It's a tricky one, I have a really good friend who I have recently noticed is a 'closet racist'.
I was very shocked, she's built herself a reputation as 'really lovely person', she's a massive animal lover, carer for a disabled child etc but no two ways about it, is racist.
I pull her up on it each time, she's made comments such as ' have you noticed there seems to be a lot of black people in our town lately ??
Made loud comments about people wearing a Hijab who passed us (( stated if we were in their country we'd have to be the same as them so it should be the same here )) I told her to stop being a dick.
Got slightly hysterical one night when a muslim family came into a place we were in (( pointed out her son has been treated by Indian drs for most of his life, where the fuck does she think their families live ?? )) These are just some examples
I'm actually really shocked and saddened by it, I don't think she even sees herself as racist but she is and don't want to lose a good friend (( barely see her these days as a result )) I've even wondered if maybe her MH is a bit iffy as these outbursts and comments are so odd.
The irony is on fb, if someone's hurt in a racist assault etc she's the first to say how appalling it is, she just doesn't see her behaviour as the same.