To plan not to have a Christmas baby?

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My partner and I are going to start trying for our second in the new year, however I think that if we don't get pregnant right away (before February) we should wait until May to avoid having a Christmas / New Year baby, basically because I've known friends with birthdays around then and they always resent it (fewer presents, people forget, nothing to look forward to the rest of the year, total first world problems I know).

Aibu thinking like this? Am I just over thinking?

DD1 born 27th Dec, should have been 25th but as I was being induced they let me stuff my face with turkey and mince pies have Christmas with my family first. She luffs it, all on holiday, DH, who works abroad, always at home, all the decorations up, and because everyone in our family so keen to make sure she doesn't get left out as it's Christmas, I'm sure she gets even more presents than she would otherwise. Also, it was a relief to be at my most pregnant during the cooler months.

We actively avoided a birthday over Christmas the first time, then avoided being early stage pregnant the second time over christmas. I don't think there is anything wrong with that and it worked for us to stagger our children's birthdays. Its your future and your business. As an aside though, if I was to have a third I would definitely rather a newborn during BST. It's grim being trapped indoors when the weather is awful and dealing with sleepless nights were easier when the sun shines the following day.

We did this

My busy time with work is usually over summer and I didn't want to miss out on work. I hoped to have the baby in October so Frankfurt book fair was out if the way and I could wind down for Christmas. I was lucky dd arrived on the 29th October.

I could spend my mat leave enjoying her when work is usually slow band picked it right back up again the summer.
With number two we will probably try and do the same

Not read the full thread so im sorry if this has already been said....

I was meant to be a late february baby, i was born mid december, sometimes these things are outwith your control! Having a december bday has never bothered me tho i do knownof others who agree with the less presents erc but tbh ive never looked at it that way

Yanbu to try not to have a Christmas baby. But, I promise you, if it takes a while for you to concieve you just won't care when baby is due when you do fall pregnant. I'm due early January after a miscarriage at 13 weeks. The amount of people who tell me what a shame it is that I didn't 'plan it better'! It gives me the actual rage. I'm lucky to be pregnant.

YANBU at all. I wanted to avoid Christmas too.

Also I am an August baby and there is nothing wrong with August!

What I do find unreasonable is the reason parents feel they need to avoid summer births that is, the fact that in England ALL 5 year olds start in September. It's like a conveyer belt and means the teacher has to cope with a class of new entrants.
In NZ a child starts on its 5 th birthday so entrance is staggered through the year. Education not compulsory until 6 so parents can withhold the child a bit longer if it's not convenient etc.
Education seems to be so regimented here but the end results based on exam results are poorer than in most other countries which are not so rigid about education.

I think it's fair enough to plan ahead and if you're lucky it'll all work out! I was lucky to get pregnant first time with all mines and my first two were born on due date (pregnant with 3Rd now) so could have planned it precisely! As it turns out tho I didn't give it any thought at all LOL.
Just to say re school: it depends on school as ours have a mixed reception/year 1 class which evens things out (so my September born girl has gone straight there to join the summer born babies who have had a year at school already and my July born girl will take the slower route potentially by having reception year and then this mixed class - altho I'll probably delay her starting school and go straight to mixed class if I can).

Personally I'm desperately hoping to be pregnant this month in order to save £££ on childcare by packing sprog off to school earlier rather than later - but perhaps I'm ridiculously callous? Also I really want a baby right now pls.

I think it's fine to try and plan - babies come when they come of course but if you don't fancy it, why not?

We planned. She came three months early. It isn't something that happens at your convenience whether it be falling pregnant or giving birth.

Theproblem - with the 30hrs free childcare coming up I don't think it's going to make much of a difference in my view.. Actually thinking of delaying summer born baby's start at school when it comes (assuming all goes well with the 30hs funded childcare of course)

I didn't plan which months to have a baby I just wanted one at 23. I finally got one when I was 39 - not much luck with planning.

As far as August babies go mine was born on the 21st. Whilst he hasn't struggled academically, it is a bit of a pain now he's older. He will be 15 when he finishes school in May although he will go into 6th form. His best friends however will be almost 17 and more likely to get a summer job, and when they go back in September they will be learning to drive and he will have to wait another year.

Ive had 2 December baby's 22nd and the 27th dp's birthday is also in December on the 17th. I find it very stressful. Also I work in retail so getting time off for there birthdays is near impossible. So yanbu at all. Good luck.

DSD bday is on Boxing Day - it's shit for her every year.

Mine love their December birthdays...lots of nice things in the shops, people are in a good mood and want to party, and no one is ever away on holiday.

We planned to stop in February through to May. I didn't want a baby born in the coldest darkest months. In the end we didn't need to dd is October born. But to be fair ds was a surprise 2 years earlier and we were 29 and 31 so unlikely to be worsening our chances by giving it a break.

My DS was born on Christmas Day and we didn't mind as we were TTC for 2 years so we're just thankful to have him. He's only two this year but when he's older we plan to celebrate his birthday on Christmas day afternoon with family and with a party a week or two beforehand, plus it's likely he'll never have to work on his birthday. The downside is he gets loads of presents in one go but nothing throughout the year!

Being in hospital at Christmas was actually really nice. All the Christmas Day mums and babies were given presents and a choir came into the hospital to sing carols. We even got a Boxing Day buffet! Although that was a bit depressing...

Ooh I'd forgotten about that Oblada! Even cheaper!

Tbh we've been trying a while and I just want a baby, any time now please!

My birthday is just after New Year and as a kid I always loved the fact I was on holiday from school on my birthday. Now as an adult, I tag it onto my Christmas hols and get nearly 3 weeks to celebrate Xmas, New Year and birthday and only use up a couple of day leave.

It's a magical time of year. Plus you will be giving birth to a Capricorn which can only be a good thing!

Having a Christmas baby is shit that you go through the miserable newborn stage during the coldest darkest part of the year. Ds was born New Year's Eve and it isn't ideal. However a baby is a gift whenever it comes.

I think the best time to have a baby is march/ April. The weather is improving and the longer light in the summer months helps to prevent depression.

I don't think that having a September birthday is that much of a advantage. It might help in reception/ year 1, but the brighter kids do catch up and overtake.

The problem with birthdays is that you are stuck with the time of year when they fall. There is a tendency for the pattern of other people's attitudes to celebrating to be repeated. If the family make the effort to get it right then that is the pattern which gets repeated. If on the other hand the family doesnt make the effort and get it wrong then that is the pattern which gets repeated.

I think that it should be compulsory to celebrate birthdays every 11 months. That way we would all get to experience having a birthday throughout the year.

Ha ha I tried to do exactly this including starting at the same time as you,.... I'm due 12th December

Yanbu. I planned my two for early summer - one in May and one in June. I wanted them to be able to have parties outside in the garden, and did not relish the idea of being up in the night in winter during the newborn stage. I admit I am a control freak though, and know I was lucky that it all worked out as I'd wanted.

We didn't give it any thought when we had our 1st and his birthday is early Jan , not a great issue in itself although as he's grown up its been harder to buy actual gifts so he does end up with money / vouchers for birthday presents . With the 2nd I wanted a spring/ summer baby and eventually ended up with a June baby , we would have stopped trying if we had missed the window for June / July and tried again for the following year .

I ideally wanted a Spring baby, but assumed it would be a few months before I conceived (DC1 took 10 months to conceive), and so started early. I then conceived on the first attempt, and DC2 was born the day after his due date, on Jan 5th... however in the general scheme of things it really doesn't matter!