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AIBU?

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But it's OUR drive...

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amammabear · 22/11/2016 12:11

Our drive is directly opposite the drive of the house opposite, it's a quite, dead end street so not much traffic. When I reverse off if, I turn as I do so that I'm facing the right way on the road and then off I go, the person who lives opposite however (in his perfect BMW with private plates...) doesn't do this. He instead reverses straight across the road, onto OUR drive, then drives off again.

Normally this only annoys me a little, but today, as I was reversing out of our garage I noticed he had his reverse logged on and then started moving so I stopped outside of the garage, on the drive. By the time I'd stopped, I noticed that he was fully back on his own drive. So because he saw I was going to be in his way, instead of reversing properly, onto the road instead of someone else's property, he went back out of reverse, and drove back on.

So being annoyed, I waited. And waited. And the insert name for irritating person here waited too. Eventually I had to leave, shaking my head at him, and watched in my mirrors as he priced he had been specifically waiting for our drive by reversing straight across as usual.

AIBU to be annoyed about this? It's our private property, that we have to pay to buy and maintain? I know it's quite a little thing and it doesn't usually bother me too much more than a minor irritation, but today it really infuriated me.

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NavyandWhite · 25/11/2016 15:43

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SirChenjin · 25/11/2016 15:49

Oh I'd do it too (as I said upthread) - I'd just do it without accusing someone of whinging and being unreasonable because they weren't planning on saying something to Mr Beemer but were instead simply ranting on MN (like the eleventy billion other posters who also use MN as a place to vent). Esp if I preached love not hate.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 25/11/2016 15:50

Thank you Sir.

Navy - you have posh emoticons!

NavyandWhite · 25/11/2016 15:56

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SirChenjin · 25/11/2016 16:05

What is last emoticon Navy?!

SaucyJack · 25/11/2016 16:08

💅

*manicure

Wookiecookies · 25/11/2016 16:11

Op, sorry if this has already been suggested, but how about a fence and a gate? Then he cant do it can he? Failing that, just reverse onto his drive at every given opportunity.

SirChenjin · 25/11/2016 16:12

Oh right!

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SirChenjin · 25/11/2016 16:27

Is that what it means??! I have one on my phone but thought it was for when you're going for a manicure Blush Grin

NavyandWhite · 25/11/2016 16:31

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SirChenjin · 25/11/2016 16:37

It sounds a lot more feasible than my 'I'm going for a manicure' (which probably wouldn't be used that often!)

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sansXsouci · 25/11/2016 17:04

I can't believe this thread is still rumbling on! I consider myself as uptight as the next person, but it wouldn't even occur to me to mind about someone spending a few seconds a day on part of my drive.

SoupDragon · 25/11/2016 17:11

Talking the the neighbour is waaaay cheaper and less hassle to boot.

Less hassle to you maybe. I would find confronting a stranger extremely stressful

amammabear · 25/11/2016 17:34

Sdt whinge and do nothing sounds right to me! I got it out of my system but without risking a confrontation... Sounds win win!

Soupdragon me too. If he was one of the nice neighbours, I could do it easily in a jokey way "why do you use my drive like that? It drives me nuts!" But he's not.

I can't believe people are still commenting! I seriously expected a dozen replies at most.

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SirChenjin · 25/11/2016 17:43

Good approach Navy - that's what I would do 🖒

And if that doesn't work (or you don't fancy confronting him) then you could always do the mature thing and put a 💩 on his car OP!

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blessedmummyov5 · 25/11/2016 17:53

We don't have a car but my neighbour across the road has 2 and have taken it upon them selfs to use our drive in our garden without asking I let it slip for a few days thinking they just hadn't had the chance to ask , well u can imagine the shock I got when he pulled up while I was in the garden got out of his car didn't even say hi just went on about his business ignoring me that pissed me off and started blocking him in using bikes bins etc and placing stuff in the drive wen he did finally leave I think he's got the hint it's now parked out on the street in front of his house ! It's bloody rude stick ur bins at bottom of drive x

HarryElephante · 25/11/2016 19:12

Does that include not accusing someone of whinging and being unreasonable? Or does your love just extend this far

Mine is a tough love. Telling someone the truth so that they may learn and grow as a person.

Always spreading the love, me.

weepat · 25/11/2016 19:14

I'm with you amammabear.
As a driver I would never use someone's drive to reverse/turn.
I also don't let my dog shit on someone's garden or kids walk on a garden wall.
It's your property not theirs.

SirChenjin · 25/11/2016 23:25

Harry - Or rather, giving them your opinion that they can laugh at because it's utter shite.

There's a bit of tough love right back at ya 😚

HarryElephante · 26/11/2016 04:53

People often believe any opinion that contradicts their own to be 'utter shite' It's this lack of acceptance that leads to so much conflict in this world.

Acceptance, tolerance and communication pave the road to conflict resolution.

You know it makes sense, Chenjin. You knoweth I speaketh the trutheth.

I would have this driveway lark sorted in a jiffy.

SoupDragon · 26/11/2016 07:56

Acceptance, tolerance and communication pave the road to conflict resolution.

And yet you don't follow your own advice, preferring instead to throw accusations of whinging and failing to understand that some people do not find it at all possible to confront strangers.... interesting.

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