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AIBU?

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But it's OUR drive...

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amammabear · 22/11/2016 12:11

Our drive is directly opposite the drive of the house opposite, it's a quite, dead end street so not much traffic. When I reverse off if, I turn as I do so that I'm facing the right way on the road and then off I go, the person who lives opposite however (in his perfect BMW with private plates...) doesn't do this. He instead reverses straight across the road, onto OUR drive, then drives off again.

Normally this only annoys me a little, but today, as I was reversing out of our garage I noticed he had his reverse logged on and then started moving so I stopped outside of the garage, on the drive. By the time I'd stopped, I noticed that he was fully back on his own drive. So because he saw I was going to be in his way, instead of reversing properly, onto the road instead of someone else's property, he went back out of reverse, and drove back on.

So being annoyed, I waited. And waited. And the insert name for irritating person here waited too. Eventually I had to leave, shaking my head at him, and watched in my mirrors as he priced he had been specifically waiting for our drive by reversing straight across as usual.

AIBU to be annoyed about this? It's our private property, that we have to pay to buy and maintain? I know it's quite a little thing and it doesn't usually bother me too much more than a minor irritation, but today it really infuriated me.

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amammabear · 25/11/2016 09:44

Lol soupdragon!

I always think that when I see people on Facebook groups complaining about how much they hate it when people complain on Facebook groups... What do they actually think they're doing?!

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NavyandWhite · 25/11/2016 09:57

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SirChenjin · 25/11/2016 09:59

Grin Soup

OP - of course it annoys you, it's bloody annoying and entitled to drive onto someone else's property repeatedly without checking that they are OK with it first.

NavyandWhite · 25/11/2016 10:04

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pictish · 25/11/2016 10:20

This ended up quite the topic in our household. Dh and I both feel we would be very irritated by some twat who won't deign to give us the time of day, using our drive daily to make getting his wankermobile out of the street easier.

The incident you described whereby the dolt sat there waiting for you to get out of his way from your own drive, would have had me feeling exactly the same as you...and in fact, I'd have sat there twiddling my thumbs for as long as it took for him to get fed up and fuck off.

I'd make plans to get a bollard or set of gates up...or even just a chain you can padlock on and off.

Am I being petty? Yes. A neighbour I was on friendly terms with, even if only in passing, would be tolerated doing this although it would still annoy me because there's no need for it. Some tossbag who looks right through me but uses my drive like it's his own personal property could fucking sing for it.

alwayshappy101 · 25/11/2016 10:30

OP are you JB????

SirChenjin · 25/11/2016 10:46

Am I being petty? Yes

See, I don't think it's petty at all. Petty is getting annoyed because he looked at you the wrong way, or painted his front door a colour you don't like - but driving onto your property (esp when he's the sort of person he is)? Nah, that's bloody cheeky of him.

(Of course in comparison to what's happening in Syria it's petty, but then so are most things)

pictish · 25/11/2016 11:03

I think this would grate on me whatever the circumstances because there's no actual need for it...if you can get out without using someone else's drive, then that's what you do. Sheer laziness and bad manners not to!

HarryElephante · 25/11/2016 12:04

Have you spoken to him yet, OP?

SirChenjin · 25/11/2016 13:28

The OP answered that question this morning Harry Smile

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 25/11/2016 13:50

Harry - did you know you can highlight all the OP's posts on a thread, so it's harder to miss updates?

Navy - if we only get to continue MN threads that have an actual point, then MN is going to be a very quiet place! WinkGrin

AcrossthePond55 · 25/11/2016 14:00

Honestly, I think this has more to do with him being a condescending prat than any potential damage to the drive.

But if he is a condescending, un-neighbourly neighbour then I think I'd probably be pissy about it too. Karma and all that.

I suggest you hide and deploy a spike strip the next time he backs onto your drive.

HarryElephante · 25/11/2016 14:16

So. Op has no desire to actually resolve this issue short of putting up gates?

Talking the the neighbour is waaaay cheaper and less hassle to boot. Win/win!

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 25/11/2016 14:20

The OP doesn't have to take any advice from here, Harry - she's entitled to whinge and do nothing about it if she wants.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 25/11/2016 14:22

And whinge might not be the right word - I don't mean to sound nasty - what I meant was she's entitled to have a rant here if she wants.

HarryElephante · 25/11/2016 14:22

Of course she is. And I'm entitled to say she is whinging and being unreasonable.

Which I have now just done.

I like doers.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 25/11/2016 14:24

It's very easy to say what you would do in her situation, when you aren't in it, though, Harry.

HarryElephante · 25/11/2016 14:27

I've had what I consider to be unreasonable neighbours before and every time I have spoken to them and resolved it one way or another.

Its the only sensible solution. Surely you can see that?

NavyandWhite · 25/11/2016 14:32

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HarryElephante · 25/11/2016 14:38

Break down barriers; don't build fences.

Love not war.

SirChenjin · 25/11/2016 15:30

Love not war

Does that include not accusing someone of whinging and being unreasonable? Or does your love just extend this far ->

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 25/11/2016 15:35

I did say whinging first, SirChenjin. >

I'm sorry.

SirChenjin · 25/11/2016 15:38

Get off that naughty step this instance SDTG! You said immediately afterwards that you didn't mean to sound nasty and that it wasn't the right word Smile

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