DH out drinking with single friend. AIBU?

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DH is a well known businessman and full of wisdom. Single friend has asked if I could arrange a coffee between them for her to ask some business questions.

They started at 3pm and when I called him an hour ago he said he was still with her. He was definitely drinking (could hear it in his voice). Texted him about 20 min ago and no reply.

AIBU in feeling single friend should shut the conversation down after finishing with her business queries and not spend Friday night drinking with my DH or am I just a psycho jealous crazy?

I'm prepared to get flamed for this.

I don't. I think she's reasonably anxious.

Twenty past SIX. Not 5am. Seriously.....get a grip! I'm sure you are normally sane....but not today! We all have our ridiculous moments though....just have to recognise them....and this is one of yours based on the information in the OP. Have a cup of tea and a word with yourself

Whoa! Hang on a minute. So you DH has gone for a coffee with your friend... you arranged it at yours originally but plans changed and they met out somewhere. I'm all good to this point.
DH then bumped into some friends, so he and your friend decided to go get drunk and have fun, without him so much as texting you he will be home late... and you're stuck at home, assuming alone, bored (enough to cook up visions of DH having an affair or something) unable to have a glass of wine because of IVF?
I personally would be fuming. Stuck at home, waiting for him to get back so you can enjoy your evening together and he can't even be arse to send you a text or a quick call to say he's going to be late as he's bumped into some mates. I'm not talking asking permission or anything here, just a courtesy call to say 'you okay? I've bumped into the lads so me and 'friend' thought we join them for some drinks. Go ahead and eat without me'.

I think she's 'unreasonably' anxious.

Exactly lemon, me too.

Agree with lemon

I'd actually be even more annoyed that they'd met up with other friends of yours and are now having a night out without you and without inviting you. So rude

Do I have have low-husband esteem? He works in a city so often has the chance to meet friends for lunch or a drink after work, and does. I don't give a toss really, I'm vaguely glad he's socialising and occasionally annoyed that I have the car for my job in the sticks and therefore have to do kids pick up. Is the reason I'm not worried about him falling into bed with them that I don't think highly enough of him as a respected professional?

I think it is a bit controlling to have a problem with this if you have no specific plans together that night. OP's DH is not responsible for her translating "coffees do a hat followed by drinks with friends" into "raucous shag/huge betrayal" in her own mind.....she is and thinking like that is a CHOICE. choose not to be the crazy woman at home! Go out with your own friends! Don't mope about being angry with him.......that's boring. Accept he is now busy tonight and do something else!

If he's been on the bevy,since 3 pm.. nothing is going to rise,,including the the moon,,,so, nobody,including you is having session tonight...get a glass of squash,get the remote and enjoy your telly ..then tomorrow get your own back,when he complains of being " tired and emotional " tomorrow

Fuck 'unreasonably anxious' for a mo. How about 'reasonably pissed off'....

Sorry OP just saw your post saying you know you have massive jealousy/rage issues. It's good that you are self aware about this...since it is no doubt making your life pretty miserable why not take this as a turning point and start researching ways to resolve them? You've got time for yourself since DH is out! Win win

I wouldn't be too happy about my DH going out at 3pm and staying out with a mixed group of friends drinking without asking me if I fancied it.

Where's the post about massive jealousy/rage issues?!

The poster is about to start IVF so she is probably a bit wound up at the moment. I havent ever been in her position but fertility treatment and everything riding on it must string people out.

I'm with Love51.
Clearly I under appreciate dh's ability to bed every social meeting he has, male or female.

Meh - It would piss me off too especially the last text.

Marriage doesn't have to mean surgical attachment.

I agree with lemon too. I wouldn't be worried about them starting a wild passionate affair or anything, but I WOULD be pissed off and hurt that they had met up with more friends, had more drinks and not even thought to have text me to join them?!
Yeah I'm fine bored at home on my own, whilst you're all out having fun

mittens I agree. A little empathy for her vunerability might not go amiss.

I love an impromptu night out. I also love an unexpected night to myself in.

I wouldn't begrudge DH a night out in these circumstances. I'd make the most of not having to cook and having the remote to myself

I wouldn't be best pleased if my husband had an unplanned drinking session and didn't have the courtesy to let me know.

Besides which if they are about to start IVF it's not great for him to be getting really drunk.

I'd be really upset. Why the fuck haven't either of them invited you?

Why is he out drinking?

Doesn't he know that alcohol has a negative impact on sperm production/quality?

YANBU, I'd be annoyed that they'd left you out of what sounds like a fun evening.