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To think that dh and Dd1 should pay half each for the missing chocolates?

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Boisderose · 26/10/2016 18:16

I bought dd2 a really big box of chocolates for her birthday last week. She's like me, saves them. Someone has gone into her room and eaten about 10 of them. Dd2 is really upset. It wasn't me or Dd3 - neither of us like chocolates. Dd1 and dh both have form for this in the past - dh can't control himself around other people's sweets and nor can Dd1. It makes me so so furious. I have called them both greedy liars Blush and said as neither of them are mature enough to own up they need to give me 7.50 each so I can buy dd2 a new box. They are both denying it and refusing. It makes me so angry I could leave dh!!!! (probably an overreaction). Aibu?

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LadyAEIOU · 26/10/2016 18:55

A GROWN man cannot help himself, has stolen his children's treats before and refused to replace them. What a catch. Ugh, that would seriously put me off someone. I don't know why, it just would.

This. It's the principle. Siblings are bad enough (my sister would nick my toys) but your own parents? Really cruel to take something from your child and lie and not replace it.

GruochMacAlpin · 26/10/2016 19:03

I think it's fairly appalling to be living in a house where two adults (and where I am in Scotland 16 is an adult) can't be trusted not to steal from a family member. Your poor DD2.

I'd echo another poster and get DD2 a lockable box or cupboard.

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Boisderose · 26/10/2016 19:03

Yes I totally agree with all of you. I hate it and it does put me off dh tbh. In this instance I don't think it was him, but it's still pissing me off that he doesn't think it's a big deal that Dd1 has done it. He thinks I'm over reacting. I feel absolutely furious with the pair of them

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freebreeze · 26/10/2016 19:04

It's not a fuss over nothing. She's a child and a lovely gift has been stolen from here! Also as far as she can see, the culprit , her dad, isn't going to own up and put this right. That is communicating a lot to her I'm afraid - i.e. I'm obviously not that important to dad as he can steal from me and then lie. Chuff me, this needs sorting and dad you really need to grow up.......

Wolfiefan · 26/10/2016 19:05

I would feel like taking DD2 out and treating her with daddy's credits card. Is that fraud though?
He can't see it is wrong to steal from a child? Is he always such a twat?! My kids are 6 and 13. They don't steal from each other!

FurryLittleTwerp · 26/10/2016 19:06

What a nasty thing to do. I agree with trick/dog laxative chocolates in a genuine box - teach the buggers.

IfartInYourGeneralDirection · 26/10/2016 19:06

I would buy their favourite treats and flat out refuse to share them with Anyone but dd2

AcrossthePond55 · 26/10/2016 19:07

I agree the chocs should be replaced. My only wonder is if any of the children have had friends over recently who may have gotten into them.

I was am a sweets hoarder and have invested in a lock box to keep my greedy DH from swiping them. But he never argued or lied about replacing them if he got into them. It's just that I absolutely HATE expecting to have my 'treat' only to look in the cupboard and find them either gone or sadly diminished.

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Boisderose · 26/10/2016 19:07

Dd2 quite often borrows dd1s make up. It infuriates Dd1. I think I need to buy them both a lockable box. Dd3 is a principled honest person thank God.

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ohtheholidays · 26/10/2016 19:07

I'd be taking the money of them both and I'd buy your DD another box with the money then I'd be telling your DH he can sleep on the fucking sofa till he learns to grow up and act like a real Husband and Father!

Cel982 · 26/10/2016 19:07

If you genuinely think your husband could be lying to you about this, you have bigger problems than some chocolates. Does he have an eating disorder?

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Boisderose · 26/10/2016 19:09

Tbf dh does admit taking sweets. But he never replaces them.

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Boisderose · 26/10/2016 19:10

He's addicted to sugar. He has a childish love of sweets. I think it's fucking repulsive

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LadyConstanceDeCoverlet · 26/10/2016 19:11

What is your DH's justification for the way he behaves? I don't understand how, in any family, a parent would think it fine to take his children's belongings for his own use without asking and without replacing them. Does he have some sort of perception that the children aren't entitled to have anything of their own or something?

PickledCauliflower · 26/10/2016 19:11

Adults don't sneak in to bedrooms to pinch chocolates do they?
Kids do - most can't help themselves, but it is naughty.
It can't really be your husband can it?

QueenArseClangers · 26/10/2016 19:12

Is this the idiot who pinched your daughter's Harry Potter chocolate frog?

Kintan · 26/10/2016 19:13

If it was your DH, then him letting your DD1 share the blame without confessing is pretty terrible!

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Boisderose · 26/10/2016 19:15

No he didn't pinch a chocolate frog!!

I'm actually pretty sure it was Dd1. I'm livid with the pair of them. Quite unreasonably so if dh didn't take them.

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PickledCauliflower · 26/10/2016 19:15

I have been known to have terrible chocolate cravings at certain times of the month. I can jump in the car and buy a box of creme eggs from the local garage if need be 😳
If husband is pinching the kids chocolate - he's bloody mean and selfish. He can get his own choc can't he?

RepentAtLeisure · 26/10/2016 19:15

Are you married to Peter Griffin?! Tonight I badly wanted chocolate - I really really love it - and had none. My DS had a bag of chocolates in the cupboard so I asked if I could have them and replace them tomorrow. He said yes. If he'd said no I'd have accepted that. It wouldn't have crossed my mind to steal from him! I don't care if your DH is the biggest chocoholic who ever lived - he either goes out to buy some, or he asks. He's not helpless against the lure of fat and sugar.

You can't prove who stole, so I would help your other DD protect her belongings by buying her a lockable drawer or cabinet, or at least a tin. Think of ways you can help her keep her things safe from her father (how sad) and sister. And then treat the two of you to your favourite chocs this weekend and don't share!

anotheronebitthedust · 26/10/2016 19:16

did you post about your DH eating your DCs easter egg (or something) a few weeks ago OP? i remember being disgusted by that post. A grown man rifling through his teenage daughter's bedroom to steal her sweeties is just offputting in a lot of ways and very different to having a sweet tooth or however he is minimalising it. I would buy him a lovely box of chocolates for his bday then as soon as he's unwrapped it either eat them all yourself or tip them straight in the bin just to make a point.

Muddlewitch · 26/10/2016 19:20

Have you posted about him before op? I'm sure there was a thread a while back now about someone's DH stealing a chocolate gift that belonged to one of their dc. If it was you and he is at it again I would go berserk. (If it wasn't you there is more than one of them around sadly!)

I would feel exactly as you do, it's really not on, even if it wasn't him on this occasion then his attitude about it still stinks. Whoever did it should absolutely pay for a replacement. Knowing that one of them was lying would make me furious.

Could they both have taken a few each hence both denying taking loads?

strawberryblondebint · 26/10/2016 19:21

Change the wifi password to greedybastard . Give the new password to dd2 only. Fuck the rest of them. Buy her more chocolates and do the bake off thing. And leave laxative chocs lying around.

Muddlewitch · 26/10/2016 19:22

Cross posted with you and others there op, sorry!

That means there is more than one chocolate snaffling greedy sod on the loose though. Why do people think that is an ok thing to do? Angry

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Boisderose · 26/10/2016 19:22

No I've never posted about him before!! I will have to try and contact the OP from the other thread. How depressing that there's more of them

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