To think that dh and Dd1 should pay half each for the missing chocolates?

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I bought dd2 a really big box of chocolates for her birthday last week. She's like me, saves them. Someone has gone into her room and eaten about 10 of them. Dd2 is really upset. It wasn't me or Dd3 - neither of us like chocolates. Dd1 and dh both have form for this in the past - dh can't control himself around other people's sweets and nor can Dd1. It makes me so so furious. I have called them both greedy liars and said as neither of them are mature enough to own up they need to give me 7.50 each so I can buy dd2 a new box. They are both denying it and refusing. It makes me so angry I could leave dh!!!! (probably an overreaction). Aibu?

I too would be fuming, especially as they/he/she haven't even got the guts to own up and take responsibility. I would remove all the remaining chocs into a different box and hide it away. Fill original box with disgusting flavoured trick chocs or dog treats. I would also buy DD2 another box to share with you as a treat. Shame on them!!

So when his child is crying because he's taken something of hers he shrugs and says it's not a big deal? He sounds vile. What a bully.

Thank you for making me laugh even though it's not remotely funny the responses have helped cheer up a very miserable MsQueen.

I too would be raging. Someone needs to own up and pay for some more. I do however like the idea of replacing them with laxatives.

I've got a binge eating disorder but I don't take from my kids and if I do I immediately replace. But they're very little so nothing is just there's if that makes sense.

He didn't shrug! He did say I have not even been upstairs I have just got back from work. I do actually believe him now. I'm still cross as he's got this stupid face he puts on when I'm furiosus about something to do with the children. He's got no idea of how to talk to Dd1 about it. Or any ideas on how to get her to buy dd2 a new box of chocs.

If he doesn't think it's a big deal - it was probably him as if it wasnt he would be on his high horse to prove it wasn't him.

My niece was like this - she ate nine Easter eggs over the space of a week thst were hidden. So on Easter Sunday no one had fuck all. She wasn't arsed either.

She then went on to steal shit out of my house. Stealing is stealing regardless what it is - just because it's sweets or chocolate it shouldn't be over looked.

Glad it's cheered you up msmcqueen, hope it's not offended you me calling them greedy bastards

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I would swap the chocolates for something like these!!

Well yes, YABU to demand money from both of them when it was probably just one of them. Whoever it was, you can't punish the other person for someone else's lies.

If your husband usually owns up, it seems pretty obvious it's your eldest daughter so you need to take the money from her, and if you can't do that then take away something she cares about until she apologises to her sister and replaces the chocolates.

It's not a fuss about nothing!!

What a terrible way to treat someone. I think you should take DD2 out for a special time together, just the two of you - maybe a hot choclate and muffin or something, and an afternoon of doing nothing much together, and get her another box of chocolates.

Poor DD2

Uh chocolate!

OP you are not alone.
DD2 bought chocolates for DH and I for our wedding anniversary. They were my favourites but in a variety pack.
The next day I went to open them. Only a white chocolate and a dark chocolate one left....... I don't eat white or milk chocolate.
Grrrrrr

If you are sure its DD1, then either deduct her pocket money or ban her from her horse for a week. No way I would put up with that shit from a 16 year old. If she won't freely replace or apologise then you remove and sell something she owns, or use up something she likes (like her make up).

Surely your DH is saying 'It wasn't me, so DD1 it must be you. Right. This is unacceptable. DD2, we're replacing you're chocolates and DD1, you're replacing the money.' Because as a sensible adult in the house who hasn't done this, he can see that it needs to be sorted?

My dad used to do this and blame it on me to my mum and she always believed him. He did it with chocolates cans of fizzy pop all kinds of stuff. One time he did it with her engagement ring. My mum cottoned on eventually.

Are you married to Peter Griffin

Your fury at your DH is unreasonable esp as you say that you're sure he didn't take the chocolate.

And TBH I think that your fury at your DD2 is unreasonable given these are teenagers who clearly have no respect for each other's personal space given you say dd2 steals dd1's makeup and now DD1 has taken a few of DD2's chocolate.

Tell them to sort it out amongst themselves. It's all just a storm in a teacup.

I totally agree lougle

Instead he's gone upstairs to sulk

I actually hate him a bit at the moment

They won't sort it out. I would love it if they did.

Grown men do pinch childrens chocolate and then deny it.

My step father is the same. As teenagers he used to go rooting in our rooms for sweets, chocolate etc.

Leaving anything sweet in the fridge was a no go. I remember once i bought a chicken pasty from greggs and thought i would have it for my tea. Went to get it out the fridge really looking forward to this and the fat git had bloody scoffed it. He knew full well it wasnt his as it was still in its greggs packaging.

I used to buy magazines like love it, thats life etc and he would take them out of our rooms to read before we have even read them!!

My mum has to hide stuff in the bloody safe if she wants to eat it herself! She has been known to put eccles cakes in the safe so he wouldnt scoff them all.

Im glad i dont live there anymore

'Ban her from her horse for a week'.

Lol. What, so the OP gets the pleasure of mucking it out? No thanks.

chuck your husband on the sofa and tell dd to pay for her own horse

That means there is more than one chocolate snaffling greedy sod on the loose though. Why do people think that is an ok thing to do?

Mumsnet is full of them around Easter.

"AIBU to eat my child's Easter eggs as they have so many?"

"YANBU. Think of it as looking after their teeth...'he he he!'"

Part of the reason my friend has such little self control over chocolate/sweets, is because when she was a kid and would eat a bit of an Easter egg/chocolate bar/whatever, then save the rest in the fridge for tomorrow, her parents would eat it.

So she soon learned that she needed to eat it all in one sitting, or she wouldn't see it again.

You watch next Easter, MN will be full of these threads again from parents trying to justify what they're doing.

For my first Valentine's with my DP, he bought me (amongst other things), a box of chocolates. We were pacing ourselves, having a couple a night so they would last.

We both went to work one day and he finished earlier than me so got home before me, then messaged me to say that he'd found the box of chocolates in the recycling bin when he got home. His flatmate had eaten them (or possibly shared them - he had a girl over for dinner the night before so could have shared them with her)! I was most annoyed. Yes, it's only chocolates but that was the first time I had ever been given chocolates by a partner and it was our first Valentine's (plus I'd had a terrible day at work and was looking forward to having some when I got in. If he'd wanted some, he could have just asked (or bought his own).

I would maybe get your DD a locked cupboard or similar to stash her stuff in. It is so unfair for her to have to lock things away from her sibling and her dad but at least that way she won't have to worry.

I don't blame you for being furious. I would be too. Both for the lying and the attitude from your husband. It's even worse that the chocolates were your daughter's birthday present!

Your DH is partially to blame here even if he hasn't touched the chocolate on this occasion - he's done it before, setting a bad example, and he doesn't care that DD1 has done it to DD2.