Farted on bus loudly, rude comments? AIBU to feel this was unnecessary?

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This is an embarrassing post. On a bus (not crowded) yesterday. I had a dodgy stomach that appeared during the morning with loud farts.

Unfortunately during part of the journey I let off a loud and a bit smelly fart. Cue two women nearby one saying loudly "that's disgusting, who would smell like that, who would do that, dirty bitch" with a pointed look at me and looking away. I got off the bus feeling a bit embarrassed went to a toilet in a department store, went to the toilet and cleaned myself up (it wasn't as bad as I thought it was) got hand sanitizer and took some anti-diarrhoea pills.

AIBU to think this one woman was really rude or am I being over sensitive? It was one of those routemaster buses she said something about opening the windows but they don't have windows... That's not my fault and I had no idea my stomach was so bad.

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Oh and I would never ever judge or say what I was said to me in public, because unlike some of you I know or can when it is generally genuinely unintentional rather than someone doing it on purpose for a reaction like a loud belch.

The name calling was what upset me too. And also saying it in a packed routemaster (yes no windows etc), where I could not open a window or get off or they get off! if people are going to be that bothered by bus passengers behaviour (or on other public transport) they should walk or drive! And yes I was mortified that I also felt so ill so strangely enough after their comments wanted to get off the bus ASAP. If I'd not had the comments I may have apologised but this woman immediately jumped in with them after I'd farted. She also moved so really could have moved upstairs instead of downstream on the bus where she spent her time glaring at me with her friend. Why couldn't I move upstairs? Oh yes upset stomach and pain.

Apology accepted crashdoll.

I feel worse for people who genuinely have a medical condition. Would never ever judge them if what happened to me happened to them.

Hope you're feeling better op. I think the last thing I'd do if I had a dicky belly and was on public transport would be to let a fart go! Fair enough if it escaped, but I'd do everything I could to hold on in case it turned into more than hot air!

I can't believe the women on the bus were so ignorant as to say something to you, or some of the replies you've had on here.

austenozzy I think I did try to hold this fart in can't recall but as I was feeling unwell it was one of those that would have escaped one way or another.

Pleased you're feeling better OP. I hope some of the comments on this thread didn't make you feel worse.

Flower luckily by yesterday evening I was much better!

Luckily I have a thickish skin when it comes to playground name calling generally, God knows I endured lots of it for wearing glasses from age 5 to 12 all day every day.

Your OP says the bus wasn't busy, but by the end of the thread it;s suddenly become packed! Also as far as I can see she didn't say anything to you, merely commented on your behaviour to her friend, which you overheard. What you did was understandable but pretty grim for everyone else, her reaction was also understandable IMO. Had she actually called you a name to your face then that would be rude, but she didn't she commented on you to her companion.

Good you're okay. Pity you've felt you've had to develop a thick skin due to other people's thoughtlessness.

It happens. I have Crohn's disease during a flare up I fart a lot. didn't realise I was expected to stay permanently in the house.

Luckily mine are mainly silent so I can look accusingly at other people

There is no excuse for calling anyone a dirty bitch. As for the fart. It's a bodily function and I reckon that all the posters who are saying they have never ever been unable to control some unfortunate wind in public are lying. OP you anbu. Hope you are feeling better.

Wow 13 pages on a trump!!!😱

13 pages on a Trump is nothing. Didn't you see some of the US elections threads?

This threads shocked me

OP I would never judge or have a go at anyone for something out of their control. That poor old lady.

In my bus days a homeless man got on, two teenagers (girls) moved to the seat behind him and started spraying him with deodorant. I bollocked them that hard they jumped straight back off the bus.

I hate bullies. There but for the grace of god and what not.

I find a lot of the messages on this thread unbelievable. We all break wind!

Sometimes you can stop it coming out, or let it out gently so it doesn't make a noise, but sometimes it just happens!

Those of you who are saying the OP was rude? Really? REALLY?

Quite apart from the fact she was unwell anyway.

I've seen some things on MN that make me but this one is really taking the proverbial.

It was the poster who said they could guarantee that they would never ever break wind or lose control of their bladder or bowels who made me because they haven't actually explained how they are going to guarantee that they never get ill or old or disabled. I think most of us would like to know what the secret is so that we can guard against it too...

I spent 5 years working as an HCA in care homes. A lot of the residents had problems controlling their bladder and/or bowels.
Those that did not have dementia or were only in the early stages, hated this element of old age more than any other.
These were all people who'd lived through or fought in the war, who were proud dignified people. I remember one particularly lovely gentleman sobbing after he'd soiled himself and apologising profusely.
Maybe my approach was all wrong and I shouldn't have tried to maintain residents' dignity and just called them dirty bitches/bastards.
There are some truly depressing comments on here.

user I got confused because actually at the start of the bus journey and towards the end (a diversion) it had been packed, at the end of the journey it was me and these 2 women maybe another person.

But even so saying something on a bus in front of other people when you don't feel well isn't easy.

This woman may as well have called me a dirty bitch to my face as she said it as she walked away but within earshot, she knew I could hear her and she also realised the bus didn't have windows just air con and also it wasn't stopping (the bus) yet.

All I did really was fart loudly and in a smelly way! I didn't do it near her (well near enough but not right next to her), I didn't eg blow my nose and it got onto her coat (but I'd have wiped off and apologised). I was not feeling well!

Why is this suddenly an etiquette thread?

I think most people realise the difference between being unwell either through old age or a disability or illness and having an accident.

My DB's FIL is a paraplegic and in a wheelchair, he rarely uses public transport but sometimes a train, suppose he had an accident when on a train would the haters on this thread lay into him because he had an accident??

I think some attitudes here are very twisted and cruel and yeah luckily I can rise above it due to my teasing and bullying as a child. That's not to say I should have to suffer comments like this woman made and the name calling.

If it were me witnessing this, all I would do is move away, go upstairs, maybe cover my nose if it was a strong smell, but her reaction was totally unnecessary. She was also one of those types of person who basically because she was with someone eg her mum or sister or friend (looked that age) she felt she could say something but if she were by herself she wouldn't have commented. In a way that makes it worse as its low level bullying.

This thread is bizarre - a couple of years ago I posted a story on here about how I accidentally shit myself at home while ill and asking for stories to cheer me up and it was such a funny (and kind!) thread... Nobody said "why on earth did you post that on here?" People sympathised and were funny and clever.

I'm not one for ooooh it's all gone downhill I remember when it was all fields round here but blimey, some humourless fucks on here now with a spectacular lack of empathy.

I blame trump

everybodysang i remember your thread, posted on it myself and it was a hilarious and kind thread. MN has gone downhill in terms of some of the posters being utterly heartless insensitive fuckfaces without an ounce of compassion.

Pardon the pun,but why are some people so anally retentive?! It's a fart for heaven's sake! A normal bodily function. Anyone that says they 'NEVER fart in public or in company,is lying! EVERYONE farts,some people are just able to control it better than others. As for me,if I hear someone fart on a bus,I laugh. But then I'm childish like that. But I think if someone farted and was embarrassed about it,they would far rather someone laughed than was outrageously rude to them! And by the way,I personally don't make a habit of letting rip in public places!

I remember your thread as well everybodysang. I remember thinking how nice it was to get such an outpouring of honesty and sympathy from posters. There cant be many people over 30 (certainly if they've had a kid) who have NEVER had some kind of embarrassing thing go on with their bladder/bowels/general undercarriage. Once it's happened (or you've had a near miss), your empathy levels for this sort of thing go through the roof!

And just out of interest OP,how did they know for sure that it was YOU who farted/sharted? If I'm on a bus and hear/smell a fart,I more often than not have no idea who actually released it. Unless my DP happens to be sitting next to me,and I glanced at him to see if he has registered the noise/smell and he is sitting there with a huge smirk on his face. Very childish funny.

I was sick on a bus once. No one swore at me but i did manage to clear the bus in 30 seconds flat. The driver had to put on a high-viz tabard. I was told to phone a family member who came and retrieved me from the bus. All in all it wasn't one of my finest moments.

everybodysang we have all had diarrhoea and shitting ourselves episodes - where does the song "I was walking down the lane when I felt a little pain" come from?!

But luckily I generally tend to know when/if I have diarrhoea and I plan ahead and usually catch it on the hop as it were, eg if out go in a public toilet or take an anti diarrhoea tablet pretty damned quickly which stops it in its tracks!

I know now (but years ago didn't make the connection) the horrid tendency to have bowel movements that are either constipated or a bit loose when on my period but I ensure when on my period that I am careful not to eat anything too heavy etc or to be aware when out.

I also not 100% sure whether I have IBS from speaking to a colleague with it, apparently not, as I am fine with spicy food etc but I have tried colpermin peppermint tablets sometimes and they've helped so I may speak to my doctor next time I'm in and ask re IBS. But I don't get many dodgy stomachs these days. I am an unlucky person though most viruses etc affect my stomach in some way, always have done and I've had gastroenteritis aged 11 and norovirus about 3 years ago. I'm affected equally vomiting wise as well as diarrhoea wise. I did mention that to my doctor in passing a few years ago and they say not a lot you can do about it, keep away from people who have tummy bugs and if you like use sanitiser when out and wash your hands a lot. I don't use sanitiser a lot, maybe I should?! I do wash my hands when out though.

Janey the bus was fairly empty (only 3 or 4 of us on the bus) where I was sitting on routemaster I wasn't next to,her or even directly behind her but certainly was near enough for the smell to have travelled. The other person was at the front of the bus. The way the routemaster is set out its quite open. And there are no windows only air con so a loud smelly fart could easily travel I'm guessing! These 2 women were also the sort that were looking round the bus as to where to get off and wandering round the bus too trying to work out where they were... (Before I farted) so they certainly weren't sitting quietly near me.... They also seemed quite loud and "in your face" and judging by their reaction seemed to think they were fine to judge me, they were also the type of woman that if when I was getting off or moving past them I'd jogged them with my arm accidentally they'd make a scene about that too and glare or say something. Eg easy to get into a ruck with.