'supported living for challenging youngsters' being built next door.

[getyourselfchecked]

NC for this as could be outing. This is more of a WWYD really. I am at risk of sounding like a right NIMBY and I hate that its bringing this out in me but...
I am a single parent about to move to a new house. Building work has started on a 'supported living for challenging youngsters' development right next door.
Now, I have lived in some of the most gang-riven areas in the country without a thought but in my old age and with a child I admit I am worried about crime, drugs and ability to sell house on. I love the house and everything else is good.
WWYD? Still proceed with the purchase?

This is a genuine post, I don't have many people to discuss this with and I have never worried about house values etc in my life! I am genuinely surprised at my reaction to this.

Why would i name change?!
I don't give a shit what people think about me!

So sidestepping the white noise I would agree with what chatham said upthread. Not in a bloody million years would i buy a house next to any kind of accommodation for a community of young people - troubled or not. Too bloody noisy and volatile. As many of us were ourselves. I'd also have an eye to trying to sell the house on. If it's giving you pause now, it will do the same to your prospective future buyers.

dixie the thread has moved on somewhat and the op has explained and left.

Don't delete my prick comment!!!! It was funny!!! And umbongo loved it!!!

But the op said young people with challenging behaviour. She also thinks 16 is an adult which is interesting but leaving that aside, most of those young people will have SN of some kind. So. It IS and will be a home for those with SN.

Dixie - unless I'm very naive it was nothing to do with sn, it was about teenagers... Unsupervised... Loud music... Anti social... Potential drugs/crime etc. the same way I'd feel re living near a halls of residence.

Could MNHQ please email mail me regarding my 19.03 post and 19.11 post
As to why it has been deleted
And I'd also like to know why I am not allowed to pm people but they are allowed to pm me
I'm hardly EXTREME

That wasn't at you. It was a separate sentence. If you haven't done it, then it clearly wasn't for you!

For the record I would certainly not have a problem living next to your 4 year old with asd. You might wish I did once you heard my 2 year old get going though!

@Ausernotanumber

Rebecca mumsnet.

The vast majority of any challenging youngsters who live in the home that is proposed will have a disability of some kind.

Read the thread with that in mind and the disablist attitudes shine through

Can you really not see that?

Yes, we totally can. However, the OP was asking what others would do. There was no mention of disabilities. Yes, as a society we should be more understanding and considerate but the OP's immediate consideration is for herself and her DC, as is the case with most of us and she can ask the question.

Really, we want mumsnet to be a place where you are allowed freedom of speech, where others can question each other and support one another through life's trickier twists and turns - no matter what they may be.

No one here has been disablist. Perhaps folks could have considered wider issues too and that's something we strive for but the truth is that not everyone does right now and every issue is not about people with disabilities, although we do agree that everyone should be considered and valued as part of society. Mumsnet cannot change the world, as much as we'd like to, but we can all do our bit, ideally without personally attacking and shouting at one another. We can help to sow seeds but attitudes will not change overnight and the OP started a valid discussion.

She came here (sorry OP to talk about you as if you aren't here) for advice and support, which is actually what MN is all about.

Dixie - really sorry if this thread has upset you, I hope to god none of it was meant about Sn at all, I really didn't read it that way

I wouldn't buy it.

Owllady maybe you could explain why you've accused me of name changing?

Rebecca mumsnet. No one here has been disablist is the mnhq stance?

Wow.

Back to the topic......

I think people underestimate the general stress of neighbours and how this impacts on people. In an ideal world, I'd like to live in the middle of a massive field! I'd be anxious about lots of building work going on where I'm living, especially if I was buying, but I'm aware that's just me. The supported living wouldn't bother me at all. I would consider whether it would bother other people and affect the resale value though.

No one here has been disablist. Perhaps folks could have considered wider issues too and that's something we strive for but the truth is that not everyone does right now and every issue is not about people with disabilities, although we do agree that everyone should be considered and valued as part of society. Mumsnet cannot change the world, as much as we'd like to, but we can all do our bit, ideally without personally attacking and shouting at one another. We can help to sow seeds but attitudes will not change overnight and the OP started a valid discussion.

Afuckingmen.

Finally thankyou Rebecca!!

Really well put Rebecca Mumsnet

I feel sorry for the OP who had a genuine dilemma and came for input that she was prepared to listen to.

Thank you Rebecca