DH wanting me to steer DS away from 'his' career

[BandOfOsses]

My DS is a bit of a live wire, always in trouble at school for messing around, not doing homework, misbehaving etc. At home too he steals, lies, swears and is basically a bit of a 'bad lad'.
As he's in his final year at school now I'm trying to stir up an interest in careers just to give him a sense of direction. I am trying to steer him away from college as I believe it's too much like school for him. Instead I'd like him to do an apprentiship where he is gaining work experience, working towards a qualification and earning money.

I have so far pushed mechanics, electrician and engineering.

The latest one is an engineering company which is advertising for 2017 apprentiship applications. I sent the link to DS and then broadly mentioned it to DH.

DH is an engineer. This company is not the same company he works for however, unbeknown to me, he has links and contacts there. DH has now thrown a hissy fit saying I'm being insensitive to steer DS towards engineering as his bad behaviour etc will reflect on him. He says work is his time away from my DS and now he feels he's been invaded by the possibility of DS applying for an apprentiship at this company. He now wants me to steer DS away from engineering completely as he doesn't wish to associate with him in a working environment.

AIBU to think this is out of order? I'm trying to get DS to focus on career stuff and DH is just concerned with how it will effect him. He's saying "why not send him to work with his own dad?" - his own dad is a shelf stacker at Tesco.

AIBU or is DH?

[Believeitornot]

If your DH is so good at his job, then his step sons connection will be irrelevant.

Maybe he is embarrassed because it will show him to be the shit step dad he seems to be.

[Me2017]

What were his GCSE grades and in which subjects?
What does the boy's father (not step father) do and what is your career?

[Starlight2345]

I am left wondering if you have any idea about what is causing his behaviour? when it started?

It sounds like you are pushing him and if he is having so many behaviour problems I can understand you wanting to find him a path to follow...However what your idea of a career and his may well not be the same..

My DS is not at yours age yet but he has no idea what he wants to do..I have said to him when he gets older and finds out what he enjoys we can talk about different types of jobs and work from there.

Many 16 year olds really don't have a clue..

[maninawomansworld01]

I agree with your DH, presumably he has worked long and hard to build a decent career.
Like it or not as soon as people realise they are father and son, they will be linked and his bad behaviour will reflect on your DH.
With the state of the industry these days and how competitive it is , your DH is probably looming out for his job (which I presume pays your bills).

I'm with your DH 100% on this one.

[maninawomansworld01]

Ok just read that they aren't father and son, but they are linked and it will come out. Still agree with your DH.