I'm fuming this evening. I'm a teacher and work long hours like lots of other people so I'm totally exhausted and may have overreacted slightly to this.
Background information - dh is a cub leader. Not the only leader, but one of a team and one of them ( not sure which one but fairly sure it isn't dh has organised a visit to an activity centre tomorrow.
Having my dinner this evening and a woman knocks on my door. I don't know her but recognise her as a parent if a cub and know she lives somewhere on the road behind me. I answer the door and she starts off saying what's happening tomorrow then? I could tell she was worked up but as I have nothing to do with cubs I have no idea what they are doing and told her so. She was getting note and more upset and asked if dh was in. When I said no she pretty much tried to barge in. Basically she hasn't seen an email about times for tomorrow, has no idea what is going on and was crying and getting hysterical by this stage saying over and over - but I'm a nurse - what am I supposed to do?
She was really over the top and most definitely unhinged and then started ranting about it being unacceptable. I pointed out there was nothing that I could do and all I could do was speak I dh when he got home and see if he knew. I pointed out that he also works long hours and is a volunteer so sometimes he may not email in a timely manner but he is doing his best. (I refer back to the fact that I am pretty certain it is not him organising this event). Anyway she ranted on and on (hysteria!) so I told her she was too emotional and needed to get her shit together. I also told her not to darken my door again with her screaming and ranting and promptly shut the door and went inside.
Seriously there was nothing j could do to help her. I appreciate its frustrating and she just wanted to get organised but to yell and scream at a volunteers wife because they have no idea what is happening is just unreasonable.
She's pretty lucky I didn't tell her to fuck right off as I'm pretty conversant with swear words! I feel I was quite restrained to me. God knows how she'll react if I see her in the street again in our small village. Oh my god, I am actually so wound up. Seriously who goes and knocks on someone's door randomly and act unhinged because you don't know what time you are supposed to be somewhere??!! People are bloody hard work!
AIBU?
To think that some people have no idea how to conduct themselves?
Luckster · 23/11/2016 20:40
you're going to hide the thread SFH That's got to be the most sensible thing you've said on the whole of the thread.
Don't embarrass yourself any further than you already have. Oh and Ta Ra
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Save me a place by the fire folks, its bloody cold here today
SFF: you are deliberately being goady. Deliberately twisting things to enable yourself to keep posting nonsense. As was already explained OP didnt know the woman, her dh wasnt home to tell he she was always 'highly strung' and the stupid woman at the door kept repeating she was a nurse as if that gave her an excuse! (ex nurse here no it doesnt!) Her dh didnt 'have a go' at the woman for 'being disorganised', he told her that arriving on his doorstep and harrassing his wife, trying to get into their house and yelling at her wasnt acceptable. Funnily enough he didnt have to do this with any other parent cos she was the only one to do that!
You are just looking (and failing) to find things to insult Luckster on. Give it a rest and go and do something productive maybe like invite some complete stranger off the street into your home for a cuppa and a biccie. That might feed the need for attention you are dislpaying on this thread.
You know, take a bit of responsibility
Careful Francis, how will the OP maintain her ice-Queen cold indifference if people start being proactive and sorting themselves out? 
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It does make me snort when I read these extremely earnest and rather condescending posts from people who have judged and found you lacking, because you didn't immediately offer her a shoulder, a cup of tea and start counselling her at your kitchen table.
All of the people who I know who work in caring/service positions - Police officers, nurses and a GP - all put boundaries in place and wouldn't bring work into their homes. I know one of them who had someone turn up on their doorstep and they were very firm about only contacting them at work, and they made it clear that turning up at the front door was not to happen again.
I think people forgetting details etc are par for the course
This woman had a phone number and an email address for the Cub Leaders. Bearing in mind that the instructions went out via email, is it not easier to have a quick search of emails on your phone/laptop/tablet and refresh your memory? On what planet do you think 'I know! I could check my emails, but instead I think I will get in my car, drive to the Cub Leaders home - where I have never been invited - bang on the door, disturb his wife - who is nothing to do with the Cub group - and become increasingly hysterical when she politely tells me that she doesn't know the answer to my question and to contact the Cub Leaders instead 
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I'm coming into this having only just rtft, but may I timidly suggest that some pp have their own ... um... challenges, and it would be kindest to ignore. Ironic on a thread where we're laughing at the idea that anyone who's ranting is a delicate flower and has mh/sn/medical problems, but their posts really are quite bizarre.
Meanwhile, how lovely to hear of a DH standing up for their wife. Seems a ratio of 1:500 on here at the moment. A DH with a spine - marvellous! 
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