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To ask why it's ok to have a bootle of wine on a Saturday afternoon with someone but not on your own.

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StrongTeaHotShower · 22/10/2016 12:59

I'm being a facetious, alcoholic idiot. Anyone want to tell me why it would be such a spectacularly bad idea to stick dd infront of CBeebies and hide in my bedroom with some wine (or the bottle of gin my alcoholic Dad bought for me, his alcoholic daughter for her birthday Hmm. Thanks dad).

I've come so far in my sobriety this is like a bolt out of the blue. I went at the last minute to the pharmacy to collect my head meds and they said the dr hadn't sent it through so I'm stuck till Monday. This has brought on a big self medicating craving. It's just me and dd all live long day.

I'm having such a bad craving and my AA friend is away on a dirty weekend so I don't want to bother her and really don't want to admit I'm tempted to anyone else in RL.

Can anyone be arsed to talk some sense into me?

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Emmageddon · 22/10/2016 14:17

Well done for pouring the drink away, that's brilliant. Enjoy making your collage, and give AA another call if you feel yourself craving again, that's what they are there for. Tell your dad NEVER to buy you alcohol again. If he does, refuse to take it off him. Don't put yourself in this position again. Flowers

SoOverItNow · 22/10/2016 14:17

Well done. YOU are beating this.

SoOverItNow · 22/10/2016 14:18

You child deserves a sober mum

gggrrrargh · 22/10/2016 14:22

Well done!!! Smile

Dailyfuckingsnail · 22/10/2016 14:24

You are so fucking strong. Repeat that over and over.

You want to talk to someone? Just PM me. You can absolutely do this.

StrongTeaHotShower · 22/10/2016 14:25

Why do these wholesome activities take up so little time! How is it only 14:20?

She did it not me BTW!!! (My artistic skills are far worse) but wow, how red are those leaves?

To ask why it's ok to have a bootle of wine on a Saturday afternoon with someone but not on your own.
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SuckingEggs · 22/10/2016 14:26

You're ace. Well done!

I'd seriously consider telling your dad you will not see him again if he does that again. He's selfish bastard.

BelladiNotte · 22/10/2016 14:26

keep strong OP!
And what teacherbob said ^

We've got/had a few al oholics in our family and my bro. Inherited the curse. He lives in the US and was over here earlier this year. He has a 'buddie' in his AA group and emailed him in a flap one time from here (6hr time difference). He was at a dinner and there was duck with port sauce - what to do? Buddie replied immediately, scrape the sauce off, mess the meat around like you've eaten it, and eat the veg. Easy but it needed someone else to guide him. Sudden unexpected situation headfucked him, and this despite the fact he's got the 1yr. AA token in his pocket at all times like a talisman and, in fact, would be getting a second token to mark 2yrs sobriety when he returned from his UK holiday.
So, for you, I'd suggest pouring the gin down the drain (not sink) putting bleach in the empty bottle and swilling it with that then bottle in your recycling bin. Get rid of the bottle,get rid of the smell. Job done, hurdle jumped. Oh and next time you see him, for goodness sake tell your dad what you've done. You really don't need these tests, and we're coming up to Christmas..
Hope the rest of your weekend goes well. Be proud of yourself, OP , you can do this Flowers.

TeacherBob · 22/10/2016 14:27

Wow amazing :)

What does she want to do next?

Artandco · 22/10/2016 14:27

Do you have string? Or ribbon. Give her pasta tubes to thread if you have anything, or cheeriness for an edible necklace. Takes a while

StrongTeaHotShower · 22/10/2016 14:27

Eat sweets and be a dinosaur.

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StrongTeaHotShower · 22/10/2016 14:28

That was to teacher Bob!

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Liiinoo · 22/10/2016 14:29

Many, many congratulations on tipping that gin away. You are being a great mum. I hope you are feeling very proud of yourself. Smile.

ItShouldHaveBeenJessCastismas · 22/10/2016 14:30

strong. I do love a bit of Autumn; I'm far too gloomy to be a summer person! Those leaves are gorgeous.

Liiinoo · 22/10/2016 14:32

If your dad ever pulls a stunt like that again, tip it down the loo in front of him. That should guarantee no more gifts of gin!

And the collage is very colourful.

TeacherBob · 22/10/2016 14:32

haha dinsosaurs it is then
allrecipes.co.uk/recipes/tag-5445/kids-sweet-recipes.aspx
www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/collection/kids-baking

Are you close to a library?
Go to the library and get the gingerbread man story. Share it.
www.netmums.com/recipes/gingerbread-recipe

ssd · 22/10/2016 14:34

fab picture!

StrongTeaHotShower · 22/10/2016 14:35

She has decided we are going back out to the park. Joy! I suppose we can get some bits to add to the picture.

Thank you all so much for helping.
I'm still feeling grumpy and self indulgent but the craving has just about passed.

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ItShouldHaveBeenJessCastismas · 22/10/2016 14:36

You know, strong, you may not feel this right now but one day I reckon you'll look back on this moment as being hugely significant in your life Wink. It's a biggie!

ssd · 22/10/2016 14:38

thats so brilliant the craving has almost passed, now you know it can actually pass without you having a drink

well done op, really well done...not any easy thing to do or face, at all

StrongTeaHotShower · 22/10/2016 14:38

Ta Jess! I just need to get my arse in gear to leave the house now.

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Blodplod · 22/10/2016 14:38

Well done on pouring the gin away.. Massive step forward and you'll feel so so so relieved and grateful tomorrow morning that you didn't succumb to the craving/temptation. As others have said I find cravings much worse on an empty stomach and am very convinced they are linked to sugar. If things get bad eat cake!

BelladiNotte · 22/10/2016 14:41

WOW! Fab picture! Love those leaves, fab colour.
Well done strong and a gold star to strongs daughter too.
Pictures using seeds from the supermarket and nuts are nice to make also. And necklaces and bracelets from tube pasta Smile they'd make nice Christmas gifts for your daughters friends.
Anyway, back to you. CONGRATS on pouring the gin away. But you really, but really, tell your dad what you've done and will continue to do. (So no 'clever' box of alcoholic chocs for Christmas from him, either )
WHY do alcoholics do this sort of stuff?

GreatFuckability · 22/10/2016 14:46

you've done amazingly OP. I'm geuinely proud of you. My ex was/is an alcoholic and i wish he had a 3rd of your self awareness and strength for the sake of his kids.

ishallconquerthat · 22/10/2016 14:49

That's a lovely thread!

Re your meds, can't you ask your pharmacist for 2 day's worth of medication, go get you through to Monday? My pharmacist suggested it to me once.

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