Farted on bus loudly, rude comments? AIBU to feel this was unnecessary?

[SuperFlyHigh]

This is an embarrassing post. On a bus (not crowded) yesterday. I had a dodgy stomach that appeared during the morning with loud farts.

Unfortunately during part of the journey I let off a loud and a bit smelly fart. Cue two women nearby one saying loudly "that's disgusting, who would smell like that, who would do that, dirty bitch" with a pointed look at me and looking away. I got off the bus feeling a bit embarrassed went to a toilet in a department store, went to the toilet and cleaned myself up (it wasn't as bad as I thought it was) got hand sanitizer and took some anti-diarrhoea pills.

AIBU to think this one woman was really rude or am I being over sensitive? It was one of those routemaster buses she said something about opening the windows but they don't have windows... That's not my fault and I had no idea my stomach was so bad.

Thanks

Alexa Pot.Kettle.Black.

What about people who have health problems which involves bodily function mishaps on a daily basis. I have known people with unusual waste disposal situations and people with cancers who have had problems with their bodily functions.. It was likely not peoples' choices to have these conditions. What would you have them do? Stay in the house forever? The OP had a dodgy stomach which lasted a short time and there are 11 pages of comments!
It was an unfortunate day for the OP but some people suffer such problems every day. Show some compassion.

Absolutely zero chance of that happening MrsRyanGosling. Just wouldn't happen. What a childish thing to say.

I think this thread sums up everything that is wrong with society. Being disgusted by someone over something they cannot control is no different to being disgusted by somebody's race, gender, religion or weight.

How can calling someone a dirty bitch be reasonable but farting in public isn't. You can have control over your mouth but your digestive system not so much.
I say this as a very dirty bitch (wind and IBS sufferer)
Op you are so not bu.

Throughthickandthin short of having a bag or your arsehole stiched up, there is absolutely a chance of this happening to anyone. What a weird thing to say.

There's been a huge amount of moral censure on this thread (aimed at those who would struggle with offensive smells in public) and lots of banding about of the label 'ignorant'....but ignorance cuts both ways, so perhaps some of you, in the interests of balance (which you don't seem to be bothered about) should educate yourselves about hyperosmophobia*

I would like to make it perfectly clear that my moral censure is 100% directed at people who call other people dirty bitches for something that they have no control over and which is humiliating enough without being called names.

absolutely zero chance of that happening

If you mean zero chance of ever losing control of your bodily functions then you're very naïve, because unbelievable as it seems when you are in good health, illness or disability could easily be around the corner for any of us. Either that or you know some huge secret that I would love to know too, because I would so love to be certain that it will never happen to me.

It could be way worse. This woman was banned from using local buses due to her constant farting.

"Towards the end of June, Yolanda managed to force her way into the drivers cab, and farted with her hands cupped- ensuring that the driver was forced to smell it until he was sick."

StreetFighter

I've seen that news report before and it still cracks me up! Not the way she behaved, but the way it's reported.

"Several sources have said that Yolanda boarded a bus packed with people, and then shouted “Some bastard has squashed a Frog” as she farted extremely loud."

only on mumsnet would finding other people's flatulence revolting escalate to 'YOU HATE EVERYONE WITH A STOMA GOSH'.

So common on here though. Every person ion the world is expected to think through every possible reason for everything before reacting. This also means general rudeness doesn't really exist as a condition exists that 'excuses' a lot of 'bad' behaviour' (I am not saying farting is bad behaviour). Noone is ever allowed to be pissed off ever.

This afternoon while shopping, some woman pushed her trolley into me, made a 'hmph' noise and walked off without saying sorry. If I made a thread about it, before long someone would be along to tell me that maybe she just did not notice, or maybe she had a disability, or maybe she had had a really bad day and I shouldn't judge. I hold off mentioning stuff on here a lot for this very reason. A friend of mine with an autistic DD (5) posted a while back about some very badly behaved children who had thrown a stone at her daughter and laughed. She was informed within the first page that as a mother of a child with SN, she should be less judgemental as the bastards who hurt her child may also have SN. There was a thread not long ago about someone who had parked like a dickhead and a mother could not see to cross the road because of the parking. Again, it wasn't long before the 'you don't know why they parked like that, could have been an emergency', etc started.

So yeah, par for the course I am afraid. Its a bit weird on here sometimes

Also my cousin with Chrons reckons he does this a lot. He luckily hasn't had any abuse but a lot of people laugh..especially kids, he reckons its just a fact of life and you get used to it. Saying pardon, and maybe 'sorry my guts are dodgy today' tends to help people understand and not think you are doing it for a laugh. Apparently he often ends up with 20 questions about his illness when he says he can't help it sometimes. He is laughing like hell at the reaction on this thread though

I do agree that on mumsnet there is always 'you don't know why they did that' but actually I think this thread is a bit different because I think most people, maybe 95% of people would move heaven and earth to avoid openly farting in public, therefore I tend to think that if someone does so it's an accident.

Whereas I'd be willing to guess that most people who have parked somewhere terrible have done it just to make life easier for themselves.

Oh yes, there is more reason for it on here of course. But it does happen hilariously often and about stuff that its really really reaching for

Oh OP you poor thing, I do think it was bullyish for them to do that. Obviously it's not nice for those nearby but come on, surely most sane people realise that the person isn't doing it on purpose.

I once got AWFUL food poisoning that came on during an overnight coach trip while travelling in South America, it was hideous, l really stank out the whole coach by visiting the toilet a million times but what else could I do? If someone had called me a dirty bitch whilst I was already having an awful time then I think I would've cried.

Some of the posters on this thread are heartless idiots.

I'm 23 and have severe Crohn's Disease. I may look completely "normal" (isn't that subjective!) but I've been in situations in public where I have soiled myself due to my disease. It's not something I can control, I'm in constant intense pain from my bleeding and inflamed bowel unless I'm on chemo/strong immunosuppressants, and am currently looking into having my colon removed waves at StomaSavedMyLife.

Anyway, had anyone on a bus called me "a dirty bitch" I would probably either have given them a hard smack in the face or simply sat on them.

Be kind to others, you have NO idea what they are going through.

OP, people are horrible but also incredibly ignorant.

I remember around ten years ago having lunch with a friend, when my IBS started up because something I ate had an ingredient that disagrees with me. On the drive back (in my friend's car) I couldn't help but fart and accidentally followed through. However, I then lost all control and kept going because the abdominal pains were so bad, to the extent that every bout of wind led to a further loss of control. My point is that even with the best will in the world, you can't always decide to clench and hope for the best - sometimes the body makes its own call about these things.

Did I enjoy filling my drawers with shit in a good friend's car? No. Was I rude in doing this? Hardly, I was severely ill. I paid for a deep clean of the upholstery and apologised, which is something OP should have done but in her haste or embarassment, most likely couldn't do. It's not nice to name call when someone is ill; the punishment hardly fits the "crime". I wonder how many here guff away in their sleep or sneak out silent farts? Probably more than the hermetically sealed bum queens we have protesting their innocence.

Fortunately, what happened to the OP has never happened to me but if it did, I'm sure I would have said "I'm really sorry I'm feeling really ill at the moment and couldn't help it" or something like that. To me that is acknowledging that it was unpleasant for the other passengers and apologising for that, regardless of not having been deliberate.

Monkey
"Anyway, had anyone on a bus called me "a dirty bitch" I would probably either have given them a hard smack in the face or simply sat on them."

Or you could have farted in their face. My DP has severe ulcerative colitis but just can't get his head around a stoma. That said, it's a relatively new diagnosis so I think he has more treatment options. Anyway, my point was that I have lots of empathy. He gets very embarrassed about using the toilet at work.

crashdoll
Hehe, or that! I do think educating is obviously better than anger, but some people...

Good luck to your DP in his journey! It's such a horribly common disease.

Mine is a fairly new diagnosis also, since January this year. I flip between wanting my guts taken out RIGHT NOW when I'm really bad, and feeling like I should give the biologics one more shot on a good day... I only have one biologic left to try as the rest have failed so I might not get the option. Most people do say the bag is a life changer, for the better. There are a lot of good support groups on the old FB if he's ever feeling alone.

It's always nice to find someone else who know's what its like :)

If I'd been on the bus I would have shouted Wahey and high five'd you!

Add a new rhyme

The farts on the bus all stink stink stink

crashdoll I didn't shit myself... I went into a toilet where I had some diarrhoea I had "thought" I'd shat myself but luckily when breaking wind I was lucky to get off the bus, find Liberty toilets and shit myself there... Only it wasn't as bad as I thought it was... I cleaned myself up with tissues I had on me and then went to Boots, got anti diarrhoea tablets, water, hand sanitiser for future need. I had bought in primark earlier some cleansing wipes luckily so used those on my messy arse!

Just like to say, I am pretty disgusted with some of you here, as far as I know I don't have crohns or IBS but I sometimes do get a dodgy stomach (more vomiting than diarrhoea), haven't messed myself in many years when out but on the very odd occasion at home more. And mostly it's due to a bug. even if I did shit myself in public I'd clean up as detailed above but sometimes these events are beyond my control.

Want to state to others who are berating me for going out with a stomach bug, I didn't think I had one earlier that day, at 9am I was fine, had breakfast as normal etc, had to be out as on course (that finished at 4pm) all day. My cramps and farts got worse during the course but I hoped they'd just go away as I'd have gone straight home after the course otherwise.

I think some of the attitudes here are really disgusting outragedkoala and Alexa stand out as two especially nasty pieces of work and I will report anything I see as a PA on me. If you search my name you'll see i know Penis Beaker, the Liz Jones at a party one, Pom Bears, Sharon the wine and the wasp etc... So certainly not a troll!

I've been out strangely enough today am much better and want to thank the supportive posters for their support.

If I see an outragedkoala or Alexa unfortunate enough to get ill in public I'll just kick them in the stomach on the way past as I'm sure they'd do the exact same back to me. Rest of you are safe!

Thanks again for support!

I think the appropriate response to the aforementioned ladies would have been a

'they who smelt it, dealt it'

I hope you are feeling better Super and I'm glad you didn't have an accident after all. Really sorry, I read that wrong.