To leave his clothes on the bathroom floor...?

[Jemimapyjamas]

DH is messy. I am not. DH doesn't think he is messy, and also seems to think the mess he makes is due to how busy he is (I don't buy this, it takes 5 seconds to put a cup in the dishwasher for example.) I work part time and hence to pretty much all the domestic day to day stuff, which to an extent I don't mind however I am finding myself increasingly irritated by this...
DH has a shower and leaves his clothes on the bathroom floor. Every single time. The laundry basket is next door to the bathroom, in the bedroom. We don't live in a mansion so its not far! I have asked him to put it in the laundry and I will then wash, dry and put it away. I tidy up after DS and think that DH should be a bit more considerate (tbh he doesn't have the attitude that its MY job as much as he is just oblivious as it's not something that would bother him) and putting something in the laundry isn't a big ask to help keep things tidier.
So I have been leaving it there, just where he left it. There is getting to be a reasonable pile, it has been since Friday. And I am not going to move it and hope the message will finally sink in.
AIBU?

My ex husband displayed no indication that he was a lazy twat before we were married / had children.
He ended up typical of all the bad examples in this thread.
We are halfway through our divorce.

Good on you for getting the divorce.

If he genuinely always picked up 50% of the household work without being asked, really saw it as his responsibility, and then changed overnight when you got married - bad luck, that really couldn't have been predicted.

But I suspect, somehow, that what you mean is that he used to "help" when you asked him to do something or would willingly do a list of chores if you left him one, which is not the same thing at all.

I find it so depressing that women have such low expectations that they genuinely think they're being radical by only washing their husband's clothing when it's in the washing basket.

I don't wash my husband's clothing at all - (and, no, that doesn't mean I sort his stuff out of the basket, we have separate baskets and, no, it isn't inefficient and we aren't constantly doing half loads, I just wait until I have a full load, which doesn't take that long because I don't do any crazy sorting by colour stuff... and also saves time because I don't have to sort out his stuff from mine when it's done...)

notinagreatplace My XH was absolutely fine, housetrained, amenable, fine with chores...right up until my second baby was born and I gave up work. As soon as I no longer worked - that was it, I was Mum and bound to the housework.

As to why I had five kids - none of your business.

I agree Zaphod - there's something about not earning money which turns you (in their eyes) into some kind of under-housemaid. Me becoming an SAHM somehow excavated my XH's inner misogynist, when he seemed to have no problem accepting me as an equal partner before.

He seemed shocked and surprised when I didn't appreciate being told what to do or when he told me off. I was equally shocked, but nothing I said or did made a difference.

Things went very downhill from there...