But it's OUR drive...

[amammabear]

Our drive is directly opposite the drive of the house opposite, it's a quite, dead end street so not much traffic. When I reverse off if, I turn as I do so that I'm facing the right way on the road and then off I go, the person who lives opposite however (in his perfect BMW with private plates...) doesn't do this. He instead reverses straight across the road, onto OUR drive, then drives off again.

Normally this only annoys me a little, but today, as I was reversing out of our garage I noticed he had his reverse logged on and then started moving so I stopped outside of the garage, on the drive. By the time I'd stopped, I noticed that he was fully back on his own drive. So because he saw I was going to be in his way, instead of reversing properly, onto the road instead of someone else's property, he went back out of reverse, and drove back on.

So being annoyed, I waited. And waited. And the insert name for irritating person here waited too. Eventually I had to leave, shaking my head at him, and watched in my mirrors as he priced he had been specifically waiting for our drive by reversing straight across as usual.

AIBU to be annoyed about this? It's our private property, that we have to pay to buy and maintain? I know it's quite a little thing and it doesn't usually bother me too much more than a minor irritation, but today it really infuriated me.

Tell him he's in danger of hitting your kids and neighbour as she has right of way access to her garage.

Is it wrong that as I read the start of this I assumed the driver st fault would have a BMW? I would be annoyed too, I would either park my car at the end of my drive of out my recycle bins in a very awkward place!

We live in the street next to a primary school and people always park across our drive at pick up time, I came home the other day and some one was parked across my drive, I asked her to move and she told me "to find my own damn space!" 😱😱

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I used to live next door to a church and often had people park across my drive. I ended up calling the police station ( not 999!) who didn't have much to do on a Sunday morning so they came and ticketed him. 😳 But you could contact the school saying you will pass any details onto the police and to let parents know. People aren't allowed to park in front of a dropped kerb

I have neck problems, and in the situation described, backing straight up into the neighbor's drive and then pulling out to drive normally would be much easier on my neck, and be less likely to set off problems.

But surely you'd still be looking behind you the whole time, right Hey? As anything else would be highly irresponsible, not to mention illegal. Rear view mirrors, parking sensors etc don't absolve you from the duty of actually LOOKING behind you the whole time - you know, in case a small child happens to be behind you.

And if you can't do that, then maybe you shouldn't be driving at all?

I have had this happen to me. Omg it drives me nuts and makes my blood boil. Sad I know. I have some very heavy timber in my garden that now takes centre place on my drive stopping people doing this. If you have not got that. When you go out put your waste bins in the way so he can't do it. (yes I know people will say just go and ask him not to do it) you dnt get the satisfaction of knowing you pissed him off just a little bit. I will be paying for posts at some point. It's so so disrespectful.

Owing to the layout of our road, two of our neighbours use our drive as part of their manouvres to get out of their own. They don't technically have to, but it's presumably miles easier if they do (otherwise they wouldn't do it, I assume).

Until this thread, it never even crossed my mind to care. It has literally never registered as an odd or entitled thing to do, let alone get cross about.

I'm still baffled at some of the responses here.

Chain or gate.

I don't what the 'obviously not homeowners' comment was about? So All you lot who don't care are clearly just rent wankers?!?...

Seriously though, why would you just wait and make him wait, and then shake your head at him, rather than just asking him not to do it?!?

I really don't understand this penchant some people on here have for being passive aggressive rather than just speaking to somebody.
Like they enjoy the process of imagining what the other person 'must have' been thinking.

I also don't see the issue either.
I also don't recommend following the advice of 'doing it back to him', not because, as previously suggested, it would allow him to 'justify' what he was doing to himself, but because I just doubt he'd notice you were doing it, it probably wouldn't enter on his radar

It's like these people who have a "no turning in the drive sign" - you just know the kind of petty people they'll be

Absolutely this! x 100

There was a kid at my school whose parents had a chain across their drive. All I remember 30+ years on is how all the other parents talked about what idiots the couple were because they were the type that put up a chain.

As much as I could say that it's a first world problem and I'm sure op, that you are completely capable of seeing that for yourself ... YANBU! It's the cheek of it, the assumption, the rudeness because it's something you just wouldn't be disrespectful enough to do. I get frustrated about things like this too, not because I'm petty or territorial, but because I was brought up to have respect for others belongings and I see this as property too. I wouldn't converse with him myself over it. I'd move the car to the bottom, or as people have said find a way to block it and hope he gets used to not using it. You can't get into any disputes if you do not let him know you have an issue. You're simply changing something on your property to better suit your lifestyle/routine. Try not to let it get to you too much though. These things can easily lead to you 'looking' for it and your home should be your sanctuary!

YANBU.

Personally id feel the need to fix something on the driveway one day. Then when I'd finished I'd get distracted and forget to pack away the 50 or so nine inch nails and box of massive sharp screw and broken glass that I'd been using .

Not my fault if someone uses my drive without permission and drives over them.... whoops!

There was a kid at my school whose parents had a chain across their drive. All I remember 30+ years on is how all the other parents talked about what idiots the couple were because they were the type that put up a chain.

Really? How odd. I've seen a few drives with chains across. It's really never even entered my mind as anything strange.

I would never use someone's drive to reverse in. I think it's very rude. So, I get why the OP is annoyed. I did nearly once run over my neighbour who was standing on my drive having a nosy. It gave me such a fright.

Don't you have an old kid's bike lying around somewhere that you can leave there sometimes? Just enough to break the habit.

Petty....but would annoy me too. Especially if he waited for me to leave. T**ser.

And re the comment on make of car...BMW drivers reputedly have a selfish reputation which (unfortunately) reflects on other BMW owners who may be perfectly nice people not t**sers. No, I don't own a BMW. Or an Audi. Which are also getting a similar reputation. However, I noticed when driving on the motorway the other day, the majority of drivers driving at 90 miles a hour and steaming up the outside lane and tail gating others were in these makes of car. T the point of me wondering if they had changed the rules on the road and in addition upped the speed limit on motorways without me being aware of it.

It's unfortunate that their attitude is giving owners of these cars a bad reputation.

Haven't RTFT, but might be worth thinking about getting a chain, gates or bollards?

Sorry everyone, busy day yesterday so I didn't get back on.

Flyby they're completely out of order if they're blocking the turning circle!

Sulphurman that's it exactly!!!

Heyoverhere yeah, if he asked and had a good reason that would be different. But as others have said, it's the casual assumption that he can do what he likes even though it's someone's property that annoys me.

Tazo that did make me laugh!

Febel I don't even register BMW/AUDI etc drivers who are driving sensibly, I just found myself thinking about which ones are idiots most often.

Those commenting that maintenance isn't an issue- it actually is. Our drive is around 20 years old, and the builders used such an utterly crap a beautiful surface that it is wearing quite badly, getting worse every year. It will need redoing soon. The areas where I park and my ndn park are fairly worn, but the end bit where he turns is the worst. The reason is that where you turn your wheels wears quicker, so while our parking areas suffer that problem, the end bit not only has him turning numerous times a day, but also us and the ndn going straight over it, so he is contributing to the heaviest wear.

I would so love to bill him... I won't of course, but still... Grrr

I was parked legally, on the road, outside my ILs house when their neighbour opposite came and asked me to move my car because they have to use that bit of road to reverse out into. There were no other cars parked on the road and it's not narrow by any means. They were just used to doing it their way.

Yes I moved my car as it wasn't my house but with this face

If it's obviously worn then I think talking to him about it and pointing it out to him are the way forward, as difficult as that might be.

My DH is a selfish BMW driver and uses people's driveways to manoeuvre his car so he doesn't scratch his precious wheels.

Reading this thread has been therapeutic. I feel so calm and happy that I am not the type to get annoyed by these type of things. My neighbours use my drive to reverse presumably because its easier that way and it has just never cross my mind to spend time being annoyed by that.

Massive drop feed there op three days too late to be convincing that the neighbour is actually breaking up our drive.

What is this obsession with assuming that the OP has to justify why she doesn't want someone using her property? It's her property, she doesn't have to justify anything. Or would you all be happy with strangers routinely parking on your driveways or in your front gardens if it didn't actually cause you any inconvenience or damage?

I mentioned AGES ago that we need to resurface soon and where the heaviest areas of wear are, I can't help if you missed that comment.