But it's OUR drive...

[amammabear]

Our drive is directly opposite the drive of the house opposite, it's a quite, dead end street so not much traffic. When I reverse off if, I turn as I do so that I'm facing the right way on the road and then off I go, the person who lives opposite however (in his perfect BMW with private plates...) doesn't do this. He instead reverses straight across the road, onto OUR drive, then drives off again.

Normally this only annoys me a little, but today, as I was reversing out of our garage I noticed he had his reverse logged on and then started moving so I stopped outside of the garage, on the drive. By the time I'd stopped, I noticed that he was fully back on his own drive. So because he saw I was going to be in his way, instead of reversing properly, onto the road instead of someone else's property, he went back out of reverse, and drove back on.

So being annoyed, I waited. And waited. And the insert name for irritating person here waited too. Eventually I had to leave, shaking my head at him, and watched in my mirrors as he priced he had been specifically waiting for our drive by reversing straight across as usual.

AIBU to be annoyed about this? It's our private property, that we have to pay to buy and maintain? I know it's quite a little thing and it doesn't usually bother me too much more than a minor irritation, but today it really infuriated me.

Yeah I am not seeing the problem, tbh.

This morning for sounds like he saw you and moved out of the way to let you out. Then when you waited he wasn't sure wether to go or not, just like you were. I don't get why you shook your head at him.

I don't see the issue with him using your drive for a few seconds or how they makes him a bad driver.

It sounds to me like you seem to have decided you dislike him because of the car and or number plate. I have never had a big car or have private plates. But I really don't get the issue people have with them. It's his money.

I would have to speak to him. Presumably there is no reason why he can't reverse park into his own drive and thus drive out again without encroaching on someone else's property.

I think most people feel annoyed and frustrated when someone treats their property like public property. It's quite a primal thing but it makes you feel threatened, as your boundaries aren't being respected. On one level you can say 'who cares, it doesn't affect me' but on another level your blood pressure is rising every time they open their front door because you know they are about to do it again!

Personally I would have a word.

Trifleorbust exactly!

Bimbo oh no... I knew there was something I forgot!

Wouldhave exactly... Clearly the people saying that never do anything wrong, let alone something that's only "not the best method"

Fluffy no, he was already partially onto the road and half way through his manoeuvre, he then went out of reverse back into gear and drive back on. I had only reversed out of the garage and stopped on my own drive, no different to if I'd just been driving out of the garage because I needed the space or something. All so he can avoid turning his wheel a little bit further.

Over the past 8 years we have cars damaged three times when they were parked on the driveway by people reversing in to turn around, so yes it is a problem. If it is not your drive you should keep off it

Gate it or park your car at the end of your drive so he can't do this. His shitty driving skills shouldn't impact you.

Still don't get it, but yes, gate it if you feel so strongly. Then he can't.

These type of threads do make me chuckle, myself and others have given examples of why this might not be a good idea, but no this is still petty to some.

Firstly my car getting reversed into because the twat neighbour didn't realise that I had just come home and was still sitting in my car with the engine running when he revered quite quickly into my drive smashing into the back of my car and pushing me into my garage door. He then tried to blame me

Secondly another poster has told us about her neighbour being run over and spent time in hospital because of someone using another persons drive.

Why shouldn't the OP have the right to be concerned about this. It's the OP property, she ultimately has the say in who she is happy to use it.

All the name calling in the world won't change that fact.

A locked gate would solve your problems and reduce your car insurance costs too.

As you have never challenged him about it he probably assumes you don't mind.

And we have the right to think it's idiotic. It's been posted for people to give their opinion.

bookeatingboy why are you chuckling? Because some posters disagree with you and/or the OP?

It's AIBU. Some people think the OP is being U some think she is NBU

I can see that your experience may have lead you to one conclusion. Mine had lead me to another.

Boy, if the OP had posted 'my neighbour smashed into my car while reversing into my drive' or 'my neighbour is trying to run me down on my drive' she would have gotten different answers.

What's actually happening is quite different.

And either of those examples could have just as easily happened on the street.

if the OP had posted 'my neighbour smashed into my car while reversing into my drive' or 'my neighbour is trying to run me down on my drive' she would have gotten different answers.

Prevention is better than cure

So are you going to speak to him?

bookeatingboy - I quite agree. The reasons for not doing this (e.g. risk of knocking someone/something over, crashing into an already parked car) far exceed the reasons for doing it. Add the fact that the OP simply doesn't want him driving onto her private property without her permission and it's plain to see that there is really no reason why he should.

If it wouldn't bother some posters then fine - but it bothers the OP and there are valid reasons for that.

Bit as you say it's AIBU so yes we can disagree and I can "chuckle" about it too

Laurie but the OP's neighbour is reversing into her drive (exactly the same as my neighbour was doing) so how is that not similar. I am pointing out that by doing so there is potential for an incident. The OP has already pointed out that there is no need for him to do this [again the same as with my neighbour] so prevention is best.

Private And

I'd stick a note through his door pointing out that children regularly use the drive way and his insurance would be vitiated by being on private property unauthorised.

(I hav ea similar one at the moment. I'm one of 5 houses down a private farm track. We pay for upkeep. house at teh end on teh road has been having building work done for what seems like forever, so they're parking their 4x4 along the top of our track. I know it's only temporary, but 8 months in to their basement dig etc, I'm losing patience. A note to us might have been nice)

Park at the end of your drive

Start doing the same on his drive.

Haven't RTFT but I would either park at the end of the drive or get gates. We had problems with kids using our mono block driveway to cycle on, people walking on it, letting their dogs walk on it and even teenagers running up throwing stonesat the window or banging the door. Got gates in and has made a big difference, creates a barrier. Best money ever spent.

See we have a similar situation but in reverse! (No pun intended!) we live on a dead end and our drive can get two cars on and the house opposite only one but two at a push so they park their second car in the turning end bit. Which means if my ndn are in I can't get the car in without pulling up onto their drive and reversing back!

Point is they get annoyed at me and I get annoyed at them because they are parking in the chuffing turning circle!! So unless I reverse 300 yards down the lane(which would be comical to watch!) then I've got to carry on using their drive!

Either put up gates or a bollard or simply tell him directly you would prefer he did not back onto your drive. (Repair and maintenance is yours!)

It would annoy me too as it's discourteous.