Inappropriate tv at Inlaws

[Zippyette]

Whilst I was at in laws on Sunday a dead body was on the TV screen whilst my FIL watched beregerac. I said at the time it wasnt appropriate for my 3 yo daughter but FIL just responded by saying 'she doesn't look very well' to his granddaughter. I was fuming so we left soon after.
I've said to my husband that we should say something to his parents before we visit next time such as ' can you make sure you're not watching an adult programme next time we visit?' (Or something similar -ideas?!) But he thinks we should ask them to turn the telly off or over if it happens again as he doesn't want to upset them. I'm saying I'm being proactive as they're still going to get upset and feel he's putting his parents feelings before our need to protect our child. He disagrees.

So now I gave two choices - either phone them up and say something - potentially upsetting them (which I've already done when I turned the telly over to cbbc bedtime when we were visiting over the summer as it was near bedtime and I wanted something calming) or go along with my husband.
What would you do?

I always thought Bergerac's blouson jackets were quite offensive.

In fairness I always found Nettles a bit creepy.

Could have worse. It could have been CHIPS with Erik Estrada and his incredibly tight trousers.
Bergerac swoons

Stop. It's too funny

In our culture children the same age as your DD will attend wake houses with real dead bodies lying in open caskets in the front room, often people they will have known and loved when they were alive. They all seem to grow up unscathed. I doubt your DD will be harmed by catching a glimpse of someone playing dead on a TV screen.

Bergerac did think he was a bit of alright leaning against his Triumph didn't he?

I remember visiting somewhere in Jersey and my mum being terribly impressed that the hotel had Jim Bergerac's actual car on display outside.

I still have vivid memories of being upset by Bergerac in my teens....my mother & grandmother lusting after John Nettles was very disturbing.

The theme tune is stuck in my head now. :o

YABU. And hilarious

Oh bugger , it was a wind up wasn't it ? ..and I so desperately wanted OP to come back and earnestly point out how disturbing John Nettles is to the young impressionable mind... but she's never coming back is she . Well done anyway. Really made me laugh xx

Bergerac is now appearing in Poldark.

Don't let your DD watch Poldark.
Not cos it's violent, just so she doesn't get disappointed when she grows up and discovers that most men don't look like Aiden Turner

YANBU op. A 3 year old won't know good acting from bad, and they'll think a pretend corpse is real, of course they will. I wouldn't let my dc watch Jeremy Kyle or eastenders for the same reason (not that I watch either, but tonne it's the same thing ).

Will a 3 year old survive seeing it? Yes of course.

Will everything that a 3 year old can survive be good for them? No of course not.

Age-appropriate viewing in my house all the way. I think they should avoid watching it until she's gone. Surely it can't be that hard?

When my dd was 4 she was obsessed with the Film Amadeus and particularly the part when Mozart dies....
She's 19 now and has turned out fine --although would rather listen to Drakeor Kanye instead of Classical Music now

I turned the telly over to cbbc bedtime when we were visiting over the summer as it was near bedtime and I wanted something calming)

Then take DC to their room and read to them.

YANBU OP. Bergerac is a shite program.

And once again....the OP lights the blue touch-paper and retires from the thread

It's probably more damaging for a child to learn that the world revolves around them, and if they walk into a room at someone's house, CBeebies, will immediately switched on for them.

YABU. & In answer to your WWYD - I would stop being so precious and taking myself too seriously OP. She really won't have been worried by some hammy 80's acting.

But Bergerac, seriously? Are they still showing re-runs of that under the bridge !?

"Don't let your DD watch Poldark.
Not cos it's violent, just so she doesn't get disappointed when she grows up and discovers that most men don't look like Aiden Turner"...I agree if only!

But turning the TV to cbeebies isn't the only option, is it? You can switch the TV off. Or have an adult programme that isn't unsuitable for kids of which there are many, e.g. sport, cookery, strictly etc. There's no reason to have adult drama on TV around young kids.

Is Bergerac back on? Cool what channel?

YAB precious. Keep the fury for the big issues. CBBC at bedtime? You mean the blood and gore of horrible histories ?

Well exactly, Paxillin Cbeebies don't shy away from the big life issues. Mossy the dog died on Topsy and Tim recently and I was quite traumatised. It was a really sad episode, even my niece looked shocked.

Oops I better stop watching Ex on the beach in front of the children

Nothing is creepier than the little people in In the Night Garden- urgh give me the totally creeps I have no idea why!
My parents were strict with age ratings but we always used to watch murder she wrote and midsummer! Family viewing right there!