and twist a thread until it's Alice in fucking Wonderland time.
Vipers - not only would I have told her out loud to fuck off I'm a teacher too, how about that for lack of decorum in a small community!

CherryChasingDotMuncher · 24/11/2016 20:53

It does make me chuckle mind when people come on these forums, behave like a twat (including reprimanding the OP for something she hasn't done and will never do - in this case a street fight!) and then moan that people are picking on them when theyre called up on their twatiness

SuperFlyHigh · 24/11/2016 20:55

I did try to apologise and make it light hearted but obviously no one sees this just the bad parts!

Sorry guys. Is that what you want?!!

CherryChasingDotMuncher · 24/11/2016 20:56

I missed your apology then! My apologies.

SuperFlyHigh · 24/11/2016 20:57

Cherry ofsted wouldn't give a flying fox as mummy dearest is retired!

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