'supported living for challenging youngsters' being built next door.

[getyourselfchecked]

NC for this as could be outing. This is more of a WWYD really. I am at risk of sounding like a right NIMBY and I hate that its bringing this out in me but...
I am a single parent about to move to a new house. Building work has started on a 'supported living for challenging youngsters' development right next door.
Now, I have lived in some of the most gang-riven areas in the country without a thought but in my old age and with a child I admit I am worried about crime, drugs and ability to sell house on. I love the house and everything else is good.
WWYD? Still proceed with the purchase?

This is a genuine post, I don't have many people to discuss this with and I have never worried about house values etc in my life! I am genuinely surprised at my reaction to this.

Umbungo, do you get what a class is? As in men as a class wrt feminist theory or whites wrt racism? It's similar, only it's 'normals'.
The disabilism on this thread is from comments like 'I teach sen, but I don't want to live beside them' which is utterly contemptible. I live with and besides people who happen to have disability, including my son, who sounds like your brother, only younger.

But you can't begrudge people for not wanting to have to experience that if they dont have to.

Its fucking hard work being a carer and I don't think it's ok to assume that everyone else wants to sit there at 1am listening to it too.

I wouldn't buy that house. Possibility of selling it in future is essential when I buy a property - anything that reduces that makes it a no-go for me.

I am sorry but regardless of what other people think the OP has a right to choose not to buy a house next door to any one or any thing that may prevent her from having the best possible home life.

I feel so sorry for this OP.

She's simply asked for opinions and what others would do in her position, yet the thread has been completely derailed.

Yes, many young homeless people have SN and disabilities etc but the OP isn't protesting about the building of the supported accommodation.

She's simply worried about any potential problems including the very real problem, that she might not be able to sell up and move on if/when she chooses to.

That's a real problem that many people might face, unless they're rolling in money, which most of us aren't.

She could face the same problem if it were a pub/night club/church/school or something being built.

Yet I've a feeling some people would be a lot more understanding if that was the case.

My goodness what on earth happened to this thread
Poor op!

16-24 appears, perhaps, young people who have been in the care system and are transitioning into independence. Lots of histrionics on this thread. At least these young people will still fall under the 'Looked after children' category and will thus be supported by staff.

No it's not about the OP but it bloody should be!

Instead it's full of willful misreading, sniping and sarcasm.

Hope it works out for you op, I would consider pulling out of the sale too unfortunately.

Nice derailment from some pps who jump at the opportunity to be offended though

Dixie to be honest, quite a few people on this thread haven't exactly covered themselves in glory.

That includes some who have had a pop at children with SN and some who haven't.

There seems to be a lot of willful misreading and 'agendas' around this subject lately, which causes a lot of hurt and offense all round.

I agree with a PP who said, "Everyone has their own shit that they are dealing with and no one here can tell by reading posts on a thread".

Just a few weeks ago, if I wanted to know something about a certain disability and how it's likely to affect someone, I would definitely have started a thread to ask for opinions.

Now I would rather break my own fingers than type out a question, due to the willful misreading, sniping and sarcasm that a genuine question is likely to cause.

I'm really not quite sure what's happened when my first thought would now be 'ask Google', rather than 'as Mumsnet'.

Ask Mumsnet.

My sibling used to work in a residential children's home. Some of them being almost adults. I wouldn't live next to one after some of the things that happened during that employment - although I'm fairly sure that home was out of control to be as bad as it was :(

Totally agree with worra.

Fwiw I was a homeless teen for a while. I was going through some bad shit and was behaving like a horrible nasty fucker.

I was kicked out of school and prus, we were so horrible at the pru they kicked us all out at once.

I was drinking doing drugs and fighting alot.

I would have no worries about beating another girl up in front of any young children about.
Smashed windows.
One resident of the place I stayed for a while used to Rob the houses to buy weed for us.

Yes I was depressed and my behavior was caused by being sexually assaulted and being in an abusive relationship with an adult.

The only people who gave a fuck was my lovely parents, family and childhood best friend. I fixed up when I fell pregnant at 17.

Going through all that there is no fuckin way I would live next to anywhere like where I was with my daughter.

I would be devastated if she had to witness the type of shit I used to do.

Oh and auser, I really think you owe umbongo an apology for your accusation it was really harsh with no basis at all.