AIBU to think that a cashier shouldn't comment on personal items you're buying?

[catlover1987]

Just home from the weekly shop at Asda. The cashier gave a running commentary on all of my shopping. Oh that looks nice, oh aren't those ready meals handy, oh what is that, I'll need to try that. Mildly annoying but I'm sure she was just trying to be friendly. However, where I think she really crossed the line was when she seen my pregnancy test and said, oh I hope it's a yes! I didn't know what to say!

DH was buying condoms in the supermarket once, and the lady winked and told him to have fun. DH didn't really know how to react.. I think he gave an embarrassed laugh. It would have made me extremely uncomfortable but I think I'm overly sensitive.

I had to buy a pregnancy test recently and my 3 DC were with me. I literally saw the lady who served me (pharmacy) count my children as she served me thank god it was negative

The last time I bought a pregnancy test, the cashier (a complete stranger!) said "oh how exciting, you will have to let me know!" Needless to say she won't be first on the list when I break the news

This thread reminded me of the late Caroline Ahern on the Fast Show

Sorry OP, I didn't see your latest post before my reply and I feel mine is insensitive.

Fingers crossed for you very soon

Yanbu! I would expect a bit of sensitivity with a purchase like that. That said it is a long slog working on a till I've been there I know! She may of just let it escape her mouth before engaging brain.

They are very nosy.

I prefer the cashiers who just scan it without looking at what they are scanning

Thanks everyone. Trying to laugh it off now but glad to know it's not just me that thought it was a tad inappropriate.

OP was it Asda at Forest Town by any chance? I had several incidences of the same cashier doing this to me when it was too late to change checkouts, and she commented on every bloody thing, from milk to ready meals to clothes! I was tempted to put just a cucumber and a tub of Vaseline on the conveyor belt to see what she commented there!

The comment about the pregnancy test was appalling. She has no idea if you want to be pregnant or not ( for you)! If she can't engage her brain first she should keep quiet.

I actually think that's so bad (the rest was annoying but I wouldn't be anything more than mildly irked) that I would make a complaint. What if she recognises you next time and asks about it? Because she sounds insensitive enough to do that. And that would lost the shop a customer.

When I did that job, the company brought in a rule that all cashiers had to make some kind of positive comment about what customers were buying and what a good purchase it was. Managers lurked around the tills to be sure we were doing it. I hated it!

At least she was being friendly and not bitchy.

I bought some fibogel in Boots (constipation due to IBS) and the young cashier turned to the other cashier, held up the box and commented very loudly that only old people normally bought this.

. I once served a guy who bought ten cans of Red Bull and a 12 pack of condoms - obviously I didn't comment, but keeping my composure was pretty difficult!

I had it in Morrisons once. When she got to the pregnancy test she passed comment on it, to which I responded that 'it'd better be negative. She had the good grace to look somewhat embarrassed.

Nothing wrong with till chit chat, but some things are personal. PG test, sanitary items, condoms/lubes, but also food. I wouldn't be surprised if some people have experienced a "ooh, on a diet?" comment based on the foods they were buying.

OP:
Why not use the self-checkout if someone being friendly bothers you so much?

My last pregnancy test (now 7m's) the cashier asked if it was 'a good thing' which I awkwardly laughed off and said yes because it was a good thing but still.. She had no idea what my situation was I could of been assaulted or God knows what!! I also think you should never comment on a woman's belly unless they bring it up- again without the circumstances they may just look pregnant or maybe their baby has something wrong or even died a cashier commented on mine yesterday and I have a tiny bump and was wearing a baggy tshirt- she was talking to my DS and then to me said 'annnnd you're expecting another one..?' I thought bloody hell you're brave first time anyone has commented on my bump it's really not that obvious!! She'd of felt bad if I was just plump round the middle

Because they aren't everywhere.

Or - buy your pregnancy test thing at Boots or wherever?

at being forced to make "reassuring" comments on customers shopping choices. When I've made my decision as to what to buy, I don't need any unsolicited opinions from total strangers (especially the ones who are being paid to sell it to me )
In fact, if I got it more than once it would be a major factor in making the decision never to shop there again.

Oh, and fingers crossed for you OP.

I suppose that's why I like Aldi, not just the groceries but the speedy efficient checkout with minimal chat

I was so shocked at her bitchyness I just meekly paid - now of course I would ask her loudly if she meant to be a bitch!

Reminds me of the cashier in Boots commenting on me buying maternity pads as they are the only sanitary products that can withstand my period. "You don't look like someone who should have a baby ". 2year old DS was with me at the time . I actually complained to the store manager and got an apology and some vouchers, but it has put me off shopping there. I wish I had a good glare that made people wilt for occasions like this.

I know, it was miserable. First customer I had through the day after that rule change came in was buying £50 of lingerie and some batteries - I don't think she really wanted my reassurance on her shopping choices!

Saying a cake looks nice or something, yes of course fine, but commenting on pregnancy tests or medicine is of course not on!

When is it friendly to mention a pregnancy test.

To some it may be an exciting time finding out if the test will be positive.

To others it's not so much a great time if your hoping for a negative.

Then it could be the person 100th test in the hope its this month after fertility treatments.