To think this mn pregnancy sex advice is fucking outrageous?

[ICuntSeeYourPoint]

I was just reading the MN 9 weeks pregnant page to find out how the baby's doing this week, and found the following offensive horse shit advice:

"But you need to stay close to your partner because pregnancy is not necessarily a uniting experience: one of you is pregnant and the other is not. Pregnancy can be quite lonely - your body is changing in unfamiliar ways and you may no longer be the independent, sexy woman you used to be. Tell your partner how you feel (on a need-to-know basis), be affectionate and try to have sex if you feel even vaguely interested."

What the fuck?! If you're even vaguely interested, open your legs and let your husband have a go! You can lie back and think of England while your dh satisfies himself using your vagina as some kind of wanking vessel - if you don't mind awfully. Are you fucking serious?! Do you think this will strengthen my relationship? Having sex when I don't particularly feel like it as some kind of favour to my partner (as if he'd want that)! AIBU or is this fucking gross and really terrible advice?

OMG. Just googled the husband stitch

That is beyond shocking

@UnoriginalNN

How old is it though, MN? Didn't think they had the internet in the 1940's...

well quite, Unoriginal. Really not sure how on earth this got through at any point in our history! Apols again - as AmyMumsnet says, we'll be on this first thing.

Oh good, i xposted with mnhq. Glad they're onto it.

Also googled husband stitch.

Besides the whole idea being vile, the perineum is a different part to the vagina. So I'm failing to understand what difference an extra stitch it would make to sexual pleasure.

Yay, thank you mnhq.

Its a wonder it didnt say its important to look nice for ones partner jeez is this the baloney you are serving up . Most women feel like heaving down a pan at 9 weeks never mind sex ridiculous advice

A tear/cut usually extends from the vaginal opening down the perineum and towards the anus, the stitch is done at the entrance to the vagina.

I once made a thread pointing out that the writer of the child development page sounded like a raging snob (your child will enjoy stacking bricks, but don't worry, this doesn't mean they will work for Tesco) which got fixed really quickly too. This one is even worse!

Salem Really?

Yep! I'll see if I can find my old thread...

I missed Peter stringfellow. Someone fill me in? poor choice of words given thread really

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2393738-To-think-this-is-a-bit-off-of-the-Mumsnet-writers

Here it is. They didn't say don't worry (my mistake), but they did say 'end up' which gives the same impression!

salem hahaha. Whilst also awful, that does at least sound very mumsnet. Everybody knows the only supermarket to work in is Waitrose anyway darling, you get a discount on naice ham

salem it is shocking but it is hilarious as well. As batteries has pointed out

MNHQ, would it be disingenuous of me to ask you to correct the 'rung out' clause as well while you are there (unless you really are likening 9-week pregnant women to a peal of church bells)?

Bloody hell!

Bloody hell, I was dead horny with one and not at all with the other. Vague interest is too low a threshold, though.

I wondered if it was old. Those pregnancy and development mails don't seem to have changed since the site was started. :)

Most of the time that's not a bad thing, I like the "original MN" tone. (This not great though, I agree!)

It's not rung out, either. It's WRUNG out.

That's the second time recently Mumsnet HQ have had to admit their advice page is off

Tarla, I've just googled husband stitch as well, that was a mistake 😳

Grim.

Imagine if you were in a loving respectful relationship and some twat midwife gave you a husband stitch. It could take you years (or never ) to get back to having comfortable sex. Consensual enjoyment robbed from couples because of the horrid rape culture of men 'deserving' sex and being entitled to take it.

I bet nobody's read it before

I was desperate for sex when I was pregnant.

Just saying.