To think that dh and Dd1 should pay half each for the missing chocolates?

[Boisderose]

I bought dd2 a really big box of chocolates for her birthday last week. She's like me, saves them. Someone has gone into her room and eaten about 10 of them. Dd2 is really upset. It wasn't me or Dd3 - neither of us like chocolates. Dd1 and dh both have form for this in the past - dh can't control himself around other people's sweets and nor can Dd1. It makes me so so furious. I have called them both greedy liars and said as neither of them are mature enough to own up they need to give me 7.50 each so I can buy dd2 a new box. They are both denying it and refusing. It makes me so angry I could leave dh!!!! (probably an overreaction). Aibu?

I think the lockable box each might be a good plan. What a shame that they might potentially be hiding sweets so that their own father doesn't help himself to them though. If it's siblings wanting to keep their own possessions to themselves (eg makeup or a diary etc) that's rather different than hiding chocolate from their greedy dad.

My DD (14) has binge eating disorder and HAS eaten other peoples stuff before. However, she always replaced it and apologised - she really couldn't help it.

Your dh and dd1 just seem greedy though. I would make them pay for a new box, take no excuses. It isn't fair on dd2

It is quite shocking that you believed your DH could steal sweets from his child and then deny it.

What I find shocking is the fact that he has done it so often that the OP would immediately assume it was him. I would think the same tbh, the same as in our house if something goes missing I always know who it is.

Maybe I'm in the minority but in our house we just share chocolates not hored them in a bedroom and not in a LOCKABLE box!! That is just insane. And greedy!

Maddy
Fuck off with that, if i get given chocolates, the fuck am i sharing them, they're mine!

Agree - 1 box/tub = 1 portion

As for thinking dd2's stealing is OK because she's younger and suggesting she be rewarded with make of her own while dd1 is made to buy her new chocolate... That way lies siblings who despise one another, a dd1 who will steal just because she feels so badly done by and a dd2 who will steal again because apparently she can do no wrong

You have misunderstood what I have said. DD2 has had horrible example from her father and older sister - you want something, you take it and there are no repercussions!

Borrowing make up (forget the germs - they are family FFS - I bet DD1 snogs her boyfriends and exposes herself to far more germs than she'd ever get off her sister - and I bet she and her mates try each other's lippy, too) doesn't mean that there is no make up left. A smear of lipstick or a hint of blusher doesn't deny the owner the rest of the tube Eating a chocolate means that chocolate is gone - forever! .

I wasn't suggesting buying make-up willy-nilly for DD@, but perhaps at Christmas or her next birthday she could have some, or if she wants to buy it with her pocket money, OP could take her to Boots/Superdrug/The Clarins Counter at Harrods - wherever. She could just be getting to that age.

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I think that's a little bit different. I would never squirrel away a birthday cake - they are meant for sharing (though not casually scoffing a bit off without birthday person)

Cake should be shared and to keep that all to yourself is greedy. However chocolates or sweets as presents belong to the person they were given to. I often get a box of chocolates for my birthday and Christmas, usually my favourites, they are mine. We have plenty of other stuff for everyone else, but ones that were wrapped up and given to me are mine to eat. I give the DCs the crappy raspberry black magic and that's it . I never force my DCs to share their treats either.

I do hate food sharing in general though, a la Joey from Friends.