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To ask why it's ok to have a bootle of wine on a Saturday afternoon with someone but not on your own.

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StrongTeaHotShower · 22/10/2016 12:59

I'm being a facetious, alcoholic idiot. Anyone want to tell me why it would be such a spectacularly bad idea to stick dd infront of CBeebies and hide in my bedroom with some wine (or the bottle of gin my alcoholic Dad bought for me, his alcoholic daughter for her birthday Hmm. Thanks dad).

I've come so far in my sobriety this is like a bolt out of the blue. I went at the last minute to the pharmacy to collect my head meds and they said the dr hadn't sent it through so I'm stuck till Monday. This has brought on a big self medicating craving. It's just me and dd all live long day.

I'm having such a bad craving and my AA friend is away on a dirty weekend so I don't want to bother her and really don't want to admit I'm tempted to anyone else in RL.

Can anyone be arsed to talk some sense into me?

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washingsomuchwashing · 22/10/2016 17:01

You're doing so well! Don't often post but am really proud of you. Great collage! I hate doing crafty stuff!

SortAllTheThings · 22/10/2016 17:04

Well done Flowers

Blobby10 · 22/10/2016 17:31

Wanted to add my admiration of you - so strong to pour the gin away then focus o your daughter rather than collapse in a heap like so many of us would. Dont want to sound condescending but well done - youre awesome!!! xx

PotteringAlong · 22/10/2016 17:39

I've just come back to this and am so pleased to see how you've both got through the day Flowers

StrongTeaHotShower · 22/10/2016 19:48

One more big, big thank you to everyone who talked me out of drinking earlier. Dd is happily tucked up asleep oblivious to the bad thoughts that were running through my mind earlier.

The pizzas in the oven and I'm about to settle down to a good film. Enjoy your weekend everyone Brew

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WildDigestive · 22/10/2016 19:50

Deeply admiring here, OP. What you're doing is hard. Very best wishes to you.

PotOfYoghurt · 22/10/2016 19:51

What an amazing achievement today- did you ever think you could do this? You've proved that you absolutely can! And even with the wonderful support of the great mumsnetters here, it's YOU who has put the hard work and effort in to overcome it. Enjoy your pizza and delicious tea!

Sassypants82 · 22/10/2016 20:04

Have just read this thread.. I'm actually in tears & just think you're absolutely awesome. Your beautiful little girl is so lucky to have such an amazing Mommy. No better inspiration to smash your goals. Well done you. Flowers

RavioliOnToast · 22/10/2016 20:14

I had a little cry when I read this thread. I am the daughter of an alcoholic single mother. I wish wish wish she'd had a fucking ounce of your determination and motivation. From wen I was younger, I don't remember a lot of the good days, but every single bad day (when dm was pissed) is still as vivid today as it was then. You've done brilliantly and I am very very proud of you. Flowers

Introvertedbuthappy · 22/10/2016 20:24

You're a fantastic mother. Well done for today - we're all rooting for you. Flowers

SandysMam · 23/10/2016 14:12

Hope you're feeling ok today OP, still thinking of you!

Foslady · 23/10/2016 14:40

Just seen this - I am so chuffed to see what you did yesterday - yesterday was a huge turning point for you, hold that memory to remind you of how far you've come

StealthPolarBear · 23/10/2016 14:48

And imagine her in 30 yr meats writing a very similar post about herself.
Stay strong Flowers

OrcinusOrca · 23/10/2016 14:56

I know how completely random this is because you don't know me, but I'm really proud of you. This has brought tears to my eyes.

My dad is/was an alcoholic. In the end I decided he was generally a bit nicer when he was drunk, but I don't really know who he is at all. I'm mid 20's, bought house and got married recently etc, haven't spoken to my Dad in nearly 9 years now. Not sure he would recognise me, never met my DH etc. That's why the drink is never worth it xx

StealthPolarBear · 23/10/2016 15:09

No idea what the word meats meant in that sentence

RedTitsMcGinty · 23/10/2016 15:12

OP, my dad was an alcoholic, as was his father. My uncle died of it at 41 years old. I'm a single mum to DD. I have a chronic mental illness and am having a few shit days and I poured myself a glass of wine at 2pm, justifying it as going with my Sunday lunch. Your thread has given me the kick up the arse that I needed. I won't be pouring a second glass. Thank you.

IWouldLikeToSeeTheseMangoes · 23/10/2016 15:30

OP just wanted to add to the many others who have said it already - well done on getting through this and so many people are so proud of you. Your daughter is lucky to have you and you are amazing. Flowers

StrongTeaHotShower · 24/10/2016 10:00

Thank you for all the lovely words. We continued to have a quiet, fun weekend and am so grateful to you all for stopping me from messing things up. It was bliss to wake up clear headed and happy. Especially as she decided 5:45 was wake up time!

Flowersall round.

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StealthPolarBear · 24/10/2016 10:35

You're brilliant

backtowork2015 · 24/10/2016 11:28

Well done strong, I thought of you when you dropped off the dry thread and so pleased you're coping ok now

IWouldLikeToSeeTheseMangoes · 24/10/2016 16:43

Glad to hear it StrongTea. Yikes can you imagine how rough that 5:45 start could have been if you hadn't been sober?? Shock One piece of advice that's stuck with me over the years from a fellow non-drinker was that in their boozing days there were so many mornings they woke up with regret and desperately wished they hadn't drunk the night before - but since being sober they never once woke up with regret that they hadn't had a drink the night before.

TeacherBob · 24/10/2016 16:46

StrongTeaHotShower

Do you have access to a laminator? Or could you ask school?

That would be a lovely picture for you to have laminated so you can always remember how amazing you are

StrongTeaHotShower · 24/10/2016 17:23

Back to work I want to rejoin but feel like I flounced a bit last time Blush

Mangoes very true. I've never regretted waking up sober!

Bob I'll ask after half term. The leaves have already lost their beautiful redness though.

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backtowork2015 · 24/10/2016 19:42

You know you would be welcomed. I remember your original thread and I commented you'd inspired me to cut out mid week drinking, I'm now over half way through sober october anc your posting prompted me. Think how many others are the same. Please rejoin, if just for the lurkers like me!

DeadGood · 24/10/2016 19:50

Well done OP. Star

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