To think this mn pregnancy sex advice is fucking outrageous?

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I was just reading the MN 9 weeks pregnant page to find out how the baby's doing this week, and found the following offensive horse shit advice:

"But you need to stay close to your partner because pregnancy is not necessarily a uniting experience: one of you is pregnant and the other is not. Pregnancy can be quite lonely - your body is changing in unfamiliar ways and you may no longer be the independent, sexy woman you used to be. Tell your partner how you feel (on a need-to-know basis), be affectionate and try to have sex if you feel even vaguely interested."

What the fuck?! If you're even vaguely interested, open your legs and let your husband have a go! You can lie back and think of England while your dh satisfies himself using your vagina as some kind of wanking vessel - if you don't mind awfully. Are you fucking serious?! Do you think this will strengthen my relationship? Having sex when I don't particularly feel like it as some kind of favour to my partner (as if he'd want that)! AIBU or is this fucking gross and really terrible advice?

Is this 1954 or what?

YANBU

shit that is awful

what the actual fuck HQ?

Yanbu. That's fucking vile.

YANBU

Oh dear MN.

Ha ha ha. At 9 weeks I was throwing my guts up. Super sexy. YANBU.

It's not brilliantly worded but it clearly doesn't say to do it when not interested! It also doesn't say to not enjoy it or "use as a wanking vessel" either.

Maybe I'm being naive but I can see what it's trying to say here (perhaps clumsily).

you may no longer be the independent, sexy woman you used to be.

What? As soon as you're pregnant you are no longer independent or sexy? Ok then.

WTAF?

That's just bizarre

Bloody hell. Who wrote that?

Yes, at 9 weeks, I had a drip in for HG. I don't think sex was on my, or dhs, mind!

Plus the "tell them how you feel, on a need to know basis" best not gross them out with details of your morning sickness, it'll only affect their enjoyment of the unwanted sex wondering I'd you're going to vomit on them.

Yep, here it is. I was hoping it might be in an email or something not directly affiliated with mn

www.mumsnet.com/pregnancy/calendar/9-weeks-pregnant

What is it "trying to say" user?

Why, at any time in One's life should one "try to have sex"?

I personally don't agree with this advice but I really don't think it's worth ranting and raving over. Surely there are more important things to worry about for heavens sake?

Bloody hell.

Everything about that is hideous! What are they thinking?!

Blah blah blah find something more important to worry about etc etc

If it's not important, there's no need for it to be mentioned on there at all :)

Fucks sake Mummyt1 if we can't complain about that, here, what's the point of mnet?

Jeez. That is dire.

WTAF? Has this turned into Netmums?

" Having sex and trying to stay close There are some women (allegedly) who have better sex than ever when pregnant. Pregnancy hormones intensify the pleasure they get from sex. If this is your experience - and you are not too sick and knackered to go for it - then you are lucky indeed. Many women feel rung out and sick. Sex is one chore too far.

But you need to stay close to your partner because pregnancy is not necessarily a uniting experience: one of you is pregnant and the other is not. Pregnancy can be quite lonely - your body is changing in unfamiliar ways and you may no longer be the independent, sexy woman you used to be. Tell your partner how you feel (on a need-to-know basis), be affectionate and try to have sex if you feel even vaguely interested."

So you'll probably feel exhausted and sick, but you should try to have sex anyway to 'stay close' to your non-pregnant partner? Seriously?

Last time something similar was spotted, it was amended quite quickly. Fingers crossed this will be the same as I'm sure nobody at mn wants "lie back and think of England" affiliated with their site.

What a pile of absolute shite.
I wasn't 'lonely' during any of my 5 pregnancies, and didn't feel unattractive, either.
I didn't want sex much in the early days, but I'm afraid that was just tough luck, not that DH complained especially as I turned into a raging nympho for the 2nd half of my pregnancy

Seriously though... make an effort to have sex with your OH? Fuck off.