'supported living for challenging youngsters' being built next door.

[getyourselfchecked]

NC for this as could be outing. This is more of a WWYD really. I am at risk of sounding like a right NIMBY and I hate that its bringing this out in me but...
I am a single parent about to move to a new house. Building work has started on a 'supported living for challenging youngsters' development right next door.
Now, I have lived in some of the most gang-riven areas in the country without a thought but in my old age and with a child I admit I am worried about crime, drugs and ability to sell house on. I love the house and everything else is good.
WWYD? Still proceed with the purchase?

This is a genuine post, I don't have many people to discuss this with and I have never worried about house values etc in my life! I am genuinely surprised at my reaction to this.

I've been nice/understanding to you umbongo on your previous threads under your previous names btw as I totally understand how things are for you

What previous names?

I at no point said or implied 'unworthy' to live next door to. I said with the students I specifically work with, I am aware of how non-discriminatory they are when they are angry or upset and I wouldnt put my child at risk by moving to such a location.
OP asked for opinions and as she also has a young child, I gave her mine. It's grounded in fact; I didnt make sweeping generalisations or claim 'all' teens who exhibit challenging behaviour would be like this.

And Owllady- I'm not talking about your daughter. As I said upthread- i'm not referring to children who don't lash out indiscriminately. Please dont think i'm automatically judging people by diagnosis- i'm not.

Why was my post deleted?

Gee thanks

Karigan most people took your post in the way you meant it

Actually. Posts. Why were they deleted?

Op, I hope you come to a decision that suits you and your family. I'm sorry that your thread has been derailed by the usual suspects.

Be assured though that the vast majority of people on here completely agree that you had cause for concern, and in your position would not buy this particular property.
Good luck with it.

Ta BeJay. :)

Ok, we've been through the thread now.

In all honesty, the biggest issue has been personal attacks - we'd really appreciate it if the PAs stopped asap, those who continue to break the guidelines will be suspended.

As was said up thread, everyone has their own shit that they are dealing with no one here can tell by reading posts on a thread. It would be brilliant if we could all learn to be a bit nicer to one another.

OP, thanks for the thread and apologies it's been derailed. Good luck with your decision.

Unbongo you have officially been accused of name changing! A little trumpesque technic that allows apparently the person you are arguing with to dismiss what you say :) I know, I have been accused of the same by a perticularly stroppy MNtter.

OP, do not buy if you can. I would tell you the same thing about a bail hotel ora night club. It is a poor investment, and you do not want to gamble on resale value or toddler safety. Now, please note that nobody is campaining against the centre. But you do not have to be blindly accepting about 2 things: where you live and choosing your partner. Too big of an impact on your life and your future.

Karigan I know a few teachers. Not one of them would want to live next door to their students. Ignore the faux outrage.

Sorry umbongo I'm probably just mixing you up with a different 'um'... Something to do with the Amazon?

Anyway I was sticking up for you, I saw nothing wrong with what you said at all

Rebecca mumsnet.

The vast majority of any challenging youngsters who live in the home that is proposed will have a disability of some kind.

Read the thread with that in mind and the disablist attitudes shine through

Can you really not see that?

@Ausernotanumber

Why was my post deleted?

Because personal attacks are against the Talk guidelines.

Thanks Rebecca

I didn't make any personal attacks. I responded to an attack posted here which has been allowed to stand.

They were deleted because you made personal attacks. I'm not sure why Umbongo has been picked on and accused of name changing either.

hate

That's ok. Thankyou

I haven't accused anyone of name changing so why the PA face at me?

Exactly what DIXIE said