To think that dh and Dd1 should pay half each for the missing chocolates?

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I bought dd2 a really big box of chocolates for her birthday last week. She's like me, saves them. Someone has gone into her room and eaten about 10 of them. Dd2 is really upset. It wasn't me or Dd3 - neither of us like chocolates. Dd1 and dh both have form for this in the past - dh can't control himself around other people's sweets and nor can Dd1. It makes me so so furious. I have called them both greedy liars and said as neither of them are mature enough to own up they need to give me 7.50 each so I can buy dd2 a new box. They are both denying it and refusing. It makes me so angry I could leave dh!!!! (probably an overreaction). Aibu?

I would buy a new box for dd2.
And I would find a place where DH or dd1 can't get to so they can't steal said chocolates.
And I would make it clear to both of them as to WHY it is necessary to do that and how unacceptable it is.
What is your dd1 doing when she is at friend's and there are sweets lying around? Can she control herself ? I bet she can which means so can she when she is at home.

And YY to the fact DH is to blame for the simple fact that he is in effect saying that it is an ok thing to do by doing it itself.
Plus he still hasn't said anything to dd1 which is reinforcing the idea that stealing chocolate is ok, it's just mummy that has this weird idea that it's not acceptable.

Plus he still hasn't said anything to dd1 which is reinforcing the idea that stealing chocolate is ok, it's just mummy that has this weird idea that it's not acceptable.

This is exactly what he's done. I can't even speak to him at the moment. He didn't even take any interest in dd2s presents, he never does. He enjoys watching them opening them but takes no interest in buying them anything. He's a bloody man child and he's really pissing me off

Your sneaky daughter has led by her sneaky father's example. IMO, they both should have some form of punishment, whatever that might be.

Go and buy your other daughter another box, as you suggested, so she doesn't miss out on her present or get her something else if those are also at risk of theft.

Greedy efforts!

But dd2 doesn't sound much better using dd1's make-up against her wishes.

Stealing her bday present-that's awful.

She doesn't deserve that, but she also needs to stop using her sister's makeup.

Well what do you usually do when your Dd2 steals dd1s make up? Similar punishment?

Take the remaining chocolates and inject them with garlic paste.

Firstly it will be a nice revenge on the thief and secondly, you will be able to tell without a shadow of a doubt, who snaffled them!

Obviously you need to avoid garlicky food for a few days. I know someone who did this and it worked an absolute treat!

Oh and make it clear that if DD2 pinches her sisters make up again then you wont have her back when it comes to chocolate theft, and suggest she uses any birthday money to get her own make up.

Buy 2 lockable boxes. Give one to DD2 with a new box of chocolates in it. Tell DD1 you will allow DD2 to 'borrow' her make up until she has given you the £15 for the chocs, at which point she can have the other lockable box to keep her stuff in.

Not sure what to do about DH. Maybe repeatedly take or hide of his treats / favourite snacks that are in the house. Or accidentally tie him to a chair and choke him on his own chocolate? Make sure the kids are out first though.

I would take anything and everything that DH buys for himself to eat, and refuse to replace it on the basis that he made that rule when he took the kids stuff and didnt replace that.

Lolol shelby!

Actually the lockable box plan is genius.

He never buys stuff for himself!! I wish he would.

Well in that case, definitely the lockable box. You can get clear plastic ones to keep in the fridge too.

What a fucking tool. I would not want to be married to him, seriously.

Stealing makeup is bad. But a few chocolates I couldn't get worked up about tbh.
I can't quite get past someone being given chocolates as a present and snaffling them up to their bedroom, not to be shared with anyone else As a family, we've always share chocolates given as gifts - either amongst ourselves or more often with the dc friends.
I'd consider anyone taking gifted chocolate upstairs without offering it round first, to be a bit of a precious greedy gobshite, tbf

Replace the dog chocs previously suggested with Ex-Lax chocolate.

Sounds like this is the tip of the iceberg with him tbh.

I'd buy you and each child a lockable box, everyone gets to put their own treats in there and lock it. Your DH can sort himself put. If they want to act like greedy bastards, they can put up with being treated like children. Actually that's an insult to children. Mine and 8 and 5 and they would never eat their others treats.

Haven't rtft but if you think that your dh may be childish enough to throw one of your kids under the bus over a box of chocolates you have bigger problems than the chocs.

Here's his twin the aforementioned chocolate frog thief, guzzles it compulsively, and has to have some every day. Someone brought their kid a gift from Harry Potter World and he ate it. Shameless.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2725450-AIBU-to-consider-killing-DH

The chocolate frog thief still gets to me. What a complete cunt.

And I suspect that the OP didnt tear him a new one as she should have done.

Have just reread it Bogeyface forgot about the one poster who derailed the thread and went FULL MRA and basically said that it was the OP's fault for not giving him enough "comfort"

What worries me now us that OP has swung from blaming them both to blaming her eldest daughter. Perhaps because she doesn't want her DH to be the thief. Now it's possible the day there will be punished for what the husband has done.

OP why are you defending him? You said in response to my comment he doesn't shrug. But he does! He has taken their chocolates before and doesn't think it's a big deal. He doesn't think it's wrong and now he's having a sulk. That's not the behaviour of a kind and loving father.

Because he didn't take them. Dd1 did, she's just admitted it and offered to buy more. In return I need to bollock dd2 about the make up nicking. Dh is blameless. On this occasion.

At least DD1 has now admitted it. But I think your anger with DH is because they've learnt this behaviour from him, including the sloopy teflan shoulders. DD1 needs to buy chocolates or make up as that that's what DD2 is pilfering, DD2 needs to apologise for nicking make up, DH needs to grow up and DD3 gets her choice of activity as basically she hasn't succumbed to such behaviour.

Job done, innit!

Dd3 is amazing. I'm taking her out shopping today and leaving the other two at home to slug it out.